To want to just avoid people as much as I can until I die now

[OptimismvsRealism]

Sure there are still some great people out there but most are awful stressful thick rude shovey mean argggg

Friends can still come to me but no outside

Waiter hater 😂

On a random note, I had a great waiter the other week in Chiquitos. He was Lithuanian and was taking the piss out of me for not being able to decide what to order. I hope he actually got the tip I gave and not management.

Me too!

Same. I would not have told anyone other than family is I'd have known the cold cap would mean I'd keep all my hair.

Yeah but all that stuff about wanting to avoid people until I die and starting threads to seek validation is to do with the OP isn’t it? So not really a response to me.

I just find it exasperating when people don’t accept that people in general can be hard work. Try working in retail if don’t believe me, you’ll meet a lot of the “hard work” contingent that way.

But I’m not saying I hate people just I find it all more trouble than it’s worth now. I do think that’s down to my age though. I was nicer when I was younger.

@pointswinprizes

I just find it exasperating when people don’t accept that people in general can be hard work. Try working in retail if don’t believe me, you’ll meet a lot of the “hard work” contingent that way.

I don’t find people hard work in general though.

People in very specific sorts of interactions can be dicks; retail obviously doesn’t bring the best out in people and I work in a customer facing business too and yes sometimes when people are paying you they can behave like dicks because capitalism teaches us that when we are paying for stuff we get to throw our weight around. A lot of my clients can be utterly unreasonable.

But I see that as the nature of the transaction not a reflection on people as a species because I choose not to extrapolate “people in very particular circumstances can be unreasonable” to “people are always hard work”. It’s largely about how you choose to see it.

If you don't think people are hard work you are probably the hard work.

I have had a terrible cold, maybe covid, for 2 weeks now and have barely left the house - and am loving it!

This! People can be infuriating at times but they're also fascinating!

@OptimismvsRealism

if you don't think people are hard work you are probably the hard work.

I see what you did there: you’re trying to reverse the arsehole paradigm.

Trouble is it just doesn’t work that way around; finding everyone you meet to be “hard work” is a fast road to pissing everyone you meet off because you are not giving anyone a chance, so why should they extend the same courtesy to you?

I’m sure you know very well that treating people as “hard work” isn’t working for you but choose to doggedly double down on it and of course that’s your right.

But I will ask again, if you genuinely hate people so much, why do you want the approval and support of this from a large random group of hated people? Your story doesn’t stand up.

I don’t find people hard work in general though

Thats good. I do.

As you can see in the thread a lot of people agree with me

This space is for us, not you

I'm old but I'm with this! Even my old friends are flaky - people I've known for 50+ years 😢

I hope you weren’t trying to be funny OptimismvsRealism. Misanthropes aren’t really meant to crack jokes

@OptimismvsRealism

This space is for us, not you

This space is for everyone. The clue is in the name. It’s called Mumsnet, not Misanthropy.org. It’s a discussion thread and you sought opinions so you’re getting opinions, some in favour, some opposing. That’s how discussion works.

You don’t get to police the thread or cleanse it of non misanthropists, sorry.

Have they changed?

I completely agree. I have a real compulsion to live somewhere very isolated where I don't have to deal with people on a regular basis.

Is this a joke? You don't get to dictate who posts what and where on Mumsnet. Throwing your toys out of your pram because @Thepeopleversuswork posted a post that hit a raw nerve is not a good look. You sound petulant and bratty.

Agree! Just back from a holiday abroad where we had our own roof terrace for sun bathing, and just stayed up there reading and chilling, not mixing with anyone other than evening meals at local small restaurants. Absolutely heaven.

I like people, I find them fascinating. If you feel like the above, it's unnatural. Maybe you need to change something in your life - your job, your friends, your contact with your family.

Life shouldn't be this miserable. You're probably overstressed and overwhelmed.

You sound upset... Perhaps because you know you're part of the problem?

I can deal with the world in small doses (1 hour a week max, preferably 1 hour spread over a month) the only saving graces with outside are dogs and cats and occasionally I will converse with their humans

They're clearly not fascinating. They're very predictable and most of them are not interesting chat.

I want my head to spin around and my eyes to come out on stalks, like him. That would get rid of most people.

I think maybe it is best to avoid others. I'd hate to think you upset them.

@OptimismvsRealism

You sound upset... Perhaps because you know you're part of the problem?

Hang on…you say you want to go through life without ever interacting with people, you say people stink and you try to tell certain sorts of people they don’t have a right to post here and @SabreIsMyFave is the problem…OK then….

So you anyone who is open to the idea that not all people are bad is part of the problem?

Your logic is all over the place and I think you know this.