To want to just avoid people as much as I can until I die now

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Sure there are still some great people out there but most are awful stressful thick rude shovey mean argggg

Friends can still come to me but no outside

Agreed. I know there are still some good people around but on the whole they are dreadful.

There are days I want to live on 100 acres with my sporting dogs and zero people around. I find I feel that way when I've been to Walmart.

What IS it about Walmart in the US that entices poor and negative human behaviors?

Are you dreadful or is it just other people?

This is what I was wondering too. If everyone on here is wonderful then people aren't awful are they.

Exactly.

You just need to cut out the negative people and surround yourself with only the best ones.

No

What a sad thread. Don't let a few dickheads make you feel like this. People are the sane as they've always been. Some are idiots but mostly they're good, in my experience anyway

The negative people on this thread seem to be making that task easy for everyone else.

I am not awful, inconsiderate or flaky. But I do know I am not everyone's cup of tea thanks to certain traits.

Is it about people being awful though or really just about them not bringing anything positive to your life?

I know nice people. Do I necessarily want to spend time with them? No. I had a group of work friends. Nice people, we'd meet up outside work sometimes. But God all they talked about was work (we do an intense job). I tried so many times to talk about other things but it would be a 5 minute convo then back to work stuff. It also didn't help we didn't have anything in common other than work. I used to come back from nights meeting them and DC would say "did you have a nice time" and all I could really say was "it was ok". They're all lovely people, can't say a word against them but I realised it was boring. Then covid happened and we've not met up since but I don't miss it.

I don't want/need to spend my time in company just for the sake of it. I'd rather do something i enjoy alone because I find myself fun!

Yeah, I’m getting more and more like this.

isn't that just a group of people you don't enjoy being around though?

what if it was a group you really liked being with, and lived nearby, wouldn't you want to spend more time with them?

surely this is more about the fact that it's more difficult to socialise due to the way things are now. less community, more diversity, it's more expensive, logistically people are scattered, busier, stressed, there is more entertainment at home, we can interact digitally, so it's more convenient for a lot of people just to be by themselves.

i don't think that's particularly healthy and there appears to be a negative cycle where more and more people become disconnected from each other.

I keep bumping into people I know when out about, truly lovely people but I still wish I didn’t have to stop for a chat. I generally like people but I am just so wrung out at the moment. So yes.

You know OP, it's the current fashion to say this now. But none of us could survive without over people.
Every single thing you do. Eating, taking a dump, even the device you're typing this one is the result of thousands of people working together.
So whether you like it or not we need each other.

Even those who claimg to live 'off-grid'... well, they need fertiliser etc for their plants, farming equipment... can't make ALL of it themselves.

I would love to live the life my grandparents had. In the middle of nowhere in a tiny cottage. Radio. No telly. Big range and a cat.

They used to play cards or games most evenings or do crafts.

Granddad could make anything out of wood or metal and Gran could knit, sew, crochet and cook. They grew most of their food and kept hens.

They didn't even have a lock on their doors.

I'd kill myself if I had to live like this.
Though I would like the cat. Many cats.

@Anisty It’s an online forum and any platform has a higher percentage that has people with issues. Some are just naturally shy and others are like that because of circumstance. If people are having to spend time with negative, unkind, intrusive people or are very short of time it’s understandable. But people seem to celebrate the fact that less contact is needed with everything online.

Personally love meeting new people. The one issue I have with people that don’t want to mix at all is it may negatively influence their children.

I'm getting old. I love people watching but not people chatting.
Wish they'd all bugger off.....

Absolute bliss....

I’m normally a people person but not today. 5 camper-vans parked in my drive didn’t get the day off to a good start. In the end a tractor was involved to remove them so I could get out. I’m peopled out today with their stupidness and rudeness.

My DD is 21 and was mostly housebound for around 5 years, but started uni in September so she's basically "out" in the world. We just went to Waitrose and as usual, full of utter entitled dickheads pushing and shoving, entirely over 40s (and most over 60!) - that's in a small English country town type place. She asked me on the way home why are people like this? I suppose because they think they can be? But as I say mostly older people (I'm 60+!) so nothing to do with "youth of today". I told her they're just fuckwits and the art is to learn to ignore them, not get out of the way for them unless it suits you etc. It's an art to be cultivated - but she shouldn't have to. (Either that or shop at Lidl ...)

I, on the other hand, have a face that can stop a bus so I never have to worry about twats like that. But all joking aside, it is worrying and breaks my heart to see my caring lovely DD being treated like this.

The thing is you can play games and cards in the modern world too and keep your telly. I am part of a games club. And my friends are part of crafts clubs, knitting clubs, cooking clubs.

I have said this before but I dont want to only see DH and DC till I die ( other family scattered)..Do you all just have nicer or more interesting families? 😁

I used to be really sociable, out as much as I could when I was young and then later in life I liked having visitors and guests, liked cooking for people, be it lunch on my days off or evening meals at the weekend. I liked going to gigs, the cinema and out for meals but these days it all costs so much and i can't hack crowds and people's rudness and unpredictable behaviour, If I do go to town to eat out with friends we go earlyish as things can get quite volatile as the evening wears on in the city I live in. As for having people over, I find all the cleaning and meal prep such a hassle now. In many ways I miss the person I used to be, i changed a lot during lockdown, I had to learn to live without company and I have yet to unlearn it and welcome company again

An island full of animals and no people would be nice.