To think it is personal when people ignore your messages?!

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I feel it’s so rude. No matter what is going on with my life I never leave a message on read for days. I have never left a message on read or ignored. Even my MIL who I do not get along with I respond to her messages even if it’s just a thumbs up or heart. When I see people post similar threads of feeling hurt when they’re ignored it often gets dismissed. Surely a feeling of being ignored is a natural response? if you have a healthy self-esteem and tons of friends then I can see why it doesn’t bother people but I do feel ignored. Especially when I can see the same people are very chatty and vocal on group messages do have time but choose to ignore me. I know someone will come along and make ne feel it’s my fault but I am feeling really low at the moment. Connecting with people I find so difficult anyway but then to be ignored when I do try to make plans for a coffee etc. get ignored.

I'm late tho this chat.

When a woman is alone, she may count more on friends and may need more communication. That shouldn't be looked down upon as needy or clingy.

Women who have a family life, kids, a job, a husband and multiple obligations can take all this for granted. Later in life when kids and husbands are gone, they can find themselves in a lonelier situation and need more attention from friends, like the women they used to despise.

That’s completely different, OP, as replying a thought on a forum has no backwards context or forward context for either person. It’s a response in a vacuum. The sorts of messages from friends and family most often include plans, in-context chit chat, in-context opinions, etc etc. It takes up way more brain space than responding to something on a forum.

I work full time, have a 3hr round commute, have twins, currently house reno with builders here every day, work a second evening job a few hours a week, have pets, and a vulnerable parent. DH also has all these stressors.

So yes, deciding what on half what about these term plans? do I want these concert tickets in 2 months? Do you want to come to mine for Christmas? Where do you want to grab dinner in two weeks? Are you free for so-and-sos leaving drinks? Do you think I should dump Nigel? Etc etc etc … there is not room in my brain as soon as the message drops, especially when there can be multiple a day.

And any ‘friend’ who takes offence to that and makes it about them can take a hike.

Sometimes it takes more energy than you have.
Sometimes it never gets to the top of the list.
Sometimes it genuinely gets forgotten.
Sometimes people have different ways of showing they care.

Sometimes people are just busy. Sometimes they just don’t know what to reply