I've booked the trip of a lifetime

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DH & I have been looking for ages and after a few drinks we have booked to go on a holiday of a lifetime, however I need to tell my manager next week. I will need 3 weeks off including over Christmas /NY

I work for a smallish team and we have to split the leave between us as we can't all be off at the same time, so it will mean that some of their Christmas plans will be affected if they were hoping to have time off. I know he might tell me I can't have it off in which case I would leave my job.

I feel awkward about it but also I've just got to that point where I just want to do what makes me happy. Aibu?

As she has said trip of a lifetime I very much doubt it's just a beach holiday.

Mexico has an awful lot more to it than Cancun and sitting on the beach...

Someone who can afford to resign? Within weeks of leaving a role colleagues move on, and people are quickly forgotten.
Spending time away with someone you love is remembered forever.

You almost certainly won't get that time off agreed, so put your notice in and see if you can get a new job sorted to start in the new year. Doesn't hurt to start looking now.

Bloody good for you though 👏🏻 if you died, they'd have an advert out for your replacement within a week. Life is too short! Have an amazing holiday.

You might be thinking of leaving but you are still being a selfish arsehole leaving your colleagues in the lurch like this. The world does not revolve around you FFS

Your poor colleagues
Hopefully they'll get a replacement in for you soon so that your colleagues don't have to work extra over the holidays.

Your trip of a lifetime is to Mexico? A whole lifetime? Mexico?

That's really rude

Are You Mexican?

I think you've been pretty hasty. I don't imagine most managers would be inclined to grant 3 weeks off over Christmas. I think you're running the risk of choosing between losing your money on the holiday or losing your job.

I can't imagine booking a holiday before leave was agreed.

Why?

It's rude. Someone really wants to go to Mexico. Their life ambition. Who are you to rubbish it even if you personally think Mexico isn't a good holiday destination.

Most workplaces have a policy re booking leave and getting it approved before booking a holiday! Services wouldn't work otherwise

I think, mentally you’ve already left.
Just resign and either holiday in between, or declare it in any interview.

Congratulations on your new chapter!

Mexico is amazing. have you been to Chichen Itza, Coba or Uxmal? Have you swam in the Cenotes or snorkelled with Turtles at Akumal? Have you been on a boat trip to swim with Whale Sharks or waded through the bioluminescence off Holbox island? Honestly Mexico is one of my favourite countries in the world, stunning and so much to do.

Trip of a lifetime - Mexico?

I'd re-book and go to Costa Rica if I were you and wanted the holiday of a lifetime.

Well if your notice period is short enough that you can do this then why not. Although I wouldn't present it as an ultimatum when you ask. I am sure there will be plenty of people looking for work in the run up to Christmas so they will be able to fill your role.

What bit of Mexico are you going to?

Bet you a tenner OP is going all inclusive and does none of these things

It's pretty selfish unless it's next Christmas, congrats you've just potentially ruined others time off!!

Because OP has posted on a public forum and invited others’ opinions.

Also, I’m clearly not the only one with that opinion, so feel free to jump on them too.

Great for you but sounds very selfish.

While this is true, it doesn't require three weeks off over Christmas. It could be done at a different time of year, or in a slightly shorter time, or after negotiation with her manager. My concern is that someone who seems Mexico as once in a lifetime probably can't afford to give up their job without something else lined up. 3-4 months passes quickly.

waded through the bioluminescence off Holbox island?

Is that where that poor girl nearly got eaten by an alligator/crocodile ?

Jesus! So because on a drunken whim you decided to go on holiday - no one else is allowed Christmas or New Year plans.....wow.

You have savings for only three or four months to cover you if you don't get work for a while and that isn't much money - what if it takes you longer than four months to get a job? Also the potential lack of a reference would worry me. And what would you say in an interview when you're asked why you left your former job? Seems a bit silly what you've done, tbh...if you're comfortably off, however, that's another story.

But @coffeesaveslives its not about a couple of extra quid. It’s the opposite of that.