DH refers to himself as my “Dad”

[GingerBreadGinge]

Weird one! DH has for a long time referred to himself as “Daddy” when it comes to me. (Not sexual!)

For example if I need his help he will say “Your Daddy will do it” “Daddy do” or “Let your Dad help you” or “Your Father will fix it” He keeps saying he should really stop calling himself my Dad.

Is this infantilising? We do have kids so he is used to being “Daddy” but he refers to himself as my “Dad”

AIBU? Is this weird?? He also says “Good girl!” When I’ve done a task etc. Or “You’re a good girl!” I’m in my forties!! DS has even begun to correct him saying “She’s not a girl, she’s a woman” Etc.

AIBU?

How did he get away with saying it more than once? 🤢

I think I'd be telling him exactly and explicitly how it made me feel if I were you.

The fact your son is starting to comment says it's all.

He's grossing your child out too.

This happens in the Deep South in the U.S.

He has some issues!

Not acceptable especially in front of your dc.

Ew 🤢

Young(ish), naive and experiencing the turning 30 and still being single panic made me ignore some red flags! 🚩

That is even stranger??

He needs to respect your boundaries

Yuck. Eew. I'm so sorry.

This and how have you not lost the fucking plot?

Ick ick ick ick ick ick... 🤮

It's creepy as hell

Tell him it ends now.

If he calls himself daddy one more time, call him a pedophile EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.

This is one of the weirdest things I've seen on here and that's saying something

🎵gettttt riiiiiiiiid 🎶

For added info - I have ADHD (diagnosed as an adult) and there are things that I struggle with and more so when we first met (I was unaware of ADHD then) DH is highly intelligent, efficient, thinks extremely fast and is a self confessed “control freak” It feels like he has always treated me like a child and him referring to himself as my “Daddy” and him calling me a “girl” cements this.

I do things differently to him, not necessarily wrong but different.

Is he Tucker Carlson?

Yuk

Seriously ? 🤢🤢🤢 Tell him to shut up or "daddy" will get his balls kicked for being so disgusting.

Of course it is sexual

Oh god no.

You need to NOT tell him it's weird, but tell him it's GROSS and makes you feel sick and that it really puts you off him!

Tell him you really struggle to be attracted to someone who pretends he's your dad.

🤢

It’s not sexual but it is potentially a power imbalance.

Oh good lord @GingerBreadGinge this is going to wear very thin on you. The dynamic of him as responsible adult and you as a child will grow to annoy you more and more. There's an under tone to all this that makes me cringe - can he not cope with adult women with a mind of their own?

Ewww. Bloody horrible.

I refer to dh as dad (teens) or daddy (dc3) when talking TO the dc. 'Oh you'll have to go and ask daddy where it is' or even if he's there, 'what do you think daddy?' - when clearly referring to a question asked by the present dc. He does the same to me.

But you don't talk to each other that way when there's no dc there. And as for the 'let your dad help you' and similar when speaking to you - eugggghhhhhh.

Like a pp said, I'd be checking the bloody hard drive. And I'd be keeping my dc away from him.

Do you have a daughter OP?

Wish it did, customers use it at work and I'm "ew"