I've booked the trip of a lifetime

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DH & I have been looking for ages and after a few drinks we have booked to go on a holiday of a lifetime, however I need to tell my manager next week. I will need 3 weeks off including over Christmas /NY

I work for a smallish team and we have to split the leave between us as we can't all be off at the same time, so it will mean that some of their Christmas plans will be affected if they were hoping to have time off. I know he might tell me I can't have it off in which case I would leave my job.

I feel awkward about it but also I've just got to that point where I just want to do what makes me happy. Aibu?

Yeah, I get that, but I guess I just really don't see why it matters - whether OP leaves to go to Mexico, to get a new job or to go and live alone on deserted island for six months, the impact on her employer and colleagues is the same.

I suppose it all comes down to how much value you place on your job - for many people, it's just a way of paying the bills and they don't care beyond that, but for others it's part of their identity and so they care a lot more.

You've booked less than 2.5 months in advance relating to time off others may well have booked already? Absolutely foolish ... I hope your manager refuses time off

But she didn't say beach holiday?

Are you unaware of anything else in Mexico?

That’s exactly what I meant @coffeesaveslives there are more important things in life than doing exactly what you want when you want. Other people matter too.

I wonder why it was so important to book a holiday at the exact moment it would inconvenience so many people when Mexico would still be there three weeks later.

and i Really hope this “holiday of a lifetime” isn’t just a fortnight all the inclusive.

Do people who are pissed spend ages planning a detailed itinerary in Mexico? I doubt it. It’s just a Mexico beach holiday. Holiday of a lifetime? I doubt it. Yes there’s more to Mexico but drunk Brits aren’t planning the fine details of that.

Well I think you'll be resigning soon then. Pretty selfish, unless you mean 2025?

@BitOutOfPractice I genuinely don't think I've ever worried about the impact on my colleagues when I've booked a holiday or decided to leave a job 🤷‍♀️

There could be all sorts of reasons it was booked for that week - maybe there was a great deal on, maybe her DH earns better money and is off work then, maybe they have kids in school in January - who knows.

I think people are trying to turn this into a moral argument when it's not - it's just someone who doesn't care about their job anymore and is happy to resign if their annual leave isn't approved.

I genuinely don't think I've ever worried about the impact on my colleagues when I've booked a holiday or decided to leave a job 🤷‍♀️

I haven’t either. I doubt many people would.

Yes, I can't believe nobody has ever left a job after the Christmas rota list has been decided.

A lot of posters just like to stick the boot in and make unpleasant comments, but are ignoring the fact that OP is unhappy in her job and has been wondering about leaving for a while now.

Do all the people calling her selfish and nasty and unpleasant honestly think she should stick in a job she doesn't enjoy just because leaving would mess up the Christmas rota? 😬

Or is it just because she's planning to go and sit on a beach for three weeks that's ruffling feathers? Because heaven forbid a woman does something that makes her happy for a change!

Ignore the jealous haters. Christmas is two months away!! Life is for living.

Your job probably wouldn’t be needed (customer relations) if half the people on this thread sorted their whiny attitudes out

Good luck with your job hunt when you get back.

if you are happy to resign if necessary, to facilitate it, then go on holiday where you like, when you like, for as long as you like. Fine to ask your company for annual leave, but don't expect it to be granted. How your company schedules work when people leave is not your responsibility.

Life is short, go and enjoy your hol. Get a new job.

If an employee of mine did this I would tell them not to worry about the leave as it’s permanent.
how dare you disrespect your fellow colleagues?

Oooooooo! That's a tad selfish from a work/colleagues point of view. I hope the holiday is worth it!

What's disrespectful about choosing to leave a job you don't enjoy anymore?

I don’t know what kind of sheltered world you live in, but fyi you can’t sack someone for asking for three weeks annual leave.

“I work for a smallish team and we have to split the leave between us as we can't all be off at the same time, so it will mean that some of their Christmas plans will be affected if they were hoping to have time off. “

This

It’s rather odd to book a three week holiday without getting the time off work first.

Did you do it deliberately, hoping it would force them to deny it and then you could leave?

“I work for a smallish team and we have to split the leave between us as we can't all be off at the same time, so it will mean that some of their Christmas plans will be affected if they were hoping to have time off. I know he might tell me I can't have it off in which case I would leave my job.”

So, OP is quite comfortable that her small team colleagues will have their Christmas plans affected as long as she has her 3 weeks leave, but if not, she’ll just leave.
No great loss with that attitude.

@Niceandkneesy but people leave jobs all the time - or do you only think it's disrespectful because she's planning on a nice holiday rather than something necessary?

What are you not getting about this? OP isn't planning on handing in her notice, she's planning on requesting 3 weeks AL over Christmas. If she'd said 'AIBU to hand in my notice, I've had enough and we've got enough money to go a nice trip overseas and then look for a new job next year' she'd have had very different responses. The thing that's getting people's backs up is that she almost seems to be gloating about the fact she'll be inconveniencing her colleagues.

@piccolorhinoceros I think you need to read all her posts - she absolutely is planning on handing in her notice if her holiday isn't approved.

I don't think she went about it in the best way but I don't understand why people are so worked up about someone wanting to leave a job because they're no longer happy there - isn't that a totally normal thing to do?

Wouldn't be signed off at my work and I wouldn't approve it for one of my team either. I'm also on 3 months notice so even if I resigned, I wouldn't be leaving until mid-Jan.