Boyfriends kink

[Kneebonefuture]

So kind of a rude one, so I won't go into specifics. And he's not my boyfriend, he's an old fling who has been a friend for 15 years, and we were kind of thinking of getting together, but no idea how to word that.

I've always known he had a slightly kinky side, nothing mad just a little bit more adventurous than me. However he has recently revealed a kink/hobby? That i never knew about, he seemed totally ashamed and called himself a loser, a weirdo and dirty. Its really not my thing, but I don't like to judge, so just said it wasn't anything to be ashamed of and laughed it off. Hes since seemed to take that as a green light that I'm also into it. Constantly referring to it, bringing it up and fitting it into conversations that hold no relevance. And even sending photos. Should I just call things off with him, as it doesn't appear we are a match or just tell him I'm not into it, how would I even word that? Please no nasty comments, I'm a really shy and introverted person and get confused with boundary setting occasionally. Thanks 😊

Is it harem pants?

You must be dreading meeting up in person. Also he knows you aren't interested in his dress up - if its 1 or 2 in the earlier list, whats against the law to dress up as? A police officer?

Before it goes any further tell him you aren't interested in x and will never do it.

I really badly don't see how meeting up can happen now, hes made it seem like its something that's going to happen between us and its a big no from me.

All joking aside, he really needs to be under no illusions at all that your boundaries matter, and that he cannot dictate to you what he wants you to tolerate, so that he can get off on it.

Even if his 'kink' were the tamest, most harmless vanilla thing ever, that still doesn't give him any right whatsoever to sexual (or any other) contact with you if you don't expressly and freely consent to it.

I'm pretty liberal and we've seen a range of "experiences" here. Only you know if you are comfortable with it and you've rightly said you will tell him to knock it on the head. Be very clear, do not say thanks or sorry. Say something like; "Hi please don't send me these sorts of photos. It's not my cup of tea". It leave is open for a conversation if you want it but your kone is drawn. His reaction will tell you everything. If he persists leave this man from 15 years ago well in the past.

I mean this kindly, but where do you go that you keep meeting these weirdos? It's kind of scary to think that these bellends walk amongst us.

I guess he is into restraints on himself, so either cock ring/harness/gimp wear type thing

Know it

dresses up as a baby!!!! Wants you to feed him and change his nappy?

"Let them eat cack!"

Had to be a tutu.

A huge bollock fetish? Induced by a subcutaneous saline infusion. It's a thing, allegedly 😬

Oh for the love of puppies, why ??? Why are things like this a thing??

@ACapybaraNamedFred let's face it. Anything the OP has suggested is going to be tame to what's been suggested!
And yes, it's a thing 😳

Euwww! (not envy)

You've met men, right?

Yes but none of them were into kink except one and that was just dressing like a lady. I told him my feelings about that!

he dresses as trump and you as Vance....I would be a hard no on that myself.

Come on, OP, spill the beans!

Inflating testicles with saline? Buuuutttt....... whyyyy?! I saw a TV programme a few years back about a poor American man who had some kind of extreme health condition whereby his testicles just grew absolutely enormous. Considerably bigger than a football, iirc - a lot bigger, actually, I think. He had to wear a jumper as trousers and had great trouble walking and doing pretty much anything easily that most of us take for granted. Why anybody would ever actually choose something like that, just for sexual kicks, is insane (and likely very dangerous).

I've also heard on the grapevine of men who get off on women who inflate their bellies with air - not sure how they'd even do it, though; maybe by putting the hoover in reverse and sticking it in one or more orifices? Gross - and must be very harmful.

Not forgetting the classic MN thread that haunts me to this day, which featured a man (milkman? postman?) who went to a woman's house each morning and lay underneath her glass-topped coffee table to watch avidly and 'respond' accordingly whilst she squatted and curled one out into a Pyrex bowl on top of the table.

If you have a man for whom seeing you in a sexy matching underwear set in the bedroom is the pinnacle of his wildest desires, you probably need to at least count your blessings to an extent!

Inflating testicles with saline? Buuuutttt....... whyyyy?!
Have you seen the price of space hoppers these days?

Next you'll be telling me that they also get their willies hugely extended and fitted with a spring, as their only realistic travel-based solution to the rocketing costs of buying pogo sticks!!

I cannot boak hard enough at this concept

Why are so many women unable to tell men that they aren't into something? How can you let someone you can't even have a conversation with put his dick inside you?
Is it fear? Is it the fear of what men will do if women say no?

Tell this guy in no uncertain terms that you are not into whatever his kink is and are revolted by him 1 assuming you are and 2 sending you photos. If he can't stop himself doing that, block him.