To want to just avoid people as much as I can until I die now

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Sure there are still some great people out there but most are awful stressful thick rude shovey mean argggg

Friends can still come to me but no outside

Where do you encounter all these people who suck? Is it work?

The only people I encounter regularly on a day-to-day basis (beyond colleagues) are friends and family. Other than that I mostly engage with shop assistants, waiting staff, occasionally people who ask for directions. A lot of people do start conversations because my toddler waves and smiles at them.

All of those are brief exchanges and 99% of the time they’re polite or actively nice! Are people in similar situations being consistently rude to you or something?

Yes but @BetterInColour the OP doesn't intend to get old.

I'm getting on in years too, and I don't think like that. If I can't get out once a day and see people I would go mad! I'm not a super social person, but I like the small day to day interactions with others and a chat with someone I know. What a sad outlook on life some people have, and where on earth do you live with all these horrible people surrounding you?

I’m all for this. On the way to my mums (dementia and terminally ill) just picked up some food from a supermarket, man shaking his head and tutting at me. Rolled the window down smiling said something wrong?! Had an argument he was telling me it was one way even though it clearly wasn’t (2 sides to the road, blah blah) just thought why, if I’m causing no one any bother, and it absolutely was one way!!!!! Aaarrrghhhh. Yeah pretty done with people.

I wish I loved the Human Race;

I wish I loved its silly face;

I wish I liked the way it walks;

I wish I liked the way it talks;

And when I'm introduced to one,

I wish I thought "What Jolly Fun!"

I’ve noticed this with my lovely dad. He was told had 6 months to live, and that was 6 months and 2 days ago.

He has help at home only, as he declined further treatment and so the doctor and nurse come to him. He tells me every day how thankful he is, how nice people are and how every cup of coffee with my mum is the best.

I agree with this but I’m not sure why you stop at retail and hospitality workers. Isn’t it just as important to treat everyone with kindness and generosity, assuming the best (or at least nothing negative) of them unless they give you real reason otherwise?

No you won't. There are still a few of us out there. I'm just about to walk to the library to read yesterday's newspaper (not in the UK) and then do my usual hour long Sunday walk after that. I take what I want from technology and ignore the rest.

Solidarity from likeminded people… Very different to having to interact with undesirables in person..

I avoid people as much as possible because I'm a private person and cannot abide inane chit chat. However I am pleasant and engage with others when necessary. I'd also give a helping hand to anybody. Most people are OK. I'm now an elderly person and find a lot of people in my age group are great cacklers (laughing at nothing), nosy and gossipy, but not all. You don't live with them, when you're in your own home you can please yourself and nobody can come in without an invitation.

People amaze me, in a good way. Like the love and care I see people giving to children and other vulnerable people.

Not buying it.

If you were happy in your own little bubble, you wouldn't need to come on here and seek connection. You made this entire thread to get a dopamine hit from bonding with others.

People who are happy in their own little bubble don't need to label "people" as good, bad, awful, etc. It's simplistic and serves no purpose, other than for you try and feel good about yourself by putting yourself above others.

Yep - this!

That's a better world to me

OP, some of your references sound like you could be suffering from depression. Could you consider that possibility? It can affect how you feel and view the world. And unfortunately, vulnerability can attract unkindness, as we see from some of the less supportive responses here. So that can make you feel even worse. It might help to talk with someone you know personally, or to read up on depression. And know that you are definitely not alone trying to deal with all the headaches in our world! Best of luck.

I have no need to seek solidarity on here from random strangers, I have that from people in my life. Funny that isn't it.

This thread makes me think that some people live in a strange place. The world's not perfect, it never has been but surely it's not as bad as many seem to think.

Yup

totslly get it

i lent a friend a £145 top when we climbed a mountain. She became almost hypothermic and the guide thought she was going to get airlifted off the mountain. She asked my husband and me to take her the 7 hour journey home

on the way home she’s shivering. I work in search and rescue so I understand hypothermia. Half way home I was so worried I phoned a friend.

I realise she’s wearing wet clothes. So we stop and I let her borrow my joggers which were £55 and this rab jacket which my husband had brought me as a gift. I adored it but I’d only managed to wear it once but it was all I had.

she’s now refusing to give it back. She said it was in her car (we climbed this mountain in march….)

she gave me my joggers back but she said I’m so sorry I’ve shrunk them. I got them back and said errr. No you haven’t? She said oh thought I had. Oh well. Can I have them then?

insaid what why?!/!; and she said well because I like them

now she told me my rab jacket was on her car. We went out to her car and she feigned surprise Anne said oh I think I took it out to do the washing.

the next week I saw her some 11 times and I asked each time. She said that I was annoying her and I needed to grow up ffs. She’ll get me the top but not now

oh. Wanna know why I wanted the top back?

because I’m just about to fly abroad to see my father who has just been diagnosed with some rare type of cancer…. And I desperately needed it because the weather turned.

if she told me her mum was in hospital with cancer and she needed the top I’d love heaven and earth for her or replace it

im sat here in absolute tears to think this is someone I chose to be a friend:……I literally am in tears everytime.

its fucking shit that I desperately needed it to go see my dad. It’s because we can only take hand luggage and not goods up so flat.

gutted.

people devastate me. Everytime.

I used to live high, high up in the mountains.
Rarely saw another human being.
Birds, deer, chipmunks, squirrels were my only companions.
The air was clear,
The sky was blue.
The weather was perfect.
It was absolutely the best time of my life.

Same. My kids my husband my mum his family

friends treat me like shit and I let them

its fucking horrific.

Yes

this.

100%. We should have like a friends group.

where we literally support each other and become friends. All those that morally are the same

I am honestly so devastated by recent friendships

i just fucking give up.

Isnt there a phrase that goes something like:
”If everyone you meet is a wanker - YOU are the wanker”?

I mean Im kind of antisocial myself but it’s not because I think everyone is awful, that’s ridiculous. I’m just lazy and quite like my own company.

What's stopping you? Some of those things are easily available. I have a landline, a calendar, a diary. I read newspapers, send postcards, write letters, I even use a film camera. If I want great TV I watch DVDs. No-one is forced to use technology all the time, you can pick and choose the bits you use.

@happybluedog your dad is making the most of the time he has, with cups of tea, with familiar people and with the strangers that he needs to care for him. By the way, my relative's carers were some of the loveliest and genuinely compassionate people I ever met. People who work in hospices are the same. I find that when given the chance, lots of people are better than you think they will be. If they are not, I agree side-stepping them is the right move.