...to object to the form of address that dd's grandfather (FIL) has chosen for himself?

[EyeballsintheSky]

Just to clarify, I am pretty sure I am BU but I just wanted to see if I was right. I don't want to be!

FIL has decided he wants to be called Papa. DH and I hate it with a passion. I think it's poncy and is something more suited to fathers than grandfathers anyway. DH hates it because it originated with the mother (his brother's wife) of his 4 year old niece and is therefore, her name for him not dd's.

DH has taken it up with his mother and was told it was up to them, not us.

I should point out that dd is only 15 weeks and, when asked, professed no preference either way.

What d'you think?

My dad (DD's grandad) wants to be known as Grumps but that's what he wants so that's what we're going with.
Let the man choose the name he wants to be known as by his own DGD. If your DD doesn't like it she'll find her own but try to humour him.

My dad is Grumps, his dad is granddad and his mum is Nan C (C for her surname). My mum is Nain E (E for her first name and so she can be different from), her mum is nain and her dad is taid. Just food for thought.

LUUURVE this thread, made me feel all squishy inside (or is that the wine?

NA- I reckon mimi should be made to stick, its so cute and I reckon most people would love to be a mimi Likewise with kittywise's lo's names..I think Grandee is quite cute too
PMSL @ Zippi
My dd has a complex array of nanas, grandmas, grannies etc and a messy family with a mainly ALL female cast:
She has me, my dp.
My mum, dp's mum, dd's parental grandmother,dp's dad's widow
Third Generation are:
My maternal Grandma, my paternal Grandma and Dp's paternal Grandma
ALL without male partners except my Mum and me!!!

Oh yeah and YANBU Eyeballs, but I dont't know how to go about handling it, great sat night thread though (if that cuts any mustard?) HTH

it is cute but is he going to want to call her mimi when he's older? and then she won't want him to revert to nan which is what most of the kids around here use. think we'll continue using both as and when.

Yeah s'pose, but mimi IS a great name

It's fine.
Indulge him.
Papa is easy for a little one to say.

i like Gram, Grammy, Nona, Nonie, Nanma, Pa, Pappy, Poppa, Grumps, Gramps, Grampy, Gramps, Grumpy, Poppy, Pops, Pop, Granda, Grandy, Grandpapa, Papa.

My father calls himself Papa and it suits him. To me, my grandparents bagged the most grandparently names and I can't imagine my parents adopting these names. It seems wrong, somehow. Luckily my in-laws use names that I didn't called my grandparents so we all seem quite happy with the chosen names.

My mother however wants to be called Mamgu but my resolutely english husband can't get his head around it. Even my brother's children who go to bilingual welsh schools ignore her wish and call her gran. She is very miffed by it all.

llareggub - What does Mamgu mean (I'm assuming its welsh)

My mil insisted on nanny which i think sounds like a goat. But dcs do still call her. Both mine and dp's dad are grandad but to distinguish between the two dp's dad has always been "grandad with no hair" because he hasn't and my dad has!!!!

It is the welsh word for grandmother. At least it is in south Wales, it could be different up north.

regardless of what you he's called he is the grand-dad. promote the relationship whatever he's called

Hey, stupid people! Since when did it become some wierd primitive alien practice to give people the common courtesy and respect of referring to them by the names they prefer?

Message withdrawn

i would love dp to be papa to our realms of futuristic grandkids

dont see issues

i loved my darling Bamps but he is gone now

Imo it isn't up to him what he's called, she is your child and it's up to you.

My daughter started calling grandparents Gaga (granddad) and Gaggy (granny) and it's kind of stuck.

Why not let him call him what he wants to though.

Might find it hard to get cards with this moniker on it. MIL wants to be known as gran and it's seems a right bother to get something with other than grandma or nana on it, especially when buying from the local supermarket rather than a proper card shop.

My favourite grandfather was Papa.

My children's grandfather's (unfortunately all deceased over the last eight years) were Grandad (DH's father), Grandpa (my father) and Papa (my stepfather). Both my mother and MIL want to be called Grandma, so that's what it is and when speaking of them, we differentiate by adding their first name, but when speaking to them, they are just 'Grandma'.

Personally, I think it's up to the grandparent what they want to be called.

is it less the name (although you dislike it), and more the "you dont get a say in it " tack?

i had a papa and he was great - my dad is now papa ( i call him papa smurf) to my ds, mum is gran. on dp side it is yaya and bopo as they are greek.

maybe papa is more scottish than english - nothing unusual or weird about it at all.

i think it depends on if it is papa (as in nicole) or papaaaaaaaaar!!! - cos that is poncey

but like others have sadi your DD will copy whatever he is called by others

Hallmark really are shaping society. Does it matter if you can't get a card with Grumps on it?

Your hallmark card will be in the bin after a week. Your home made card with Grumps on might be stuck on the wall for years (well, that's what my parents do)

It's neither, stoppin. It's Papuh