...to object to the form of address that dd's grandfather (FIL) has chosen for himself?

[EyeballsintheSky]

Just to clarify, I am pretty sure I am BU but I just wanted to see if I was right. I don't want to be!

FIL has decided he wants to be called Papa. DH and I hate it with a passion. I think it's poncy and is something more suited to fathers than grandfathers anyway. DH hates it because it originated with the mother (his brother's wife) of his 4 year old niece and is therefore, her name for him not dd's.

DH has taken it up with his mother and was told it was up to them, not us.

I should point out that dd is only 15 weeks and, when asked, professed no preference either way.

What d'you think?

It is the name, Moyasmum. But, having said that, there are so many people here with Papas that it is starting to seem less unusual. I still don't like it much but, in all honesty I wouldn't dream of stopping him using it. DH asked and was told to butt out so case closed I guess.

Plus, as I've just remembered, my mother asked to be grandma, instead of the nanny that we always had so I can't have one rule for one just 'cos she's my mum.

Thanks for all the responses though. I never knew there was such a variety!

Well, my other half is German and is 'papa', the only reason I find it interesting that the granfather wants to be called it. It refers to someone's father. I am also 'mama', rather than 'mummy' incidentally....
My DS1 just called us that, so we must have been using those words.... fine by me.

I agree it depends on the pronounciation as to whether it sounds poncy or not. I would think it does not in our case. I hope(!)

As for the names of grandparents, you can't decide that, neither can the grandparent really. Up to the child when they start saying words. Depends what comes out their mouths.
Oma and Opa (german for grandparents) are easy enough for him, but my father is now 'fanfa' (I assume until he learns to say grandpa) and his grandma, my stepmother, DS uses her first name.
I guess that must be because I and DH refer to her as that. Maybe that's my fault. I do consider her to be my sons' grandma, but my mum died 10yrs ago, and I find it difficult to get the word 'grandma ' out my mouth, without tagging her name on the end.... Ugh, I'm a terrible person.

No idea what will happen with DS2. Don't rightly care. As long as they don't call their grandparents shitface, then let them do what they like. Years down the line, anything is the norm.
(at one point about 6mths ago, German grandpa was being referred to as 'aa-aa'- which means poo!

tagging my stepmother's name on the end, obviously. Would be seriously weird if I was trying to use my mum's first name(!!)