Page 24 | To want to just avoid people as much as I can until I die now

OptimismvsRealism · 2024-11-09T14:03:42+00:00

Sure there are still some great people out there but most are awful stressful thick rude shovey mean argggg Friends can still come to me but no outside

smithsgj · 17/11/2024 09:14

drivinmecrazy · 09/11/2024 15:31

Couldn't agree more.

And it was how I largely lived my life until I was recently diagnosed with cancer.
I'm now surrounded by people. I let them in because I thought that's just what you did.
Relying on the larger community.

I was just saying to DD1 this afternoon that I'd kept it just between closest family.

I'm overwhelmed and frankly peeved with all the messages and people reaching out. However well intentioned.

I liked it much better when it was just DH and my two DDs.

Felt much safer.

Now I've let people in I'm just disappointed in them.
They get bored, have had their fill of my illness and go merrily on their way back to their perfect cancer free lives.

Gosh that felt better saying all of that!!! 😂

Very glad to hear being able to say it here helped you.

I initially thought the OP had cancer or something, and that that was the reason for the thread.

Clairp1973 · 17/11/2024 09:39

thnk god I’m not the only one’!!!
100% AGREE!!

Petitchat · 17/11/2024 14:11

MintSwan · 16/11/2024 18:07

I have literally had it with people and I hope I die sooner rather than later.

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Sad x

Oldwmn · 17/11/2024 14:21

Anisty · 09/11/2024 14:45

Really?!!

Is this some sort of joke thread?

I love people. They are fascinating. I love people-watching and i love talking to people. Everyone is interesting.

I'm an old person though. Is this what technology has done?! Or are you all old as well?

I'm with you on this. People are people, just the same as they always were. I'm sick of all this 'These days, everyone/thing is awful' nonsense. You've got one life, live it!

cardiffcatarrhalchoices · 17/11/2024 15:34

BetterInColour · 16/11/2024 20:42

I am not as fond of being a hermit as some on here, but I do think over the years you get tired of people who aren't your people. I wouldn't end up round at a neighbour's house socialising as I never socialise with neighbours as I like to be on 'friendly but not friends' terms, so when they invite me over I just make an excuse or don't go, but still chat when I see them. I get not wanting to make new friends past a certain point.

I do find people funny though and like having little moments with people over silly things. There are some wankers out there, and whoever said driving is stressful is right, but I have found even on the road, more people are friendly and thank you or let you out than not, it's just you remember the one nasty person. I once counted to check and had 10 times more positive encounters than negative ones, same in shops, everything.

It sums up exactly the problem, to have in the same thread

some who have met so many bad folks they are in despair to ever meet anyone nice
others who naively think their present happy bubble with last all their life, + reject getting to know anyone new.

The entire nasty hard unfriendly idea of only wanting to cope with a limited maximum number of friends, hurts unnecessarily, takes even more chances away from, is part of the oppression of, the folks who have kept meeting too many nasties. Or of the shy or autistics - of all types of folks with a struggle to make enough connections.

MintSwan · 17/11/2024 18:09

fedup33 · 16/11/2024 18:20

That doesn;t sound good, hope you're ok

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I'm not, but thanks anyway.

BetterInColour · 17/11/2024 23:31

@cardiffcatarrhalchoices I don't entirely agree, because if you are pleasant with the neighbours, chat for 5 min occasionally, pop over any spare veggies from your garden and are nice, then it doesn't matter that you are not friends. I think there's a big distinction between close friends, more distant friends, and people who are in your life that you are nice to but are not your friends. I don't have time for more close friends as I have not got time for the quite large amount I already have, and end up feeling guilty about that, but I hope I'm not negative or nasty to everyone else. There's a lot of value to be had in pleasant moments of recognition and interaction in all kinds of situations that aren't deep friendships, I value those anyway.

NorthSouthLondon · 18/11/2024 09:25

OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 18:54

Ps there's no bigger cunt than a cunt who says "mm maybe I'm not the cunt maybe YOU are"

No. I've got lots of friends, close family a nice relationship history. The problem isn't me.

Oh gosh, did anybody replied to you calling you a 'cunt' out of the blue?
Just because they disagree with you?
That's so awful, you are probably right then that the world is full of awful people who are best avoided.
They are probably making a void around them anyway, if they interact like that online with no pressure, who knows what they do and say in real life.
Just ignore them all and enjoy your many friends and family instead. It is great you have so many, also considering that you mentioned how you hated people very much already before lockdown and all of that.

Lentilweaver · 18/11/2024 09:28

NorthSouthLondon · 18/11/2024 09:25

Oh gosh, did anybody replied to you calling you a 'cunt' out of the blue?
Just because they disagree with you?
That's so awful, you are probably right then that the world is full of awful people who are best avoided.
They are probably making a void around them anyway, if they interact like that online with no pressure, who knows what they do and say in real life.
Just ignore them all and enjoy your many friends and family instead. It is great you have so many, also considering that you mentioned how you hated people very much already before lockdown and all of that.

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No. Nobody did. It's OP who has been using the word " cunt" for anyone who doesnt share in her misery.

notzen · 19/11/2024 14:30

TheTidyBear · 09/11/2024 16:32

Is anyone on this thread willing to admit they're one of these "awful people"

Or are they all just out there somewhere?

I think a lot of them are on other MN threads! 🤣

notzen · 19/11/2024 15:16

SabreIsMyFave · 09/11/2024 19:53

Exactly! 😆 Utterly batshit thread! 🤓

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… and yet you’re here, mocking. Why?