Would you be disappointed if your teenage daughters wore barely any clothes posing on social media

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Or do all the teen girls do this now?

I have a friend with two older teenage daughters, gorgeous looking girls, known them since they were little. Their Instagram pages are full of nearly naked pics, very provocative poses and videos. In the bio they are digital creators.
In all honesty, I find it a bit disappointing as they were smart, driven girls when younger. My dd is still young and i’m not being judgmental as who knows, she may go the same way, is it bad to really hope not and hope that I can
steer her in a different/better direction?

Wearing skimpy clothes doesn't make a woman stupid or lacking in ambition, any more than it means she is 'asking for it'. Clothes are clothes.

I believe women should be able to wear what they like, yes

But I also believe that we don't make these choices in a vacuum. IMHO, many girls and young women wear revealing clothes not cos they really want to, but because men tell them it's attractive (cos men want to stare at them.....)

They're adults for a start

And you are being VERY judgey tbh

Talking about how they were bright, driven, high achievers like by posing online they've suddenly become ditzy and unambitious. To do well online as a "creator" you have to have some ambition. And just because someone is "posing in their undies" doesn't mean they are thick. That's a disgusting stereotype

No, not all teenage girls are doing this. Yes, you can encourage your daughter to have a positive self-image which isn't based off what others think. But that may well involve her choosing to pose online.

So you believe young women can't make their own choices?

Decades of feminists have made real sacrifices in the hope that the generations of women that follow would have a better life. This generation seems to want to throw that all away just so people can click on the like button.

I'd be more concerned if my daughter did this. I wouldn't want her to be attracting thousands of men looking at her body.
But yes, in general, I find it disappointing that so many young girls and women do this. I feel like we're going backwards in some respects. Women should be valued and respected for their minds, their contributions to society - not their tits and arses.

What a judgey and small minded attitude

Plenty of people in the beauty industry have a good work ethic and ambition

Alternatively

These are young women who now the freedom and control to make the choices they wish and trying to tell them they're insulting the women who came before is just insulting in itself

Each generation of women have rebelled against the "standards" of the last. The mini skirt for example

It's so normal now and no one calls it out. I would it was my dd gently of course. My sil is in her 40's and has always been like this. On FB this week it's a picture of her in skimpy underwear kneeling with her legs apart on her bed. I don't want to see my sil posing like Christine McGuinnes in her undies. I know its wrong but I just see her more and more as a airhead with each one. She has even posted pictures of her and bil in bed with no clothes on all sweaty presumably after sex. It's nasty. I need to bleach my brain. I keep on silencing her. It's like seeing your mum or best friend uninvited getting sexy. I don't want to see it. But unfortunately FB and insta etc are a cess pit and people buy into it. Not sure what validation she is after. I keep getting tempted to post "cracking tits sis" 😄

Parents need to stop putting their kid's photos on social media in the first place.

Regardless of how much clothing the teenagers are wearing, their parents have taught them that 'likes', 'love hearts' and 'Gawjuss hun' comments are important.

If they feel they need to remove clothing to get more likes than the next person, they'll probably do it.

It's makes me grateful I don't have daughters, if that is what they aspire to.. half naked sexual poses giving the old letches what they want and showing the next generation of young men that women are objects to perv over.

I am one of those parents who fought very hard to stop my daughter from putting these types of photos on Instagram. Societal pressures mean, you give your child a phone to fit in. That child then sets up social media without your permission, you delete it all and you check the phone religiously, she sets it up on a friend's phone so you can't see, you then lose all control, so you agree to social media on her phone so you can monitor it. Mostly it's good but she slips up now and again with those sorts of photos, she was hell bent on doing this and said everyone was doing it. Yes, I could have taken her phone, I often confiscated it for a week if there was an infringement but if I'd have taken it completely, I am not sure where the rebellion would have ended. Those of you who say you are the parent, remove the phone, either have children too young or you have a child like my youngest who is not bothered at all by doing this.
It's not all crap parenting. My younger child wouldn't dream of it at 15.

I was disappointed. I pointed out that online is for ever and they should be more circumspect. I made them take anything dodgy down.
I was accused of slutshaming. I put my foot down. I was a horrible mother/stepmother. I stuck to my guns.
As each of them left uni and went into the world they understood that it wasn't them; it's the world, and I was keeping them safe.
4 down, 1 to go.

Do you have teenagers or children that are young adults, what kind of teenager were you - you sound like a compliant one. As far back as the 1950s films like Rebel without a Cause explored the conflict that exists between generations. Shocker - young adults don't always do what Mummy and Daddy would like and that's a very healthy part of growing up and fleeing the nest.

Fair enough!

These girls will graduate to Only Fans. Excellent! Everybody wins! Especially men in their 50s.

It's a vile and repulsive trend, the look is normalised as a result of porn.

When I was a young woman I wanted to be perceived as sexy and attractive because society and culture taught me that's the way in which women are valued. Same with young women today, but unfortunately the mainstream view of what's perceived as sexy and attractive is now influenced by porn rather than 80s pop stars.

It's wrong to blame parents for this societal issue.

100%

I saw the Facebook profile picture of my daughter's childhood friend (from baby group) the other day. Ie the picture that is visible to the whole world not just her 'friends'. She is wearing a lacy top which is cut away at the sides and very low cut so basically like a skimpy bra at the top and you can see the sides and top of her breasts. She's just turned 18. My daughter and I were both appalled. I've no idea how her mum feels about it but if it was my daughter I would definitely be saying something even if she's 18. I see girls walking around in practically underwear or with the bum cheeks showing under skirts/shorts and yes I do judge.

@Ednoreilojal That is nothing compared to this

This is so spot on.

Ah yes
Because 20 year olds just playing with the concept of their sexuality and desirability will only ever become sex workers and won't ever change as they grow up and reevaluate.

Just like all women who exposed ankles became whores and women who wore trousers became lesbians.

"In all honesty, I find it a bit disappointing as they were smart, driven girls when younger"

"They are lovely looking, but they also were so much more than that"

What a horrible way to talk about young women. They ARE so much more than their appearance and its possible to take those types of photos while being smart and driven.

Women have been using sex appeal to create some power and income for themselves since the dawn of time and many women have utilised social media to kick start successful careers doing the same or similar. Is it what I would personally want - no, but equally I wouldn't be judging them so harshly for it.

I'm also curious as to how nearly naked is nearly naked given that they're friends with their mums mates on sm and their mum is supportive? I think we're in the era of feminism where women should be allowed to decide for themselves how they choose to use/ harness/ express their sexuality/ dress/ act without other women tearing them down for it.

Freedom of choice is important and after a certain age it's a conscious decision these adult women are making. Yet you are still referring to them as 'girls'. My guess is that your primary concern is more about controlling your own dd and ensuring she is what you feel is successful in her path in life than anything to do with these young women.

It is absolutely none of your business what any woman of any age chooses to wear and where they choose to wear it. That is all.

But you in can absolutely stop them having insta/FB/Snapchat. My 14 year old isn't allowed any of those and the old 2 aren't that interested.

Don't be silly. Young women can't make their own mind up. They need older women to tell they are being whores and feeling confident in their own skin is pandering to men ...
/sarcasm