Should I shag the 25 year old

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NC for obvious reasons.

Long story short, I'm 6 months out of an abusive marriage. Not in any way ready to date or for a relationship, I'm still far too hurt to even contemplate that. But I do miss sex.

Last week, a guy randomly approached me and gave me his number. We've chatted a bit, it turns out he's 10 years younger than me. From his messages, I get the impression he's only after one thing.

I'm really, really tempted. I could really do with a good shag. But I'm also worried it could go horribly wrong and leave me feeling terrible. So, please help me decide. WIBU to shag the 25 year old?!

Unless of course this particular 25 year old just happens to be her boyfriend!

Well I didn’t realise that 35 year old women would consider a 25 year old man so next time I see someone around that age I won’t assume they aren’t interested

Unless of course this particular 25 year old just happens to be her boyfriend!

Plot twist!

Yass do it!!

Well wouldn't that be a hum dinger of a coincidence.

You clearly need to swap PMs.

You'll just have to bear with the absence of punctuation.

Does their name begin with a G

Interested in your bf?

Keep us updated OP.

Well I didn’t realise that 35 year old women would consider a 25 year old man so next time I see someone around that age I won’t assume they aren’t interested

Would you have thought the same about a 35 year old man being potentially interested in a 25 year old woman?

I honestly don't think many would. Well, I didn't before this thread 😂 seems to be a lot of cougars on MN this evening.

I think this is the approach I might take. Meet him for a drink and see how it feels. I just don't want to string him along or give him the impression I want more than something casual.

Can you tell I'm out of practice?

Are you quite alright?

This makes you sound quite strange.

To be attracted to. The older you get the younger others look the brain is wired like this for a reason.

Noooo. Don’t shag the fuckboy! I had similar and I avoided it. It turned out that he was the uncle of a child in DD's class at primary school all the way through and I got on well with the Mum.

"Meet him for a drink and see how it feels."

Blimey, you don't waste any time do you? 🤣🤣🤭

I just don't want to string him along or give him the impression I want more than something casual.

From how you've met him and from the general behaviour of 20.something men (or men of any age), I really don't think you need to worry about that.

The older you get the younger others look the brain is wired like this for a reason.

Why does almost every ageing male celeb have a much younger wife or girlfriend then?

In my defence, I had no idea how old he was when I accepted the piece of paper with his number on. If I had to, I probably would have guessed maybe 28-30.

He apparently guessed my age was in the same bracket, but I suppose that could just be his attempt at flattery!

Now I find this gross. I think 25 is borderline. But 20 year olds look like children did you go to his mum and dad's and squeeze in his single bed under his spiderman quilt. At 34 are you really attracted to a 20 year old

He most certainly didn't look like a child. what 20 year old has a Spider-Man quilt? I look young too. I'm autistic (probably so is he). So we were drawn to each other on that basis most likely. He was an adult so you have no right to call it gross.

I honestly don't know because I look at younger men and see children. I struggle to understand how others don't see this

😂😂😂

Meeting him for a drink may make him think it’s a “proper date” and he’s got a chance with you emotionally. I would honestly text him before agreeing to meet being upfront and honest that you aren’t looking for anything serious and won’t be even if the sex is good! It sounds harsh but you need to shut down anything “emotional” forming in his mind before you meet, he genuinely might want to date you and is just using the sex talk/hinting because he thinks that’s what guys his age tend to do and because he wants to save face incase you don’t feel the same.

going out for drinks is totally fine obviously even if it’s casual, it’s just best to make sure everyone is on the same page first. I’ve been on dates with guys which included handholding (their idea), who didn’t tell me it was only going to be casual sex despite the romantic style dates, and it all got very messy. I got very hurt.

I can’t believe all the people pouring piss over this by talking about ‘the age gap’ ‘the poor boy’ ‘STIs’ ‘practically a child’.

He’s a grown man. I would absolutely go for it OP. It could be amazing, it could be a bit shit and if it is it’s just something you put down to experience.

I just look back with fondness about all my previous encounters, none I regret, some I laugh at, some I cringe at, some I still replay in my head.

Do you honestly not see anything wrong at 34 fancying a 20 year old. When you was his age he was 6

The piece of paper with his number on??

This makes him sound about 65 🤣🤣