Please tell me that I am being very oversensitive / paranoid - friends post on fb

[Hisaronu1234]

Ok so the reason I am writing on here is past experiences asking for advice/venting on this platform has always resulted in ‘tough love’ borderline nasty comments telling me to get over myself , and I naturally feel I need telling this about this throwaway social media post that I am 90% certain I am being overly sensitive about..

Cut a long story short, I rarely post on FB, but I have a super cute Christmassy/wintery themed photo of my darling dogs who I adore, and in fear of being extremely biased, they are quite possibly the most beautiful dogs you will ever set your eyes on ( 2 little white bichon Frise’) who pose for the camera like film stars, I have no children as of yet and they are unapologetically my world.

I came across this photo on my phone earlier and decided to post it as a new profile picture.

One of my old school/childhood/oldest friends, who I am not very close to now due to our lives taking very different paths ( she had 3 kids at a young age, married young, never really worked) , I’m more of a party girl/ holidays/ career (, but more of a work to live than a ‘career girl’) but we were quite close when we were kids, and know each other’s families well etc, have not necessarily fell out just kind of drifted apart, she would probably say I don’t bother with her , but I will argue it takes 2 to stay in touch and I did make efforts, (PS we are both 30).

Anyways, about an hour after I changed my profile pic, she then posts a selfie of her with her puppy who is a cutie, which is a lovely pic, however I couldn’t help but notice there was a status on the profile pic that read ‘seeing as we seem to be at the age of having pets as profile pics, ill start steady with this one’’

I cant help but feel it was a dig towards me, go on MN community do what you do best and tell me to get over myself/grow up ETC.

It sounds more like a nice acknowledgement of your post: "Aww let's post pics of our pets!"

I voted YABU because you have not posted the pic of your dogs here.

Picture of cute christmasssy dogs plaease!!

I think it possibly was a bit of a dig, but don’t worry about it.

It's really healthier in life to not take things like this personally - it's actually the real route to madness to go around seeing really minor pointless things as 'digs'

Not as diggy as all the digs you managed to fit in one post about her.

Kindly OP, your ego is speaking here.

It wasn’t a dig, it was probably inspired by your profile photo - or maybe someone else’s! On average the algorithm shows us only posts from 10% of our Facebook friends. So don’t assume she saw your update.

Anyway, sounds like you have some insecurities to address. Enjoy your dog. And try not to let social media influence your feelings and emotions.

She sounds like a twat. When I got married, I posted a couple of pics of the wedding. Then one of my husbands friend’s wives posted a close of picture of her on her wedding day. They had been married for years, it wasn’t their anniversary or special day. She just wanted a piece of the action. I just laughed and thought I’ve clearly bothered her with that.

Or... maybe she was feeling nostalgic for her own wedding day?

I agree with the pp who said it must be exhausting to always assume the worst motives from other people! Not everyone is thinking about you, bothered by you, out to get you or whatever other nefarious things you imagine.

You're overthinking this OP

I might post a message on her page " 😂 copycat! Beat you to it. Changed my profile pic to my beauties x days ago".

I would assume you were absolutely bonkers if you said anything like this. For all you know 5 of her other friends have changed their profile pics and she hasn't even noticed yours! 😆

Why do you care?

honestly who gives a flying fig about other people's profile pics or their comments about them?

I dont think its a dig and I have anxiety i would laugh it off and like the post especially if u have ur dogs as urs. Its funny lighthearted nothing sinister in it.

Just do you and as long as you like your profile picture of your cute little dogs, what does it matter what some old acquaintance thinks, good or bad? Don't worry about other people's petty aggressions and please don't let her get to you!

It doesn't sound like a dig to me! I'm a bit shocked by the poster who said it made her sound like a twat, though!😮

Show us the dogs

I don’t really use Facebook, but I assume she has several hundred ‘friends’ on there. Seems a bit self-indulgent to think anything is about you.

Also, you clearly don’t like her so why do you care what she posts.

You're totally overthinking it.

She's just following suit and made the comment to acknowledge that she's following suit.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who can find hidden meanings that aren't there tho

1. if you think 3 kids under 5 isn't work, you are wrong
2. bichon frise aren't cute

You are self absorbed and self obsessed.
Be thankful that this is your biggest worry today, and then get over yourself.

What's hideous about them? The American styled ones look a bit strange but if they have normal hair cuts they just look like every other poodle/doodle type dog.

What sort of person insults a sweet little dog? And yes, I have two of them snuggled up next to me...

the amount of kids she has, her work status and when she got married are totally irrelevant to your question about posting puppy pictures on fb.

Ignore… it could be a coincidence. If not, she has a very small life, it seems.

You have main character syndrome OP. Any idea how many people post their pets online every single day? She may not even have seen yours or been thinking of yours at all.

so you really think you’re THAT important that out of 100s of Facebook friends she must be talking about you? I have at least 10 Facebook friends atm that have their pet as their profile picture.
if this is how you carry on then im pretty sure its not your lifestyle choices that have made you drift apart and more that you’re an insufferable tit

I don’t think it’s a dig OP. Sounds like it’s something she might have wanted to do before now and now she’s seen yours and thinks she can. Maybe it’s a gentle poking fun at hers and your own ‘demographic’ but if it was a dig I don’t think she’d have went ahead and posted her own pic.