I know IABU - just lost it over a parent and child space

[General90]

I feel awful because of my eldest child and it was so out of character for me.

we were going to our local supermarket which is always full of people parking in the child bays without children. Anyway, a car had followed us on the motorway and a roads and had driven like a lunatic, tailgating me and cutting people up. She was in front of me when she pulled into the car park and took the last child space and got out and walked into the shop. My DH was driving so I got out and went in where I proceeded to ask her to move her car and she was aggressive to me so I just lost it and we had an argument in the shop.

my DS didn’t witness me shouting at her but I’d tried to get her attention when she’d parked and so he knew there was an issue.

all the way home he was saying he was worried and asked if the police would arrest her. I feel horrendous that it’s by behaviour that influenced this. I know I should have just left her and found another space.

I am pregnant and hormonal, but didn’t excuse my behaviour.

@letmego24 i know, it was terrible behaviour.

It’s really unbalanced behaviour.

These spaces are offered as a curtosy not a rite of passage honestly it makes me laugh how some parents are so entitled it like look at me i got a child now give me everything i want now or i will scream

And anyway you don't launch a vigilante episode you go through the proper channels!!

I'd have reported you to security 🙄

@Hereforaglance i can absolutely see how my behaviour would have appeared that way today, yes. But it was so irrational and out of character. I don’t think I’m entitled but the way I acted was contrary to that I understand.

Please don't ever follow someone for a confrontation again. Someone local to me died following a confrontation over a parking space. A father went to the supermarket and never made it home to his family after a needless row. It's just never worth it.

Blah blah blah "entitled" blah blah blah

Well yes, when the space is reserved for people with children (because of child safety), they are entitled to it.

Generally if something is reserved for you or a category for which you fall within, and someone else takes it, it's fucking annoying. You are literally entitled to it, and they are not. They are the asshole!

This . Worse what is she was deranged and followed you to the car. You put your son and dh in a vulnerable situation for nothing. Nothing you say would have made a difference to her.

No, you're missing the point. It's hard to have enough room to get out of my small car in a parking space because everyone is choosing large SUV's and land rovers. Not because golfs need to be 20cm bigger. Most cars on the roads now are monstrous and nothing more than Chelsea tractors.

Probably not the right thing to say but you did nothing wrong, IMO. I'm sick of the selfish attitudes that invade our society currently and people parking in baby and parent spaces really, really p*es me off.

She shouldn't be allowed to do as she pleases to the detriment of others without somebody telling her about herself. Especially with the reckless driving you mentioned.

Have several claps from me. 👏👏👏

I wouldn’t start an argument in a shop over it but honestly I’ve been very tempted a few times, it really annoys me! I have a young baby and those spaces are bigger to make it easier to wrestle a child in & out, plus pram etc. The amount of times I’ve seen a sole adult park in them and then stroll into the shop is ridiculous.

@Aubaslice but I did. Had I have asked her to move and she told me to fuck off and I walked away, perhaps not. But I didn’t. I proceeded to enter into an aggressive argument for what purpose. It was unreasonable but I just need to learn from it.

I get more annoyed with people calling them "mother and baby" spaces than I do by people using them incorrectly.

Not In every instance. Someone who is disabled, whether they have a blue badge or not, is really not an arsehole for parking in a convenient space.

OP I hear you and I get wound up too by people's sheer arrogance that their needs trump everyone else's. I don't know why you're being piled on but next time I think for your own health you need to let it go

It's nothing to do with walking, it's more about being able to open your door wide enough to lift a baby/toddler out of their car seat and strap them back in safely 🙄

Exactly. Someone disabled trumps someone with a baby under every situation AND no matter what people think it’s not always obvious who has a disability

Don’t worry about it and move on. It does really wind me up when people take child and parent spaces, especially considering our situation which is an autistic toddler who can elope or have a sudden meltdown, and it is difficult to walk further with him. No dla yet, and even then they don’t just give out blue badges. People just don’t think about others.

Child locks should be on when you’re getting a child out of a car? Make it make sense :s

They are bigger spaces deliberately to allow extra room for EXACTLY these kinds of things.

It’s not about the walk; it’s about the extra space around the car.

YABU. You were at a supermarket ffs. Should've just egged her car...

They're not about child safety for whoever said that. Its simply about space

You sound utterly deranged.

Give yourself a break now @General90 Step away from the keyboard and MN and have a good time playing with your DC.