DH refers to himself as my “Dad”

[GingerBreadGinge]

Weird one! DH has for a long time referred to himself as “Daddy” when it comes to me. (Not sexual!)

For example if I need his help he will say “Your Daddy will do it” “Daddy do” or “Let your Dad help you” or “Your Father will fix it” He keeps saying he should really stop calling himself my Dad.

Is this infantilising? We do have kids so he is used to being “Daddy” but he refers to himself as my “Dad”

AIBU? Is this weird?? He also says “Good girl!” When I’ve done a task etc. Or “You’re a good girl!” I’m in my forties!! DS has even begun to correct him saying “She’s not a girl, she’s a woman” Etc.

AIBU?

God, that would make me feel sick.

I know a couple who refer to each other as mammy & daddy when their kids are present, eg "Pass (that), daddy/mammy." But they don't use it otherwise.

@GingerBreadGinge
You need to find a response. Rinse and repeat everytime he says it.
If it is a habit it can be broken. You just have to be strong as they can take a long time to break.
Please for your sons sake don't let him start thinking it's normal and stop this 🤢 behaviour.
Is his father like this?

My mum refers to my dad as grandad when talking about him to me. He's my children's grandad obviously but she will say oh grandad has taken the car for an MOT. I say do you mean my dad? I think that's bad enough. If my husband was calling himself Daddy I would be mortified.

Reminds me of the Bruce Springsteen song.

If it bothers you then he should stop, I would find it weird too tbh. My grandparents used to refer to each other as mum and dad, not sure why 😄

Do you not have a dad? Even if he's estranged or passed on why would your partner want to take that role? Sounds off beyond compare tbh. Especially if it doesn't seem like he finds it potentially weird.

This.

its actually really concerning he does this.

That is really quite weird and you have to stop him doing it perhaps try
@Wendysfriend’s brilliant response that made me bellow with laughter! Sorry OP not funny I know hope you can get him to stop

this, every time he does it.

"Daddy do" just made me shrivel up completely.

This...

That’s seriously concerning, OP. I was going to reply lightheartedly, but it’s not at all funny.

Eurgh. He’s into major daddy daughter kink. Bin him.

Have you told him clearly and explicitly you really dislike it, it gives you the ick and needs to stop?

I'd turn the tables on him and refer to myself as Big Poppa.

'Let Big Poppa help you out of those pants'.

@diddl yep, that's definitely cringe.

If you don't like it @GingerBreadGinge you have to tell him very STRONGLY that it grosses you out and until he stops you will be sleeping separately because you're repulsed by it.
Wonder how quickly he'll drop the 'habit'

Nailed it

Euurrvhhhhh

I've just died of the ick

Ick! Dh did this Once after we were married and I told him in no uncertain terms not to do it and I haven’t heard it since (25 years ago!)

Well that's sex out the window.. Unless he approves of incest?

But have you said ‘I don’t like it, stop.’ Have you directly communicated?

He might have done it during sex, but you might have blocked it out?

You sound really disconnected to what's going on here. It's a bit worrying. How old is your DC?

Just reading the OP reminded me of the old Belgian series the Out-Laws, which featured a hilariously creepy man who referred to his wife at all times as "Mummy" (even at a adult dinner party). His wife's sisters stepped in and plotted to get him whacked.

OP , do you realise you're commenting on the posts in quite a lighthearted way?

Maybe this is how you're reacting to your DH too. You need to tell him you're serious and refuse to put up with it any more .