DH refers to himself as my “Dad”

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Weird one! DH has for a long time referred to himself as “Daddy” when it comes to me. (Not sexual!)

For example if I need his help he will say “Your Daddy will do it” “Daddy do” or “Let your Dad help you” or “Your Father will fix it” He keeps saying he should really stop calling himself my Dad.

Is this infantilising? We do have kids so he is used to being “Daddy” but he refers to himself as my “Dad”

AIBU? Is this weird?? He also says “Good girl!” When I’ve done a task etc. Or “You’re a good girl!” I’m in my forties!! DS has even begun to correct him saying “She’s not a girl, she’s a woman” Etc.

AIBU?

Just really, really, really creepy 😱

I'd have to say, that's a 'sense of humour' that really gives me the ick.

I wonder if he has a DD/lg thing?

This is all vomit inducing but him saying Say thank you Daddy has made me post.

Doesn't matter why he's doing it, the fact is you've said you don't like it but he's carrying on. He cares more about his satisfaction than your comfort..

I agree.
A real creep.
Her son is noticing it too.
Bet he won't be bringing any girlfriends home, any time soon.

Definitely. There’s some sort of DD/lg kink there, power dynamic thing with the “owning” etc etc.

I'd be out the door, that is revolting

Grim, grim, grim. How are you still with him?

It’s a kink him wanting you to call him Daddy and calling you a good girl.. It’s not him thinking he’s your dad is a dom sub kink he has and most likely is exploring online or has in his past..

Hahaha totally agree but made me laugh out loud

Oh, yeah, he definitely wants to be a daddy dom. You need to have a frank and open discussion about his kinks and preferences (and yours) to see if you can find some common ground. And even if you were open to age play, or s/d it doesn't give him the right to speak to you like that in front of your kids - the dude has no boundaries!
I have known married men who won't share these things with their wives, so they end up chatting/meeting up with other women (maybe you'd be ok with that).
It sounds like he's trying to hint at something in order to gauge your reaction.

Arghhh I don't know!!! If it's like sexual then absolutely not but DH and I occasionally do this because we are so used to saying it around the kids 🤣. Not like 'your daddy' but sometimes I will ask something like 'daddy where have you put Sharon's school uniform?' despite the kids not actually being there.

Sorry, but he sounds gross. No way would I put up with being referred to in such an infantile way by my OH. He doesn’t, thankfully, and never would.

🤢 is there some gross fetish thing going on? My OH would have only had to said that once to me 😡. Not that he would, but you know what I mean I wouldn’t tolerate that. Ewww

Trust me he'd only say this once before I ran to the hills. Has he always said it ie, before your DC?

You need to open your eyes. It definitely is a sexual thing, a dominance thing, a power thing. Just because he is “joking around” doesn’t change that. Just because it happens when you aren’t sexually engaged doesn’t change that. His “weird sense of humour” isn’t haha it’s perverse.

Have you told him you find it very creepy OP? (Not that you should have to of course) if I told my DH anything he did or said was weird or creepy he’d be horrified and stop immediately.

Eeuuuww, I just vomited a bit in my mouth, It's definitely a kink DDlg and a power play, he thinks he's superior to you and you are his property. My vagina would be drier than the Sahara dessert. Everytime he says it I would reply with "I'm your wife not daughter, I don't have sex with my father, so I guess you'll be going with out for the foreseeable" Call him out on it every single time, he'll soon stop.

Does he call himself Daddy in bed ?

I think it’s just an extension of baby talk but surprised MN hasn’t called for an immediate end to your marriage, they’ve done so over a lot less (joke).

What a nauseating read.

this is controlling mindfuckery at worst and creepy fetish at best .

That's weird and a bit sickening.

it's weird and fucking creepy, and that's coming from someone who does have kinks and uses that kind of language in the bedroom.

Outside of dynamic is just.. i cannot describe the level of EWWWWWWWW.

Agree. The more you post, the clearer it is to me. Please have a serious conversation with him and tell him you don't like it, and he doesn't own you. His language is so DD. It's really not OK that he's pulling you into his kink without being open about what he's doing.

Youll either sort this now or you will ignore it until your kids leave home.

That's one of the weirdest fucking things I've ever heard.