to think that £100...

[frootloop]

isn't much to buy myself a whole new after pregnancy wardrobe, dh seems to think so.

i dont want to sound like a WAG but i really have nothing to wear except jogging bottoms.

none of my pre-pregnancy clothes or underwear fit anymore as they are too small and all my maternity stuff is winter wear and the underwear is too big now, i feel like a total frump and have no self esteem with my saggy baby belly.

i looked on marks and spencer website and with £100 i could buy

1 summer dress
2 nice bras
1 pack of tights
3 packs of knickers

am i being really ungrateful or is dh being tightfisted (he earns more than enough to give more and he buys himself whatever he likes whenever he likes)

He is being a tightfisted arse.

You should spend whatever you feel you can afford on making ourself feel and look good whilst carrying his child.

If you can still afford to pay the bills and feed the family, then no it's not too much at all.
It will help you feel nice post pregnancy too.

They have sale on at the moment, I 'm sure you could get more for £100

Do you have a Matalan near you? you could get a lot more.

Avoiding the issue of why it's up to DH to decide on your spending money...

I got a fab maternity wardrobe for under £100 from H&M, Tesco, ebay and freecycle. Perfectly do-able. You don't want to spend a fortune on clothes you're not going to get much use out of.

After my first pregnancy I was so sick of my maternity clothes I ebayed the lot and bought some nursing tops with the money.

get out there and buy your self something nice you deserve it

Do you work?

Have you and your husband ever sat down and discussed your roles if you don't?

If he gives you money for food then go and spend that.

Thinking about the list you gave - it isn't a whole new wardrobe. It's one dress and some underwear.

You shouldn't include your underwear in the cost, everyone needs NEW underwear. Just get it.

I think £100 is a bit much for a frock and some accessories. If you shopped about a bit you could probably get a hell of a lot more for your cash and maybe your husband wouldn't object so much.

I never include underwear in clothes cost.

a) It's an essential, like shampoo or toothpaste

b) It's one thing DH never minds me buying.
I could buy a matching set daily and burn them before bed and he wouldn't blink.

Haircuts on the other hand...

You should be able to buy what you like according to what you can afford.

And you should not be asking anyone for the money, it's your money too.

You do not need permission if he doesn't. It's supposed to be a partnership.

Oh, and I don't ask. It's our money.

why are you asking him for clothes?

ffs
jesus christ

Go to primark - you'll practically be able to buy the whole shop!

How much do you allow him to spend on clothes??
FFS this attitude is ridiculous. You are a partnership and as such should be entitled to spend what you want and need to on clothes. and as a partnership you BOTH should know how much is too much, it shouldn't be down to one partner to 'allow' the other.

do what i do. just buy what you need. dont ask.

Nice to see you custy

i knew i wasn't being unreasonable. i dont want loads, just 3 dresses(i love dresses), 1 or 2 pairs trousers and some tops plus underwear.

he controls the purse strings, which really pisses me off but we never get around to going into the bank to get my name on the accounts.

Make this a priority Fruitloop, you should never have to ask permission to spend your own money.

I'd focus on the bank thing first and then deal with the clothes.

Not trying to tempt fate, but what if he had an accident and couldn't deal with banking for a week or two?

its been a priority for 2 years.
i'll have a rant that there is no money in the joint account for me to buy food, formula, other essentials and we must sort out finances etc etc, but we just don't get round to doing it.

2 years sounds a bit

Maybe he doesn't want things to change?