Staying with him after he sexted another woman

[OhWomanOhMan]

My bf and I have been together a year and a half, I love him and he loves me, we’ve been on holidays together and have the best times together. Recently I found out he had been sexting another woman briefly. I am sad, he accepted that he was wrong and says he has no idea why he did it, he wants to stay together and so do I. My friends say they’d never stay with a man who cheats. He says he won’t do it again. I love him too much and want to be with him forever to leave him, I don’t think I’ll ever meet a man who I love like him.

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He doesn't respect you and he'll do it again. Don't be a mug.

Sometimes when people show you who they are you have to believe them. It's not a mistake or just him being stupid, he actively chose to do it. I do stupid things but sexting my ex isn't one of them because I love my DP.

You deserve better and you know that because you're posting on here. You're in a relatively new relationship and you don't have children together, cut your losses because this behaviour will continue and you'll kick yourself for not leaving sooner and getting in deeper.

Also him somehow blaming his ex for 'trying to break you up' is a lame piss poor excuse of someone that takes 0 accountability for their actions. Also he says she is mentally unwell so him seemingly stringing her along with this sexting doesn't paint him in a nice light. Sorry OP he will never change and once you accept this behaviour it will only continue.

I really hope you're not actually this naive and gullible.

Here's the short answer:

The man you think you love Does Not Exist.

What you've got is a lying cheating scum bag who has love bombed you into believing you're special to him.

You are categorically not special to him. If you were, he would not be sexting anyone else. Ever.

It's a story as old as the hills. You can choose to spend years more with him being cheated on, or wake up and read the thoroughly good advice on this thread.

That’s even worse!

I hope so, otherwise there's a child in the middle of this shitshow

I think something that I’ve learnt over the years- which has served me well, might I add, is that men willing to describe ex’s as ‘psychos’ and ‘mentally unwell’ and ‘well, I didn’t really like her, it was just a shag’ are generally best avoided.

Just shows a genuine lack of respect for someone who they once were quite happy to have an intimate relationship with.

I appreciate there are some who’s ex’s may actually have been the issue- but they are fewer and far between than those that aren’t. Especially if they are currently sexting them… So that’d be a leeetle red flag blowing merrily in the breeze for me, OP. 🚩🚩

He sounds very truthful and wouldn’t lie to you or cheat ……oh wait he’s already done that and you still believe him ?

Even if it was true . These type of men still want thrills elsewhere. It’s not about you it’s about HIM in every way.

This is your choice

I wish your bar was higher, I have like many on here accepted crap from men I loved

I hope you soon move on

Run and don't look back. This won't get better.

What's the point in posting? No one is going to agree with your frankly delusional train of thought, and you seem determined to stay with this cheating scumbag.

Oh well, takes him off the market I suppose!

Oh this just gets better and better. On top of all the other issues he is abusing a mentally unwell woman. RUN, you fool

Have a read on internalised misogyny OP.

The fact you have a bar this low for a man that was flirting with someone mentally vulnerable tells me you have bad personal boundaries.

Even if she isn't vulnerable he blamed his behaviour on her I mean WTAF!

Have some self respect woman. Ditch him.

Nah, @OhWomanOhMan , besotted people don't sext their ex for cheap kicks. That's aside from the fact she's unwell and he used her. Nice guy you've got there.

Is the child whose life you're involved in hers by any chance or is that some other lucky woman?

Yeah. Besotted people don't do this. And you've given him green light to do it again!

Raise your bar ffs

How does his ex make him sext her anyway.

Send me a cock pic or else… or else what??
talk filthy to me about all the things you want to do me or else..

and he was just like “yeah baby I want to slip this long hard (his photo) into your tight wet” ( her photo)”

because he was worried she would what?? Tell you, that he wouldn’t sext her? She would come knock on his door and shout at him?? Oi wanker why won’t you send me your knob photos 🤬🤬

or he sext her because he wanted too.. unless the threat was, if you don’t keep this up I’ll tell OP the truth about the real SEX we have been having when your meant to be doing (whatever)

When is he proposing if he's so besotted?

He's not besotted with you. Men who are besotted with you don't cheat on you. My DH is besotted with me - and it does not even vaguely resemble how this pitiful excuse of a man treats you.

Woman up. Stop buying the shite he's selling and get some self worth.

You've obviously already made up your mind to stay, so I don't know why you've bothered posting tbh. Your bar is on the floor, but it seems this isn't enough to get you to lift it.

….why did he reply ?

Would he forgive you if you’d been sexting and ‘leading on’ your ex?

Agree, not much point to the thread, make you own mind up then OP.

You’ve not been together long so it’s not a good sign is it?

Exactly. What the point in starting a thread then arguing it is all OK.