I've booked the trip of a lifetime

[soundsintheair]

DH & I have been looking for ages and after a few drinks we have booked to go on a holiday of a lifetime, however I need to tell my manager next week. I will need 3 weeks off including over Christmas /NY

I work for a smallish team and we have to split the leave between us as we can't all be off at the same time, so it will mean that some of their Christmas plans will be affected if they were hoping to have time off. I know he might tell me I can't have it off in which case I would leave my job.

I feel awkward about it but also I've just got to that point where I just want to do what makes me happy. Aibu?

Calm down. ‘Selfishly ruining their plans’. Don’t be ridiculous. The employer can hire temporary staff and life will continue.

The OP might have got sick or need leave for any reason. An employer needs to be flexible.

You'll be popular when you go to work on monday

I should have said the NHS hospital where I work doesn’t allow anyone to book annual leave over Christmas and New Year.

You sound incredibly selfish.

Very true

Well don't you sound like an absolutely charming individual...not...
Decent people don't do things like this.

No she doesn’t. She sounds like a normal person who will give her employer plenty of time to find cover.

some posters are so weird

I’m nhs , I got 6weeks off last Christmas
my colleague got 3 weeks off the year before
we are asked to submit our Christmas requests in October …..we are a team of 17 and we have to have 50% of staff in every day so it usually works out hat people get mostly what they want…….but if you wanting to do a big holiday you have to ask much earlier.

im community though and only work Monday to Friday and no bank hols ….so guessing you are ward based.

Your second paragraph astonishes me.

‘Decent people don’t do things like this’ - what change jobs? Need time off? Treat themselves and their husbands? Give the employer 2 months notice?

They do. They absolutely do. And decent normal employers are able to deal with it.

Don't be so daft - people leave jobs all the time, for all kinds of reasons. Leaving because you want to go on "once in a lifetime" holiday is no more selfish than leaving for a new job, or because you're moving house, or because you're retiring etc etc.

I can't imagine showing that level of loyalty to a job. Life's way too short.

I thought you were going to say you were going to go and help in an Asian animal sanctuary or something of the same ilk, when you're prepared to lose your job over it. Not a beach holiday in Mexico!

Are you sure you have this in proportion…? A disgusting individual for taking a holiday with 2 months notice…?

lol, you're the one throwing insults around - I don't think it's PP who's being unpleasant here.

Go and enjoy your holiday. You don’t owe work anything. Either they’ll do anything to keep you, in which case you’ll be fine, or they’ll accept your notice and have time to recruit before Christmas.

I suspect you’re hoping they’ll demand you resign though, so you get a kick up the arse to find a new job you love. Hope it works out for you 💐

@soundsintheair have you requested your leave yet? If so, what was the outcome?

Yes, ward based and as I’ve said upthread, it’s not necessarily NHS policy, just the hospital where I work 😭 I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve had Christmas Day off since I became a nurse more than 30 years ago.

Yep...NHS so based on a ward and definitely would screw my colleagues over and impact patient safety if I did this...but then I wouldn't do something like this...

So you'd never leave your job at this time of year for any reason in case you screwed someone over?

It doesn’t trump everyone else’s plans, but they have the same options. If having time off over Christmas is important to them, they can quit too.

Having the savings to be able to quit your job if it doesn’t suit is certainly a luxury, but it’s one most people could save up for if they wanted to prioritise that. (And having those sorts of savings is sensible anyway).

Unlike you I have to think about the impact my actions might have on other people..

If you were on my team, I’d be glad of you handing in your notice. It would save me a job.

As someone else has already said you are basically saying ‘work the whole teams Christmas around my plans or I’ll leave’. You should just leave.

I'm actually quite relieved that someone who throws constant personal insults around like you do finds me nasty.