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I didn’t leave the left. The left, left me.

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GenerativeAIBot · 11/11/2024 14:09

Stop me if you have already heard this the last few days, I am trying to make sense of how I feel about Trump and other right leaning wins:

“Woke” issues being pushed to where they have been, has empowered the right by giving them something real and legitimate to campaign against. Something more than their usual transparently false bogeymen.

In general, Authoritarianism, compelled speech, no debate. Specifically men in women’s sports, in women’s changing rooms, unfettered immigration, being asked to ignore the evidence in front of our eyes.

This is happening across the world, Italy, France, Germany, USA, UK.

I remain entirely committed to progressive taxation, a social safety net, collective bargaining, workers rights, public schooling and health services as well as the rights of everyone to live contented, unmolested lives.

I reject identity politics in their entirety. For example, I consider terms like “Woman of colour” to be the epitome of divisive, racist, sexist thought patterns that seeks to infantilise people and move their locus of control from internal to external. Disempowering people and making them victims.

I didn’t leave the left. The left left me.

Reasonable?

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GenerativeAIBot · 12/11/2024 09:32

Tandora · 12/11/2024 09:31

All you are being asked to do is accept the reality of trans subjectivity and try to understand it.

You are not doing either- you are becoming angry because you don’t understand it , and assuming you know what it means when you clearly don’t (eg “wearing a dress and calling yourself sandra”).

"trans subjectivity"? WTF does that mean?

Tell me how it's not wearing a dress and calling yourself Sandra exactly?

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Tandora · 12/11/2024 09:32

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/11/2024 09:30

No I don’t need to start with that and I or anyone else doesn’t have to accept it. As it’s not true. They. Are. Men. Transmen can take any issues up with men.

To be honest I don’t really care how they (men) feel, I wouldn’t want anyone to be unfairly treated. They just need to stay out of sex designated spaces and sports.

To be honest I don’t really care how they feel

exactly. This is the issue. Thank you for acknowledging it

GenerativeAIBot · 12/11/2024 09:33

Tandora · 12/11/2024 09:32

To be honest I don’t really care how they feel

exactly. This is the issue. Thank you for acknowledging it

No - it's you putting the feels on men above the rights of women!!

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Littlemissgobby · 12/11/2024 09:34

inamarina · 12/11/2024 09:20

I really don’t think pp is suggesting all immigrants are bad.
Lessons are great, but there also needs to be a willingness to integrate into the host society (and I say that as an immigrant myself).
Because Sweden was mentioned in a previous post - I lived there for a while, and there were free language classes offered to all immigrants.
As I said, a great approach over all, but it didn’t prevent the issues in places like Malmö.

You see what you have done. It's presented a very nice and reasonable discussion. To this debate, you have come across as reasonable. I actually don't think this particular poster is doing it in a good way. I think I don't actually think they've never been to the left.If you want my opinion.

Tandora · 12/11/2024 09:34

GenerativeAIBot · 12/11/2024 09:32

"trans subjectivity"? WTF does that mean?

Tell me how it's not wearing a dress and calling yourself Sandra exactly?

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The experience of being trans.

GenerativeAIBot · 12/11/2024 09:34

Tandora · 12/11/2024 09:34

The experience of being trans.

which is what exactly?

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Tandora · 12/11/2024 09:35

GenerativeAIBot · 12/11/2024 09:33

No - it's you putting the feels on men above the rights of women!!

This is the divisive “us versus them” thinking that leads to the election of fascists

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/11/2024 09:36

Tandora · 12/11/2024 09:31

All you are being asked to do is accept the reality of trans subjectivity and try to understand it.

You are not doing either- you are becoming angry because you don’t understand it , and assuming you know what it means when you clearly don’t (eg “wearing a dress and calling yourself sandra”).

This has already been answered.

It’s like someone standing in front of me with a blue pen, insisting to me that it’s red and chastising me and calling me names because I won’t believe its red too, and you on their shoulder also insisting that I believe it’s red and if I don’t then I’m denying their existence, their reality, if they say it’s red it must be red blah blah.

It’s still, and will always be, a blue fucking pen.

Littlemissgobby · 12/11/2024 09:36

Alexandra2001 · 12/11/2024 09:23

Can only speak as i find... which is the right wing posters on MN are the ones that first resort to condescension and insults usually when they run out of argument....

Unfortunately, Tory supporters cannot get away from the simple fact that they have been in power for 14 years and every single thing in the UK is broken....... roads, public building, fire safety, social care, dentistry, AE, GP's, NHS waiting lists and most importantly they managed to do this whilst taking debt to GDP from 65% in 2010 to 100% in 2024!!! it was 88% in 2020....

They of course will shout about Covid and Ukraine... very true, these both had huge impacts on the UK but they had 10 years prior to either of these and everything was screwed in 2020 too.

They also gave us Brexit, now shown to be a disaster, have trebled migration to levels never before seen, record numbers not in work, record numbers off sick.

You ve failed utterly, which is why you lost soooo heavily in July, a defeat which may well see the end of the Tory party, as more and more moderate Tories turn to LDs and the ERG supporters to Reform.

