Found escort website on husbands history

[Piney15]

Found a escort website on my husbands search history with local areas entered! .. completely taken back .. we have been together almost 13 years, 2 children and 1 on the way... and happy!! Litrally happy as can be. ive checked bank, photos, social accounts etc. And I can't find anything further than this other than 1 porn search after the search for the escort website vivastreets!! Ergh just need some support advice on this

It's unlikely this is his first time or his last. I would get an STI test as soon as you can and then have a think about what you want to do.

How far back does his history go?

Also, can you manage to log in to his account there?

Thanks for your reply at this time! Just really needed someone to say something as I can't sleep... just wondering how to confront him I'm.feeling rather fragile and completely reliant on him 😭

It doesn't seem he has a account logged in and the phone won't tell me the bloody date!

This is what I can see

Ok just try and stay calm, what time did you find this out?

About 2 hours ago

Is this his Google history? Can you see further back?

Yes Google history it will let me see yesterday day before and then this is the others but not dated, but I feel its recent from other normal things on there I know he has searched in the last few days..

Oh, dear, OP. I'm sorry, you must be so shaken.

If you confront him he's going to say he was just idly curious, possibly have a go at you for checking his phone, and then lock all his devices. Would you be able to stay quiet for the time being?

Also, you're pregnant with kids! Get some sleep!

Could it be local gossip and he's had a Quick Look? I can remember some woman local to me posted all over social media about her husband going to a pop up brothel in the area and I did have a quick nosy to see what everyone was talking about.

Has he withdrew any cash/have access to any cash and been missing any time?

Yeah, but @amiold, did you google or go directly to a specific escort website?

Seems like there is also multiple searches for the towns nearby to us and specifically set to a 5 mile radius of that...

Erm I can't remember I think I googled and only for that one place (was a bit perplexed by it but stacked up). I didnt start searching neighbouring towns. Just accepted that it's "a thing" and I'd been naive to think it didn't happen locally.

Vivastreet is kind of like how Craigslist used to be I think. People don't look at that site without specific intentions really.

Yet another man straying whilst his wife is pregnant. They really are absolute pigs.

I wouldn't worry too much, maybe he was feeling randy and just doing some curious searches. The kind of thing people do on the internet. If he was seriously going to go with an escort he would probably be on Adultwork.co.uk or UKPunting.com.

Thank you for.your words also ❤️ I'm not sure if I.can stay quite as my body language usually says it all!!!!! I am so angry. I'm trying to think of excuses for him but can't.. just so so shocked and sad and thinking what do I do with our 2 children and one one the way to consider into this..

So sorry that you are going through this OP.
I think you have to accept if he has been searching for escorts then he has been using escorts.
I think you need to confront him.
But expect him to lie and deny.
Probably asking him to leave the family home for the time being so you can have time to digest what you have found out and think about the future might be best.

There are "innocent" possibilities. When I heard that an old college friend was now in this line of work, I tried to look them up out of sheer curiosity.

I agree with prior advice that, if you confront him and he has been using them, he is likely to make up a cover story and do a better job at hiding his actions going forward.

Maybe pretend to have a migraine, as a way of covering up you being "off" and do whatever other digging you can without tipping him off.

I know that many men look at escort sites for curiosity but never dream of actually using escorts. Some of them like to read the reviews, maybe live vicariously through them. It's likely that more men browse these sites in this way than the number of men who visit these sites and actually use escorts. If you want to know for sure, stay calm and track his car or something before catastrophising and jumping to conclusions.

My ex used to just go and look at the photos.
That is maybe what it is?

Sorry but this is such bullshit, they don't look for curiosity and read reviews!

You must be devastated OP, try not to let on that you know just yet while you gather yourself.

And get an STI check ASAP.

I don't know how much more digging I can do.. checked bank (but he uses alot of cash because of his line of work)
. Checked emails and history as much as I can .. fb messages.. WhatsApp messages... Instagram messages..... throughout the years maybe this one more so I see he engages with fake accounts of girls that message him he will usually just reply hi and his name when asked and kind of entertain stupid questions like that and then ignore them if they start asking more.. which always bothers me that he would even engage with this! Like as if I would ever do that or if he found me entertaining conversation with other men. I just can't get round the whole escort thing.. we are young he is 30? But I seem if he has had a wondering (but kind of innocent) eye before this shouldn't suprise me....

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How do you know? This site is dangerous. It must be responsible for so many marriage break-ups. Stay rational OP. Don't do anything rash. Think long term, and consider your children.