Negative DIL

[Dinkiedoo]

Our DIL is so negative about everything.
We do what we can with the grandkids. Buy them stuff. Babysit etc .
But there is barely a word of thanks to be honest but hey they our grandkids.
What pees us off is the negativity. Little snipes about our generation and our views on different things.
When we look after the kids we are told what to do.
Small gifts often rejected as its not what kids would like.
I find we are both backing off which we don't like but sick of being contradicted every time we open our mouths .

You sure don't sound it.

There there.

I recently became a GM for the first time and always check with DS's fiancee (baby's DM) before I buy anything. It's about being respectful. She already has a DC from a previous relationship and is the most amazing mum!

That's rude

why do you need to buy them gifts?

Did I actually just read that? Who doesn’t buy their grandchildren gifts?

Me telling her she’s projecting and asking if she’s alright is rude…but her telling me I’m projecting and sound angry is polite?

Are you quite alright?

Very wise. I never give clothes to a baby or child unless the parents have requested something. Not my place to suggest what the child should be wearing.

I thank supermarket workers too, unless they are rude. Most are pleasant and efficient, and for those of us who live alone, it's nice to say hello and thank you to someone. Some of them love their jobs, and many are students.