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Here here plus I am nos thinking this oister that stated was never to the left after claiming that about immigration etc

GenerativeAIBot · 12/11/2024 09:36

Tandora · 12/11/2024 09:35

This is the divisive “us versus them” thinking that leads to the election of fascists

no it's not. If it is be specific and tell us how.

Mens feelings should not trump womens rights to be safe, dignified, to play sports on a level playing field.

You tell me how mens feelings are more important than those things? You clearly think they are

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EasternStandard · 12/11/2024 09:37

If someone who sees no separation between women and some men cannot answer where they would place a trans woman in a prison as below they know it's over yes? It's too hard to answer as they KNOW there is a separation.

So what next?

I think more will be lost due to the lack of ability to listen to women.

minionette · 12/11/2024 09:38

ThePerkyDuck · 11/11/2024 21:28

What I don’t understand is why are so many people concerned about trans people? As an example in USA, statistically they make approximately 1% of USA population. Even if some view them as threat, it’s a really small number, compared with, as an example, 16% of children in USA that live in poverty, which I think should be talked about and addressed, but it’s not. Microplastics and PFAS pollution is another example that affects 100% of population and it will continue to get worse yet it’s also not talked about. Worse, deregulations will aggravate the problem.

It's a convenient way to agitate the naturally intolerant/hard of thinking and get them on board the patriarchy train without them even realising.

Tandora · 12/11/2024 09:38

GenerativeAIBot · 12/11/2024 09:34

which is what exactly?

Thank you . The first step is asking the question (with genuine curiosity - which requires an open mind) . The next is to seek out the information to answer that question. There is an absolute tonne of information on this that can help.

Littlemissgobby · 12/11/2024 09:38

GenerativeAIBot · 12/11/2024 09:25

I would like to give you an award for angry typing.

So you're not actually debating in good faith, are you? And I think it's pretty evident to people that have got a brain here and yes, i'm angry because you are wasting people's time pretending you on the left, then going doing speaking points that would be quite happy in a party like reform

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/11/2024 09:38

minionette · 12/11/2024 09:38

It's a convenient way to agitate the naturally intolerant/hard of thinking and get them on board the patriarchy train without them even realising.

Yeah. That’s it.

GenerativeAIBot · 12/11/2024 09:39

minionette · 12/11/2024 09:38

It's a convenient way to agitate the naturally intolerant/hard of thinking and get them on board the patriarchy train without them even realising.

or we can be concerned about more than one thing at once? Maybe you move your lips when reading but the rest of us can handle multi tasking

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GenerativeAIBot · 12/11/2024 09:40

Littlemissgobby · 12/11/2024 09:38

So you're not actually debating in good faith, are you? And I think it's pretty evident to people that have got a brain here and yes, i'm angry because you are wasting people's time pretending you on the left, then going doing speaking points that would be quite happy in a party like reform

no. Honestly if you too some time to type clearly, with less typos, more paragraphs and less stream of consciousness, you might make more sense.

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Tandora · 12/11/2024 09:41

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/11/2024 09:36

This has already been answered.

It’s like someone standing in front of me with a blue pen, insisting to me that it’s red and chastising me and calling me names because I won’t believe its red too, and you on their shoulder also insisting that I believe it’s red and if I don’t then I’m denying their existence, their reality, if they say it’s red it must be red blah blah.

It’s still, and will always be, a blue fucking pen.

It’s like someone standing in front of me with a blue pen, insisting to me that it’s red and chastising me and calling me names because I won’t

Nobody is asking you to say a blue pen is red.

All we are asking you do to is accept the reality of trans subjectivity and seek to understand it before you get angry and dismissive. You are assuming you know what it means - eg denying the material reality of the body- trans people understand the material reality of their bodies, they are very painfully aware of it- they are not asking you to pretend it’s other than what it is.

BunfightBetty · 12/11/2024 09:41

Tandora · 12/11/2024 08:08

I’m glad you have conceded at least that there are important social and cultural elements that drive sexual and gender based violence, and it’s not something that’s coded into one’s sec chromosomes.

these aren't currently needed because of some theory-woo

Can we please stop calling support for trans people names like “theory-woo”? It’s really unpleasant and gets us nowhere. Trans people are people. They are not a “theory”. This is not a superficial or trivial subject.

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I suggest you go back and read more carefully, because nowhere did I say that sex is unimportant. It’s you who keeps insisting this, while you prioritise theory over fact.

Nowhere do I say that trans people are not people. And I will not stop talking about the pernicious effects of fashionable theories and what can only be described as woo-woo, relating as it does to tenets of faith and belief and not fact.

Tell me this, @Tandora: knowing as you do that allowing men to be treated as women and enter women’s safe spaces makes women and girls much less safe, that women in these situations are 14 times more likely to be attacked, why do you still insist on prioritising trans women over biological women? Why does biological women’s safety not matter to you?

