Would you be disappointed if your teenage daughters wore barely any clothes posing on social media

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Or do all the teen girls do this now?

I have a friend with two older teenage daughters, gorgeous looking girls, known them since they were little. Their Instagram pages are full of nearly naked pics, very provocative poses and videos. In the bio they are digital creators.
In all honesty, I find it a bit disappointing as they were smart, driven girls when younger. My dd is still young and i’m not being judgmental as who knows, she may go the same way, is it bad to really hope not and hope that I can
steer her in a different/better direction?

I would also point out the very real possibility of catfishers using their images and creating fake dating profiles.

I'd firstly say that at 19/20 they're too old for their mum to lecture them on life choices and think they won't potentially cut her off, even if she doesn't agree with them.

I was always told "don't post anything you wouldn't want your mum/gran to see" and I think this also expands to boss and/or that creepy guy you really don't like who will also access your socials.

I get the allure of posting at that age if you feel you look nice - I have the figure of a young Kelly Brook BUT as I studied Law, any "ooh I feel nice today" (I was a very chubby teen until 16 and didn't have a boyfriend until 18) was squashed by the fact a prospective employer might come across my bikini photo I posted from my halls one Saturday when I was bored. Some girls don't do such obviously "strict" professions to have that looming over them.

Even now at 32, I'm in the best shape of my life and I'll send my fiancé a photo rather than post online if I'm feeling good. I don't want anyone else to see it anyway and AGAIN, once online it doesn't stop someone's creepy husband/boyfriend or an old work colleague you forgot you followed from staring at you. Not for me personally - not very demure, mindful or cutesie BUT only thinking about the gross male gaze, I'm all for women's rights if they wish to do this, I was just giving my personal experience.

I'd firstly say that at 19/20 they're too old for their mum to lecture them on life choices

No way. Under my roof and dependent on me financially, their life choices are absolutely my business. I wouldn't lecture, I'd just tell them straight!!

I have a daughter. I would not be disappointed (although I'd definitely give some friendly advice to keep her safe). I went through a phase like this myself (and I'm well into my 40s now, so it's not just "kids today"), and found it very empowering. It has never affected my intelligence, ambition or career, and I'm not lost or sad now that I can no longer rely on my looks to win male approval (which was never the point for me). I know sex positive feminism is old-fashioned and a bit of a dirty word here, but that has always been my brand of feminism.

I try and keep my daughter away from screens and social media for other reasons.

Yes i would .
I would like to raise my daughter to think thats she is more than just a pretty face for people to look at online

My DD17 barely posts any pics of herself, unless she’s at a show with a bird (she’s a falconer) so no they don’t all do it. She shows me some pics of her old friends and I’m shocked 😳 and I’m not easily shocked, I happily take my girls to semi nudist beach etc on holiday so they see lots of shapes and sizes confident people. But the lingerie pics posing I wouldn’t be happy at all. Youngest is only 11 and I’d hope she has the same attitude…

Indeed. But apparently having ambition for one's DDs to do more than relying on their looks is judgemental ...

Completely agree with you.

This.
Of course they can choose. But isn't it depressing how they have been programmed from a young age that the measure of success for a woman is her sexual desirability to men

My teens don't thankfully. They don't really "do" social media, not interested in clothes other than sport wear. Don't do make up. Dont seem to feel peer pressure at all.
Just happy being young and doing the things they are interested in.
I am one of those "out of touch" parents though who didn't let them have a phone until mid teens. And it does make a difference.

I think the girls think the boys are admiring their videos and posts, but in my son's year group most of the boys are just rolling their eyes.

I might agree with you .......... if young men were also posing photos in similar manner, wearing skimpy clothes for a night out etc

It's a pity you endorse this kind of inappropriate scrutiny and judgement of other women but whatever 🙄

At 19 and 20 they are both old enough to have left home / gone to university / be married / have children / etc.

They are adults.

not quite ' teen girls ', in a few months or so time the 19 year old won't even be a ' teen '

Their parents should have put a stop to this and explained the risks they were taking when these girls were younger. Now they are over 18 not much parents can do.

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The first this you mentioned about them is 'gorgeous' but it is not just you i notice this often when people speak of girls and women is their looks first

My beautiful daughter
My stunning sister

Why is that the first think people mention then seem surprised when these females do something around looks?