Autistic parents who don’t like physical affection

[Nezuko22]

How do you cope?

My eldest is the complete opposite and is trying to hug and kiss us constantly. And I really do mean constantly, she’s been home for 2 hours and she’s tried to hug and kiss me 15 times. I don’t mind a hug and a kiss before going somewhere and before bed but she’s quite forceful about it. She pins down the toddler who is quite a lot like me and I have to tell her off for forcing kisses on him when he’s screaming no. She runs at ne making kissing noises and it honestly makes my skin crawl. I’ve had words with her to reassure that I live her but I just don’t want to be harassed for this sort of physical touch constantly and that she needs to respect people boundaries if they say no. She’s 11 btw. Does anyone else have any experience of this?

@CrazyGoatLady

If it was that simple I don't think the OP would be here.

Lots of things aren't simple or easy as parents. You suck it up for the sake of your children. OP needs a reality check. I have a crippling fear of doctors and dentists but I grit my teeth and take my child for his sake.

She does need to simply hug her child more. Parents would walk through fire for their children, I'm sure she can find a way to cope.

Where’s the father in all this? He is hardly mentioned although I think he may be present in the household, although I may be mistaken.

Can’t he give his daughter a hug occasionally ( and yes, that’s okay, my DF and I used to hug until the day before he died, and he was 83).

Why do you assume he doesn’t? He is rarely home due to work but when he is he gives hugs.

You're going to have to change your tone with her and be consistent if you're already doing that then persevere. She will get there in time you have to be patient. Discipline her take something away when she jumps on granny for a hug. She will get the message eventually but she will try your patience.

discipline her?
yeah tell her off for wanting hugs.
that’s gonna end well.

She could let her jump all over people until she hurts someone. What do I know let her be free to do what she wants. At some point her mother will have to put her foot down and be a parent. Parenting is hard work and you can't always be the nice guy or else they will grow up to be entitled adults.

There's nothing worse than a needy young girl because she will go looking for attention else where. Her parents need to set boundaries and rules. I have 3 daughters and I understand the challenges. I kept my girls innocence until they were old enough.