I don't want my daughter to play with another kid in the street.

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Strap in this will be a long one. I think I know the answer but I guess I'm looking for reassurance. TLDR: I don't want someone else's kid in my house.

We have moved into a cult de sac. Myself, hubby and a neurospicy 5yr old.
We live opposite a rail line and within about 400yards of a public trail path and river. It's idyllic but this is my issue.
Neighbour has a soon to be 5 year old. Came and had a play date and the house was carnage afterwards. She undid all the safety features we have in place for our daughter who has little to no sense of danger. Toys everywhere, food everywhere, screaming that kinda thing. Since then, she has knocked out door daily asking to come in and play, often putting her foot in my door. She'd make an excellent missionary!
My DD5 has been poorly and then the other kid has so I've managed to avoid it but this kid is coming and staring through my windows. Before knocking my door.
She's out playing in the street, in the twilight and she's obviously cold and there are other kids there with her. I cannot let my DD go out and play because she will elope and I don't want this kid (and the rest of the street) in my daughter's safe space. DD is quite oblivious to her and the stress of sharing her toys is too much for her to comprehend. They're her toys, her regulations (she's perfectly practiced -for a 5year old at least for sharing neutral toys). I'm up for doing a play date but hubby is long term unwell, I work a busy full time job from home and fitting play dates in is difficult - especially if i cant send my daughter into a house that's not safe without going too. As the kids get older we can review but right now it's too much stress for what it's worth.

I've tried speaking to her parents, who are lovely, because every time i send her kid away i get a "hey you ok" text, even though they reckon they don't know she's knocking and window staring.
Any tips to navigate?

I do wonder if it's done to claim DLA/pip all the kicking off about typical children tbh. I really don't see why else you'd bother your arse. I get DLA for one child because he truly truly needs it. I use it for things like bedding/clothes because he chews all his clothes and is incontinent so I get him things to help, plus I'm his carer and he needed dla for me to be his carer.
Two of My other children are probably entitled to dla but I don't need it for them so I'm not claiming additionally. I don't need anything for them more than a typical child needs so unless they're in need of extra support with education and school need some funding (often they get more for a dla child our sencos have said) I'd not apply.
My sil tried to get her son a diagnosis of some form of ND and was told (rightly) he wasn't and had a sulk. She and bil would give the wee lad coke in a water bottle for bedtime drinks and it wasn't clear to the pair of dicks why he wasn't sleeping. Sil asked me why getting my sons' Melatonin was easy for us but it wasn't, all of them needed it prescribed by a peadiatrician/psychiatrist because not one of the wee little shites sleep without it and I'm a mean arse who will not give them caffeine at all, I even limit chocolate 😂

I think it's disgusting the way you're talking about that little boy. Of course he wanted to play with some shiny new (to him) toys. Some of you people here talk about children as if you don't understand the first thing about them.

Fair play, you seem like you have a good sense of humour, you'd need it posting anything on this. My son was recently diagnosed as Autistic, 17 years old, I never heard that word neurospicy before, you learn something new every day.