ExH brought his dog in my house without permission

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ExH just dropped off his dog in my house. For me to look after, even though i had said no to looking after him. The dc let Exh and dog in when i was out. They love that dog and of course had no knowledge of anything.

ExH is gone now for two weeks. Abroad. He just walked out and took off to the airport, leaving dog behind.

I've got two dc and two cats and work long hours. The cats have never spent a night/day alone in the house with this dog. He is kind and mellow, but a large breed. Size of a wolf.
I've contacted a dog shelter and might have to go to go through rspca.

Posting to tell someone. This is just one of many many ways he always finds a way to use me or control my life. I didn't want any of this. And now im left here calling shelters (which im asked to pay for), calling womens aid, calling rspca, figuring out how to do this without upsetting the dc, texting exH to sort out care if he doesn't want me to take this further, posting here for support, trying to figure out tomorrow with sorting out the kids, my work, other stuff, business meeting and my actual day job. Honestly?! Wtf!!!

Rtft before preaching.😗

@Theunamedcat Im not being a doormat. Ive said to exh has til tomorrow before i log this case with rspca/police. Ive already been in touch with them and asked to hold the case. Whether they do something or not, i don't know. Kennels wont take him. I'm not the one to be cruel to animals. That doesn't make me a doormatt. It makes me a human.

Why would she let a fluffy husky dog sleep in her kids room. That's going to be awful fluff everywhere

Best solution would be if you can find out which daycare the dog usually goes to and book him in there with ex being billed at end of month.

Failing that, do you have a local dog owners facebook group? If someone posted on our local group with a story like yours, I am sure there would be no end of dog lovers in our community who would volunteer to help out. Bonus points if you can find a big, huge dog-loving guy who won’t be shy about telling your ex what an utter dick he is when he does show up for his dog.

And report him everywhere you can (including the police, this is abuse towards you)so he knows that this is utterly unacceptable. PP’s previous posts about protecting and distancing yourself so he can’t harm you and your kids in this way again are spot on. I’m so sorry that you are having to deal with this.

Again, grow up please.

I assume the dog is a family dog and the children help look after it too when at exes? If you take the dog to a shelter you’re essentially giving it away.
i would look after it this time, and change your locks and tell your kids to not answer the door to him unless you give them permission.

Again, rtft before preaching please.

Stop the negativity while she's trying to make hard decisions in real time.

She's showing her children how to be resourceful and compassionate in the face of unjust behaviour. That's not being a doormat. It's great parenting IMHO.

Huskies don’t normally shed. Are her kids allergic? I don’t think she said they were, I suggested it as the kids are used to the dog/share it with their father I assumed. Whereas the cats aren’t.

my dog moults like crazy but at this time of year I let her in the bedroom as she’s terrified of fireworks.

It's not "being a doormat" to not want a dog (or your DC) to suffer because your ex is being a cunt, it's called being a decent person. As this thread has extensively made clear, it's obviously not as simple as just saying no at this point, she still has to do something with the dog. OP has been put in a really difficult situation, and it isn't her fault, and there's nothing shameful about not wanting to stoop to her ex's level of callousness. Stop victim blaming.

Huskies absolutely do normally shed!

"Huskies don't normally shed" Really? You clearly know nothing.

They DO shed, they shed LOTs, especially if its moulting season when they blow their coat.

Noted, I’ll read the full thread right now from the start. And to the OP: I apologise profusely for my completely useless comment and “preaching” 🙏

I look forward to reading all your future posts that quote everyone else suggesting Kennels or other “completely useless” ideas.

Please stop quoting me now Soily.

You can't leave that poor dog 9 hours. He would need someone to take him for a walk but as he's not your responsibility and you know he won't pay he has abandoned the dog.

I would be sending him a picture like this telling him that you found a nice homeless man who had agreed to look after the dog in exchange for a place to stay for 2 weeks. Stage a photo of some disheveled man sleeping in his bed (ideally wearing his clothes).

Don't think you've quite understood how message boards work! But we can talk about my hourly rate, if you're that interested in commissioning me to post.

@Scentedjasmin thank you 😄 I love this

@HolyPeaches @SoiledMyselfDuringSomeTurbulence how about you both pack it in and stop derailing the thread with your stupid argument

Brilliant!

Absolutely this!

Re: doggy daycare. Dc said dog goes to a friends house when exh is at work. They don't know which friend and where. Exh lives in a flat. No garden. 2nd floor.

Oh Soily, bless you 😂

The notifications from your quotes are stopping me from reading the full thread don’t you know.

But no, it’s okay, I’m not interested your hourly rate. Thanks though, appreciate it.

I’m more interested in you stopping quoting and notifying me so I can relax with a cuppa and read the full thread. Because that’s what you want me to do right?

Fyi, you can change the settings so you don't get the notifications. That way, you won't be distracted when you're lecturing other people whilst having no idea what you're on about.

If it were me I would put it in kennels. He can pay when he gets back. Definitely don't let yourself into his house uninvited. Also if you're out for 9 hours you can't just leave the dog there. What a controlling thing to do, he sounds like an asshole.

Could you put a post on Facebook or local site saying “lost dog found on street, I have it here but looking for owner, I can’t keep it etc”

someone nice will volunteer to look after it, scan it, board it, they always do, and in two weeks he’ll be publicly shamed, plus there’s kind of a trail to where it’s gone?