DH refers to himself as my “Dad”

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Weird one! DH has for a long time referred to himself as “Daddy” when it comes to me. (Not sexual!)

For example if I need his help he will say “Your Daddy will do it” “Daddy do” or “Let your Dad help you” or “Your Father will fix it” He keeps saying he should really stop calling himself my Dad.

Is this infantilising? We do have kids so he is used to being “Daddy” but he refers to himself as my “Dad”

AIBU? Is this weird?? He also says “Good girl!” When I’ve done a task etc. Or “You’re a good girl!” I’m in my forties!! DS has even begun to correct him saying “She’s not a girl, she’s a woman” Etc.

AIBU?

Did his parents do this? I lived in a certain part of the uk where I noticed some elderly people referring to each other as mummy and daddy? I found it very weird and creepy- had never heatd it before where I'm from. Just wondering if its something he grew up with and thinks its normal/endearing? Which it definitely is not! You can't be discreet about it- tell him it disgusts you and please stop!

Yeah it's a no from me.

Weird.

But then I wouldn't tolerate it said during sex or any other time.

Now im not saying I'd overreact by using two breeze block to perform an emergency penis removal... But let just suggest that my orifices would be closed due to lack of heat for the foreseeable.

I do have vague memories of him doing similar stuff early into the relationship, I remember correcting him numerous times when he would say “good girl” and I wish I could remember but I swear he did refer to himself as Dad before we had kids.

I’m 5 years older than him!

Every time he says it shout really loud "WHO'S YOUR DADDY" he'll soon stop

Oh! That’s so weird!!!

I hope this is a wind up to be honest as this is so gross

Just tell him how you feel. He needs to understand how odd this is

Let your dad help you? Your daddy will do it?

When you stop what you're doing and look him square in the face and tell him that he's not your dad, he's your husband and if he continues to refer to himself as your daddy for whatever fucked up reason, he will be your husband no longer, what does he say?

Ask him to stop because it's so absolutely weird, that it's not only making you feel revolted by him, it's freaking out the children. Dear God, what a cretin.

Stop doing anything around the house. If he's the parent and you're the child, it's his responsibility!

Ha ha I will try that. 😆

I mean, maybe he sees it as a protective thing..? I don't know 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm not sure how you got as far as marriage and children though!

Eww does he?!

Just reading your post made me cringe - how demeaning and yucky. What is his problem?

That's pretty much my face reading this! 😂

OP, you have to just tell him it's gross and you want him to stop. Tell him it makes you not want to have sex with him because you're not a girl and he's not your daddy.

Has he never heard of incest?

I'd rather sew my vagina up than have sex with a man who referred to himself as my dad, and calls me a good girl.

Bloody worrying really.

Whirlwind romance…things moved VERY fast. It felt exciting and romantic at the time.

He does, but what he doesn't do is refer to himself as the contestants dad, which would be another level of weird, and that's what you're dealing with.

If this is true. If he was calling himself Dad to you, before you even had children how the fuck did you manage to shag this man in order to have them in the first place?

Urgh. My ex used to call me 'mummy' at all times, ie not just when the kids were about but ALL THE TIME. Like 'mummy, come in here,' 'what's for dinner, mum?'

Asked him to stop. He did not. He is an ex.

Ah that does kind of explain it.

But have you not told him to stop?

Tham makes me feel a bit 🤢. When we talk to the kids we refer to each other as mummy and daddy. Ask daddy to get you an orange or daddy can you get Bob an orange. I refer to H by his name. I've already got a dad.

I have told him it’s weird but he still does it.

Eww. I would hate that too.