to think it's like groundhog day on MN

[Fizzadora]

Every day, every single day and sometimes several times a day there are threads from women with useless fucking waste of space partners and fathers to their children who seem to have just opted out of adult life.
Just read another one, father never does anything at all with his 5 year old child. Then she drops in that he doesn't contribute financially either.
For fucks sake women. This is not Afghanistan. You don't have to fucking whisper. Get rid of the tossers. Your children will thank you.
Absolutely livid.

Yep

Other womens posts have made you 'livid' 😂

Not sure it's just MN
Tale as old as time, and all that.

Yanbu it is very depressing.

I’ve thought about just writing stock answers to copy and paste to the women putting up with dramatically unequal relationships, financial abuse, and domestic violence. It feels like screaming into the void some days. Every bit of feminist campaigning got twisted and misinterpreted to not help women, but instead make things even worse.

I am genuinely shocked at the numbers of men not contributing at all (financially, emotionally or practically) to the upbringing of their children. Why do the women put up with it?

The dog hate threads 😂

And all the other threads that seem to come around on repeat.

• Kids with tablets in restaurants.
• MIL has dared to speak to me.
• Headlights are too bright (seasonal but I've seen 3 in the past month).
• Weight loss jabs are cheating and you'll just put the weight on again and you deserve to because you're cheating, how dare you?
• Should I get back with my useless feck ex?
• I'm in the wrong but I believe I'm right and you should all agree with me!
• some bastard rang my doorbell, how dare they?
• OMG, I've been invited to a wedding, how very dare they?

I think too many women place a lot of stock in the sheer state of being in a relationship, no matter how shit. I’ve read countless threads which also include, somewhere towards the top of the OP’s reasoning as to why she doesn’t think she can leave, “I’m scared of being on my own and what other man would want me as a single mum with 3 kids?” Low self esteem combined with social conditioning, I suppose, being brought up with the idea that marriage is the pinnacle of attainment for a woman.

Single women are statistically the happiest of all and I wasn't remotely surprised to find that out.

Yep. Sometimes i want to shout at my phone, reading these posts about useless men. Get rid!!!!

It’s best just to ignore those threads. The only solution is to Ltb but they’re clearly not going to. I can’t get the ones where they don’t stand up for their children. It upset me the other day reading about the 15yo birthday girls one where dad hijacked her pizza party forcing the children to eat his cauliflower and scallops, frightened the guests into leaving early, and when the girl was later distraught, grounded her and took her pocket money. And the op did nothing. I couldn’t help but think you’re a big a cunt as your husband. And that’s quite a tame example to what I’ve read on here in the past

I really enjoyed the cream cheese thread today 😀

Its not just Mumsnet, my friends constantly complain about their partners too. I am a very very happy spinster.

YANBU about the terrible men but YABU to blame women for terrible men.

It makes me sad too.

I don't know what the answer is. It doesn't make me livid, it makes me feel very sorry for the woman being treated with such disrespect.

It seems to stem from such low self esteem.

you forgot the ones who know their husbands or partners are abusive and terrible, but are planning a baby because that will make everything better!

😖

Some old friends used to slag their husbands off something rotten when we went out to dinner! They said they could easily survive financially without them, it was quite mortifying to hear the way they spoke about their husbands.

I'd be so upset if my dh spoke like that about me behind my back!

🤣

• Also, some random dared talk to me, but I. don't do small talk. How very dare they!😂

@ComtesseDeSpair

I think too many women place a lot of stock in the sheer state of being in a relationship, no matter how shit. I’ve read countless threads which also include, somewhere towards the top of the OP’s reasoning as to why she doesn’t think she can leave, “I’m scared of being on my own and what other man would want me as a single mum with 3 kids?” Low self esteem combined with social conditioning, I suppose, being brought up with the idea that marriage is the pinnacle of attainment for a woman.

Yep. Essentially despite the past 50 years a frightening proportion of women basically think their only role in life is to facilitate men and children.

I agree it’s thoroughly depressing.

@ComtesseDeSpair

I think too many women place a lot of stock in the sheer state of being in a relationship, no matter how shit. I’ve read countless threads which also include, somewhere towards the top of the OP’s reasoning as to why she doesn’t think she can leave, “I’m scared of being on my own and what other man would want me as a single mum with 3 kids?” Low self esteem combined with social conditioning, I suppose, being brought up with the idea that marriage is the pinnacle of attainment for a woman.

Yep. Essentially despite the past 50 years a frightening proportion of women basically think their only role in life is to facilitate men and children.

I agree it’s thoroughly depressing.

Sorry for the double post!

Or better, don't procreate with these wastes of space in the first place. Have a bit of self respect and set your standards a wee bit higher.

Yes, because a screaming baby fixes everything!