Staying with him after he sexted another woman

[OhWomanOhMan]

My bf and I have been together a year and a half, I love him and he loves me, we’ve been on holidays together and have the best times together. Recently I found out he had been sexting another woman briefly. I am sad, he accepted that he was wrong and says he has no idea why he did it, he wants to stay together and so do I. My friends say they’d never stay with a man who cheats. He says he won’t do it again. I love him too much and want to be with him forever to leave him, I don’t think I’ll ever meet a man who I love like him.

Oh come on! “He says he has no idea why he did it” 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Jesus Christ, I really wonder why women fall for this shit and delude themselves into thinking they believe this. Men know what they are doing and I’m sure we all know why he did it. Get your head out of the clouds!

If he loved you as much as you think, he wouldn't have done it.

Decent men don't do this

Don’t be shocked when you’re back here in a years time because you’ve found out he’s now had sex with someone else then.

By staying with him when he’s crossed the “cheating” line what you’re saying to him is that you “love” him and will stay no matter what he does, so it’s a nice big green light for him to do whatever he wants knowing you’re not going anywhere anyway.

He did it because it turns him on sexually. How does he know her? If he's on a dating website, he's deliberately looking for other women.

It was his ex. He says she’s mentally unwell and he was stupid, although admits it was his fault as he said he was leading her on as she didn’t know he didn’t tell her he was in a relationship with me still.

He says he is more attracted to me and enjoys sex with me, he said he’d never get with her and he was just stupid.

'I love him and he loves me'

No he doesn't. He would not be sexting another woman if he loved you.

At this stage in the relationship he should be besotted with you and you only.

He isn't.

He's a dastardly dirtbag.

Right. So not only are you writing threads about this vile being. You’ve now admitted that you want to be with a man who cheats, and takes advantage of his mentally unwell ex so he can get his rocks off. How vile.

You're an enabler staying and if you genuinely cannot see what is wrong about all of this, then you need to start therapy.

He knew he could get cheap thrills from his unwell ex. You're not exactly selling him here OP.

I would cut your losses.

Oh ditch him now and save yourself all this shit in the future.

He's extremely unlucky isn't he?

I mean getting caught the 'first time he's ever done this' 🙄

'He says she’s mentally unwell'

That makes it even worse because you would have to be an absolute piece of shit to mess with the affections of someone mentally unwell.

Try looking at it this way.

YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH FOR HIM.

Wake up and see him for the creep he really is.

It’s a year and a half. No children. No mortgage ?

Sexting his ex!? Of all people. Nah throw this one back.

He took advantage of a mentally unstable woman. Assuming she is mentally unstable and he’s not using that as an excuse.

It would be a hard no from me- I would never trust him again. Unfortunately, he will reoffend.

Im sorry your going through this but your heart ache is clouding your judgement.

I truly think he is besotted with me - we spend so much time together and he said he sees me in his life for a long long time. It was just sex with her, I know for a fact he doesn’t love her - that’s why I am willing to let it slide. I just cant let go of him after all our happy times together - I’m involved in his child’s life too.

Cut your losses OP. You’ll never be able to look him in the eye again without thinking of her. It will ruin any flirty message you try to send to each other, and every time he’s sat on his phone you’ll have that twinge of worry.

This makes him an utterly vile human being and I'd be disgusted with him.

Your bar is VERY low if you think you 'love' someone this scummy.

Besotted? Seriously?

Then there is no point of this thread. Let him cheat, and take advantage of his mentally unwell ex, and stop writing threads about it.

Oh sweetie.

He loved her enough to be with her to sleep with her and to now have sexy messages with her while his “besotted” with you.

He loves his cock and himself. Thats all. Not you and not her.

Besotted? If he was besotted with you he’d be sexting you and nobody else!

He says his ex just wants us to break up and he won’t let it happen.

How old are you as you sound very very young.

Spoiler alert- you’re wrong.

When you’re “besotted” with someone you don’t cheat on them

Personally, I would be on high alert here. If he can do it to you once, he can do it to you twice.

What's to stop him from sleeping with his ex again? Next time he will say, I was drunk and wasn't in control or some feeble excuse.

By all means, stay with him if that's how you feel but I would be on my guard. He'd better bring something decent to the table other than his knob. If you get lumbered with his/a child, you'll be stuck with him and his lying ways.

Remember, buyer beware. You know what he's capable of. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, bigger and better.

Been here and it doesn't end well. All the trust is gone now and you'll struggle to get it back. No matter how much you try and push it to the back of your mind every now and then it will enter your thoughts, you could be watching tv and see someone on one of the soaps doing the same thing or someone you know could have the same problem, trust me it will always be there. You have obviously been upset enough to write this post and you are looking for advice, my advice would be never trust a man who texts other women, especially the ex.