Neighbour is a convicted paedophile

[Abitlosttoday]

I have just found out that our close (proximity-wise) neighbour has been given a suspended sentence for looking at peadophilia online. His address, in the news report of court proceedings, is not our street but an address in a different town. However, it is him (there's a clear photo) and he has been living on our street with his partner for at least a year. I saw him a few days ago when he pulled his two dogs out of the way so I could pass with my kids. They're 4 and 7. (The kids, not the dogs!) I don't know what to think. It's a small street. I can see into his living room from mine. It's a small town too. His partner is my SIL's sister's boss. I don't know their names though - that's the level of familiarity. Just because my head is battered with half-term and I am exhausted, aibu to ask what your thoughts would be about this situation. All his crimes were online but some of the images were the worst sort.
We only know because another neighbour has a distant work connection to the guy. He may believe he has some anonymity here. I cried when I heard. I'm angry too. My head hurts, but that may also be because of this endless school break!

Exactly, I’m sorry for what you went through. This isn’t a victimless crime. They are scum.

It's the people who work or volunteer in positions of trust and hide in plain sight (and so that don't have convictions) which would worry me far more than a neighbour I can keep an eye on.

I would hate this too. Does his girlfriend know? I would be finding out a way to make sure she does.
you have absolutely every right to feel the way you do although it seems Mumsnet think otherwise.

Exactly.

It is likely there's more than one you don't know about/hasn't been caught yet, also living very close to you.

At least this one you can avoid now.

This!

Those saying things like ‘it was only online’ and ‘he has served his time’ are living in cognitive dissonance. people like him create the demand and those that supply for that demand are using real life children and sometimes new born babies. They also should be educated on what the highest category of those images actually contain before apologising for these absolute monsters.

Those affected directly will never ever ‘serve their time’. All because some sick individual needed gratification at the destruction of those weakest.

Are you for real? Hysterical? I guess you are on the peados side, everyone has rights you will be saying next. You are disgusting for making that comment.

@Abitlosttoday not saying you’ve got the wrong person but I knew someone in our town who was convicted of viewing online child abuse images, the local paper reported on it using an image taken from a group photo. The photo they used was of the wrong man who looked similar and just happened to also be in the group photo. I’ve just checked the online version of the paper and the image is still wrong, don’t know that it was ever corrected/retracted in print either. There is a comment by a member of the public in the comment section pointing out the error.

She isn’t threatened physically. She’s threatened by the prospect of this beast looking at her kids and getting some sort of sexual gratification from it.

As for “he did his time”, these monsters masquerading as human beings should never be allowed to move on from what they did. It should hound them til the day they finally die.

Visiting partner for 2 years then moved in with partner for one year? Not hard to work that out!

It's not gossip if he's beeen convicted!
You tell your kids to stay well away from
Him and if he ever comes to talk to them then to shout for you

She could call 111 or nspcc to report that

True. I have a nasty feeling it’s way more common than we think. Looking back, there were two men in my street as a girl who made me uncomfortable. Both were married, and one had kids of his own, but I would never have left my 12-year-old daughter alone in a room with them, put it that way. I remember taking my 12-year-old niece into town one hot summer afternoon and being shocked by the attention she got from middle-aged men, many of whom were with their partners or children. She’s a pretty girl, and was wearing fairly tight and revealing clothes, but she’s so obviously a child that I came home fuming.

Maybe I’m paranoid, but I distrust the majority of men. I have heard SO many stories of abuse that it’s made me hyper-cynical. One friend, whose mother was an alcoholic, once bitterly said to me “when I was a little girl, my mum had a string of different boyfriends, and they were always coming into my bedroom to kiss me goodnight.” I’ve never forgotten that. And I can think of at least three or four other friends over the years who’ve told me about abuse they endured as girls.

I feel your pain op, we have a convicted child SO in our village (that we know about). Luckily everybody knows and we all keep an eye on him when he’s out and about. We also keep an eye on each others kids (the ones old enough to be walking home from school or to go to the park with friends) I’ve told my older kids so they know not to go anywhere near him or to say good morning etc. My younger kids also know he’s not a good man. Unfortunately there could be loads of people on the sex offenders register living all around us and we’d not know (not to mention the ones that have never been caught/convicted) We just have to parent like we would anyway and try to get on with our lives. 💐

This

You know who this man is and where he lives, whereas if you moved away to avoid him, you wouldn't know who was living next door. Online child pornography is rightly a very serious offence, but he hasn't been convicted of interacting with children in real life thank God. So long as your children are properly looked after, which I'm sure they are, there is no reason for them to be affected by this man's presence.

Such a weird response, nonce lynch mob? what else would one want to do about child predators? Congratulate them? Apologise for them?

You'd be surprised. They are everywhere. Sadly

He’s received his punishment and is presumably now on the police radar. He will be checked in if he’s is subject to a SHO.

1. He will have many conditions linked to his SSO so he is being monitored.

1. You know that saying "you're never more than 6 feet from a rat" - it doesn't just apply to the animal variety. You'd be surprised who's living on your doorstep.

1. There's not a lot you can do about number 2 so crack on with your lives and let the agencies that deal with offenders do their job. It's not worth losing sleep when you can't change anything.

Raping a child can never be equivalent to adultery, thats actually appalling. I’ve sinned plenty but there are fucking lines.

But thats the point isn’t it, a sexual attraction to children to children is not something you snap out of after a good telling off is it? It’s not his past, it’s who he is.

At least you know who he is and where he is. There's others invisible. Carry on with your life just avoid him.