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I know IABU - just lost it over a parent and child space

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General90 · 13/10/2024 15:25

I feel awful because of my eldest child and it was so out of character for me.

we were going to our local supermarket which is always full of people parking in the child bays without children. Anyway, a car had followed us on the motorway and a roads and had driven like a lunatic, tailgating me and cutting people up. She was in front of me when she pulled into the car park and took the last child space and got out and walked into the shop. My DH was driving so I got out and went in where I proceeded to ask her to move her car and she was aggressive to me so I just lost it and we had an argument in the shop.

my DS didn’t witness me shouting at her but I’d tried to get her attention when she’d parked and so he knew there was an issue.

all the way home he was saying he was worried and asked if the police would arrest her. I feel horrendous that it’s by behaviour that influenced this. I know I should have just left her and found another space.

I am pregnant and hormonal, but didn’t excuse my behaviour.

OP posts:
DisabledDemon · 15/10/2024 14:52

Not unreasonable at all - I get in a rage when people steal disabled spaces and I don't even have pregnancy hormones, just absolute fury at them being such cheeky fucking cunts. Don't feel bad - she was the one who caused the problem and hopefully karma will drop on her from a great height.

Grammarnut · 15/10/2024 22:27

Well, I think being pregnant allows you a lot of lee-way. And someone should tell this woman not to park in a parent and child space when she doesn't have a child with her. Selfish ***

Packetofcrispsplease · 18/10/2024 09:07

mitogoshigg · 13/10/2024 15:50

I actually think they should have parent and child spaces away from the store, with a rack of trolley there for aforementioned parents to decant children into and a path to walk to the store avoiding walking through cars. Extra space for the car seats is what needed not close to shop. They could also do with 15 minutes max spots right by the entrance for when you genuinely are going to be quick so a 2-3 minute trek from your car is proportionately a lot

Absolutely 👍🏻 this is what’s needed !
I have 3 children ( all adults now ) one with disabilities ( no mobility issues ) I didn’t really need a spot near the store , what I needed was a wider parking 🅿️ spot near the trolleys and a safe path to the store .

CostelloJones · 18/10/2024 09:15

The amount of people I have seen take the LAST parent and child space and get out on their own. I know it’s not the end of the world but the selfishness of people really fucks me off, I can’t help but say something sometimes. I just find it hard when I see something that seems to be an injustice.

I once heavily pregnant, with a toddler, had to wait for someone to move their car so I could get into mine because I couldn’t fit between the gap when someone parked next to me in a normal space. And watched a couple about their 50s swan back to their car in a P&C space carrying loads of plants.

Also, if your child is old enough to sit in the car by themself, or your partner is staying in the car with them - you don’t need the space either.

OP, I feel ya - people are bellends

CostelloJones · 18/10/2024 09:17

AND if you can’t get a parent and child space, it doesn’t give you carte blanche to take a Disabled one! I’m not disabled, I just know/see people who do this and it’s a new level of selfish

Pussycat22 · 18/10/2024 09:18

General90 stop beating yourself up pet, bless you.x

ClytemnestraWasMisunderstood · 18/10/2024 09:22

General90 · 13/10/2024 15:25

I feel awful because of my eldest child and it was so out of character for me.

we were going to our local supermarket which is always full of people parking in the child bays without children. Anyway, a car had followed us on the motorway and a roads and had driven like a lunatic, tailgating me and cutting people up. She was in front of me when she pulled into the car park and took the last child space and got out and walked into the shop. My DH was driving so I got out and went in where I proceeded to ask her to move her car and she was aggressive to me so I just lost it and we had an argument in the shop.

my DS didn’t witness me shouting at her but I’d tried to get her attention when she’d parked and so he knew there was an issue.

all the way home he was saying he was worried and asked if the police would arrest her. I feel horrendous that it’s by behaviour that influenced this. I know I should have just left her and found another space.

I am pregnant and hormonal, but didn’t excuse my behaviour.

She was tail-gating you when your husband was driving?

CostelloJones · 18/10/2024 09:23

@General90 stop beating yourself up! I don’t believe for a second no one on here has never over reacted to something minor and only slightly inconvenient. Do not let them convince you there is something wrong with you, the fact you feel bad about it shows that you must be a pretty considerate/kind person in general.

I would have said something too.

I have been known to say to someone parked in a P&C parking space with no child “I think you forgot your child in the car” in a little pas/ag way .. it mortifies my DH but that’s what you get when you marry a Greek/Irish/Española 😂

asdfgasdfg · 03/11/2024 14:53

Assume she didn't have a blue badge! We are allowed to use parent and child spaces if all the disabled spaces are taken.

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