To want to just avoid people as much as I can until I die now

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Sure there are still some great people out there but most are awful stressful thick rude shovey mean argggg

Friends can still come to me but no outside

This thread is a bit like one of those MGTOW groups - we're not going to bother with women. So they then go on the internet to talk about women and how they're not bothering with them. So you wonder, why don't they just get on with their life and not think about women.

Similarly here we have people who don't want to bother with people, who come on here to interact with other people, about people. Why don't they just get on with their happy life away from people then. Hermits who live out in the mountains with no access to services are just getting on with things away with people, they're not seeking company on an internet forum.

This "movement" probably needs some term of its own, it's quite a concerning development.

It’s important to let the people know you won’t be interacting with the people, how else are they going to notice.

Spot on! 😂

It's not really... The problem is it's quite hard not to be forced to interact with people (see eg the back to the office cult)

It would be a brilliant world if we could choose exactly who we interact with

I think tech will support this in my lifetime 🤞

This is it. If the OP finds everyone else bland and stinky then she is the common factor. I am not a social person and only have three friends I see separately about once every three months but I still like people. Even the ones I work with and the 100 a week I see each week in my stressful job.

If you only have three friends I don't think you're in a position to be lecturing me on popularity

But who actually are you interacting with that you haven’t chosen??? If you WFH this is surely largely already your world?

I thought you didn't want to interact with us stinky people?

Unpopular view and will send a lot of people into a frenzy but I was never happier than during lockdown so I totally get it. I cannot bear the majority of people. Work is the worst, having to spend time and be pleasant to people who are just hideous, so stressful!

People on the bus and the train and on pavements and cycling at me on those pavements

Shop assistants and waiters

Etc

Although an echo chamber of people who don’t want to interact with people might seem absurd, welcome to internet. The world is your oyster.

I hated lockdown on principle but I miss everyone else staying safe for sure

I loved lockdown too. And WFH has been one of the best things that ever happened to me. I still think the vast majority of people are totally fine though, and even the unpleasant ones are interesting.

Find a job with 100% WFH. They do exist: DH is in one.
Order all your groceries and other stuff online
Dont talk to your neighbours
Decline all social invitations or just say "I forgot to reply'. It's what everyone does these days.
Slowly ghost the friends you want to drop
It's easier than ever before to do this!

I'm sure they'll have a meetup at some point.

Best place is a hotel so they can all be freshly showered and wearing deodorant.

People are the worst!

I find most of my colleagues toxic to be around. I hate going into the office but thankfully only have to do it 1 day a week and have started sitting well away from the toxics which helps!!!

but people are the worst

send me off to a remote cabin with my husband and kids any day

If you had written 'am I unreasonable to want to work from home for ever, I have a lovely husband and a small but select group of friends?' I'm sure most people would agree that's reasonable. I don't think not having the capacity for new friendships is weird once you get to a certain age, I don't as I don't have time to see the ones I've already got. I don't feel the need to be anything more than polite with everyone else, so I don't think this bit is especially demanding, but I quite enjoy a smile, a door held open and generally feeling life is ok, but I'm not making anyone smile back.

Go about your business, OP, I don't think it's that much of a hermitage to WFH with your husband and socialise with a few friends!

The tradition of 'emparedamiento' or voluntarily walling yourself into a cell as a nun, for ever, now that's hardcore isolation. I've always been intrigued by that, in a half horrified half fascinated kind of a way.

My job is 100% WFH ,(in practice, they asked us to go in a day a week and I said no). But I find you still have to engage with people if you want to eg exercise.

Dont go to restaurants. Just order at home and avoid the pesky waiters! How dare they wait on you.

Are most of those people being rude to you? Cycling on the pavement aside! Waiters especially are usually super friendly

Please don't come to my gym,we're all highly supportive of each other.

Thanks.

Exercise at home with Caroline Girvan!

This is reminding me of Sandra Bullock in The Net.

There’s trillions of us.
There must be a few out there that you haven’t met yet that you’d like, at least one..

You can exercise at home, or go in the middle of the night if you like, I know someone who gets up and takes her dog out at 5am as they are aggressive to other dogs and she can't relax.

Go out with dark glasses on, headphones. Get everything delivered.These things aren't even unusual any more.