Found escort website on husbands history

[Piney15]

Found a escort website on my husbands search history with local areas entered! .. completely taken back .. we have been together almost 13 years, 2 children and 1 on the way... and happy!! Litrally happy as can be. ive checked bank, photos, social accounts etc. And I can't find anything further than this other than 1 porn search after the search for the escort website vivastreets!! Ergh just need some support advice on this

But would you Google local men to shg multiple times in surrounding areas while in love with your partner? I've looked up many stupid things, but seeking the most local paid shg is one not on my search

All the emotions have really hit me and I can tell I'm really starting to freak out

We have always had the fairytale 💔 that relationship everyone admired.. 😭

Sending hugs

Complete nonsense ! @HoppyFish is simply providing a balanced view. MN DOES catastrophize . Always far too fast to suggest people leave their marriages on very flimsy evidence of wrongdoing by a spouse.

People seem to forget that behind each OP is an actual person. Usually a woman in an emotionally, often financially vulnerable position, with young children. They can't just pick up a bag and go.

Nor does that advice take into consideration what happens AFTER they have 'left the bastard'. These days child contact upon divorce starts at 50/50. Is that an 'advantage' or 'better life' for mother, father or kids, than staying in a marriage until there is more substantial evidence or a reasoned explanation.

Personally I have googled all kinds of sexual terms and prolactivities over the years, out of curiosity, to understand things I know nothing about and sometimes just pure nosiness. In the last week alone this includes a 'pop up s&m festival' in the next town ( which neither I nor DH would ever attend a we are a little too conventional.) and foot fetishists simply because I find the concept weird and amusing. Doesn't mean I'm going to pay to view some of the tempting toes on display designed to suck me down that wacky rabbit hole ! .

I'm sorry, @Piney15. Here's my favourite calm breathing reminder! Maybe breathe with it while making yourself a cuppa?

Is there a way you can have distance and be away from a confrontation? I hope you don't feel alone 😔 men do this, and women chose to ignore it and not look at the phone or face it. You need to choose wether the split will be more painful than the betrayal, but it's unlikely it's the first time he's done something like this, you've just spotted it now

@changedlife, he wasn't googling. He was using an escort directory.

I Google all kinds of weird things, I haven't specific looked up sex workers in my area multiple times

Let’s be absolutely clear. There are 2 things here:

• it’s fine to put an alternate view to people you might think are catastrophising
• what is ABSOLUTELY not fine is asking a pregnant person if they’re having enough sex to satisfy their husband, who for whatever reason is looking at escorts

If you read my posts you’d see very clearly I was referring to the second so don’t start ranting to me about a post I didn’t make.

I was in your position 12 years ago. I stayed. I believed him. Young kids...

Biggest mistake. It was more than addiction. It was dangerous, it was illegal, it put my children in extreme risk.

Do your research, think, get your evidence and speak to solicitors and then decide. Don't confront until you are clear in your head.

Hire a private detective.

I think it is sleazy and would lose all respect for him.

Op try not to think about what others think of this. This doesn't reflect on you and says way more about him and his character. You don't deserve to be treated this way.

This op, this is a concrete move. It isn’t just worrying,

watch his move next, is he going to check himself, tell him dr said it must be from outside the relationship. Say you need the truth from him or it’s curtains. Yes I know it’s lying, but he has been deceitful even to just search. You cannot just ask him about the search as he might lie.

And yes a tracker, get cheap ones online do not need to be apple.

Thanks, but doesn't help when he is a self employed workman and very oftentimes goes to qoute jobs 😫 .. would be like a needle in a haystack...

Is there no way for you to access his Google location history? Mine shows me specifically where I've been down to the shop/address etc

Right, this is for everyone on this thread. There is no fairytale. Sooner or later your eyes will open on this, incidents like this are often the way. Men get away with stuff under cover whilst their dw thinks she is living the dream. Start off being vigilant and tell your daughters too.

I think OPs saying due to DH job she wouldn’t know what’s a legit address or not. Add in a lot of cash jobs and may be hard to track.

No Google location history shows its been off since 2021 .
I did just turn it on though..

Exactly this!

What made you look OP? Sorry you’re going through this.

If he went to the same address multiple times though it might add up..If op has turned the location on now though it could give some clues. Regardless, no man specifically searches local escorts without at least a fleeting thought of doing it. Let's face it when you catch a man being unfaithful it's never the first time they've done it, I talk from experience.

Just that 'feeling' I guess, I always do every few months in the middle of the night just to keep checks but this is the first time I have ever seen anything. Except replying to random girls messages but doesn't ever get further than a hello or his name or how did they find him etc.

Also the first search on Google was 'vivastreet egham' ... I feel that's pretty direct rather than typing in Google something else if it was your first time looking, like he knew the website name...

Yeah, it wasn't local escorts, it was specific. Op, I'm so sorry if I come across as harsh or too blunt, but the chance of it being innocent is very very slim. Checking a phone every few months shows nothing. I checked my ex dp phone and found all kinds, cheating, loans, and more, but prior found nothing. I hope your situation turns out better x