EasternStandard · 12/11/2024 09:41

Tandora · 12/11/2024 09:38

Thank you . The first step is asking the question (with genuine curiosity - which requires an open mind) . The next is to seek out the information to answer that question. There is an absolute tonne of information on this that can help.

@tandora is your work this field? ie it's your livelihood

I can see why you will be very wedded to this, but your non answer on the prison set up shows you see the issue.

So what next? We see the collapse of paid for services?

Perhaps people should have listened to women earlier.

GenerativeAIBot · 12/11/2024 09:42

Tandora · 12/11/2024 09:41

It’s like someone standing in front of me with a blue pen, insisting to me that it’s red and chastising me and calling me names because I won’t

Nobody is asking you to say a blue pen is red.

All we are asking you do to is accept the reality of trans subjectivity and seek to understand it before you get angry and dismissive. You are assuming you know what it means - eg denying the material reality of the body- trans people understand the material reality of their bodies, they are very painfully aware of it- they are not asking you to pretend it’s other than what it is.

"Nobody is asking you to say a blue pen is red."

Asking someone to say a man is a woman is exactly the same thing as the pen.

Males are male, females are female. there are only two sexes, nothing in between, you cannot change from one to another.

you can put on a dress and call yourself Sandra, go ahead. You are not female if you do so.

Can you see this argument? Even if you don't agree?

"they are not asking you to pretend it’s other than what it is."

They literally are though. Men in women's sport, being compelled to call the women, allowing them into women's changing spaces, this IS BEING ASKED TO PRETEND IT'S OTHER THAN IT IS

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AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/11/2024 09:43

Tandora · 12/11/2024 09:41

It’s like someone standing in front of me with a blue pen, insisting to me that it’s red and chastising me and calling me names because I won’t

Nobody is asking you to say a blue pen is red.

All we are asking you do to is accept the reality of trans subjectivity and seek to understand it before you get angry and dismissive. You are assuming you know what it means - eg denying the material reality of the body- trans people understand the material reality of their bodies, they are very painfully aware of it- they are not asking you to pretend it’s other than what it is.

That’s just word salad.

Why don’t you answer if you think biological males should be able to take part in women’s
sports, be in women’s prisons, rape crisis shelters, changing rooms, provide intimate care to women…

NonPlayerCharacter · 12/11/2024 09:44

Tandora · 12/11/2024 09:41

It’s like someone standing in front of me with a blue pen, insisting to me that it’s red and chastising me and calling me names because I won’t

Nobody is asking you to say a blue pen is red.

All we are asking you do to is accept the reality of trans subjectivity and seek to understand it before you get angry and dismissive. You are assuming you know what it means - eg denying the material reality of the body- trans people understand the material reality of their bodies, they are very painfully aware of it- they are not asking you to pretend it’s other than what it is.

Nobody is asking you to say a blue pen is red.All we are asking you do to is accept the reality of trans subjectivityThat is asking people to accept something blatantly false, like a man being a woman or a blue pen being red. You order people to accept subjectivity while refusing to accept reality. Refusing to even allow people a separate space in addition to yours that reflects reality. And refusing to answer any questions that expose the nonsense.Can't fix the fucked formatting, sorry.

minionette · 12/11/2024 09:45

GenerativeAIBot · 12/11/2024 09:24

Christians REALLY FEEL that Jesus speaks to them, that it's real and factual. Clearly it's still not true.

I am not denying what trans identified people feel - I am saying - that it's a FEELING not a FACT

And that you trying to FORCE me to say it is FACT is what has, effectively, got Trump elected.

It backfired on you and all trans identified people will suffer because of your over reach

I see, not only do trans people not have the right to exist according to you, but now religious people too are just 'wrong'.

I thought the left were supposed to be the intolerant ones shutting down differing views/beliefs?

BunfightBetty · 12/11/2024 09:45

EuclidianGeometryFan · 12/11/2024 08:37

Do you not see that it’s a problem to suggest that male violence against women, and women’s subjugation to men is coded in biology? As if it were a natural phenomenon rather than a social problem? do you not see that that type of reasoning is the entire basis of the patriarchy? That it’s the natural and order of things that men have power and women don’t?

The "natural order of things" is a concept that needs close examination.
Humans are primates. We are basically a type of animal. So to look at what is "natural" it is helpful to look at other primates.
Yes, their complex societies are built around sex differences. And the males dominate. The strong males also dominate weaker males.
And "top" females also dominate "lower" females.
Primate society is inherently hierarchical, and very frequently violent.

But just because human behaviour is "natural" do we think it is correct or moral or the right way to behave? Absolutely not. Humans are not merely animals.

It is "natural" for a tribe of primates to abandon a disabled baby, or fight against another tribe invading their territory, or ostracise an individual who looks different, etc. This does not mean that ableism, racism, xenophobia etc. are acceptable because they are "natural".

Just because the patriarchy is rooted in biology, doesn't mean we accept it. We fight it, just as we fight ableism and racism and ageism.
But to fight patriarchy, we fight the social manifestations of our biological heritage. We don't fight the facts of biology and pretend that humans can change sex.

Absolutely.

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