DH refers to himself as my “Dad”

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Weird one! DH has for a long time referred to himself as “Daddy” when it comes to me. (Not sexual!)

For example if I need his help he will say “Your Daddy will do it” “Daddy do” or “Let your Dad help you” or “Your Father will fix it” He keeps saying he should really stop calling himself my Dad.

Is this infantilising? We do have kids so he is used to being “Daddy” but he refers to himself as my “Dad”

AIBU? Is this weird?? He also says “Good girl!” When I’ve done a task etc. Or “You’re a good girl!” I’m in my forties!! DS has even begun to correct him saying “She’s not a girl, she’s a woman” Etc.

AIBU?

Ugh that would give me the ick and would possibly be completely irreparable.

Does it bother you? If so, he needs to break the habit.

How has your vagina not clamped shut?

Tell him to stop. This is pathetic.

He needs to address you properly and label himself appropriately.

This is so odd and strange.

That’s very weird if he’s doing it to you and not just when the kids are around. Has he always done this?! How did you marry him?!

It does give me the ick! 🤢

This would have me running away so fast. I find it creepy. Does he say this to you in front of others too? Sorry but this is pretty gross.

It has! 🤮

Have you told him your opinions on it?

This would bother me so much

He'd say it once to me and once only if he was my husband! 🤢

Erm what....

Nooooo. I wouldn’t like it at all. I had one father/Dad/Daddy, and no other man can be him. Besides, it's a different job. I want a partner, not a dad.

🤢

This would actually make me vomit.

OP you need to come down hard, fast, and make sure this stops today.

Or LTB !

ps Unfortunate your kids had to hear it. Tell him it may cause issues for them too!

I might jokingly say “mummy do it” as a kid “quote” rather than because I actually feel like his mum. If he’s aware that he needs to stop doing it then it’s just habit at this point.

That would gross me out 🤮

What did he say when you said, stop doing this it makes me feel infantilised and frankly sick. What do you mean by it? Why do you think this is ok?

Die he do it when you first met? Why did you not shut it straight down (either the way of talking or the relationship) 😳🤢

Reading that has actually made my skin crawl!

Have you told him not to do it? What does he say?

That's revolting!

I called off my wedding for less.

Odious.

I‘m actually ashamed on your behalf.

Tell him to stop. He's not your dad. It's a bit creepy. Ignore him until he treats you as an equal. Does he have any trauma from his past, attachment issues, or is this just a power thing? Whatever it is, it is not a healthy relationship.