Tmi but left sanitary towel in bathroom

[Embarrassed3]

This morning I accidentally left a sanitary towel on the bathroom side. I did roll it up as usual but it must have come undone. This has never happened before and it was a genuine accident. I normally always put it in the bin straight away. Next thing I know DP comes storming in the room shouting “are you having a laugh you fucking scruffy cunt”

I get that nobody would want to see that but it was a genuine accident that has never happened before and I feel so ashamed and embarrassed. I wouldn’t have a problem at all if he’d have come in the room and reminded me not to leave it on the side but what he did actually scared me a bit

Sorry I know tmi

I should think 90% of us have done that at some point. I know I have.

I’d be rethinking my relationship if I were you.

Have you bothered reading all of op posts

I would never put up with a partner who called me that, no matter what I'd done.
Why are you with him? Genuine question.

What a pathetic prick he is. DDog has been known to steal DW’s out of the bin and shred them, not the most pleasant thing to tidy up but you just get on with it. Presumably he’s watched you give birth twice? Surely a bit of period blood is nothing in comparison!

If the house is yours then don't leave ffs

Tell him to leave !

He sounds like a cock lodger !

Definitely don’t feel bad about what you said, you didn’t say anything wrong. He sounds like a narcissist…

Get rid of this awful fucking waste of space. I started my period two nights ago and only realised as I sat on the bed and let a big fat red splodge on the brand new sheets my DH had just finished putting on. He told me not to worry about it and he just put a towel down as the first two days are always terrible for leaks so no point in changing them. Then get gave me a back rub ages ago cuddle and told me he loved me.

He emptied the bathroom bin when both my daughter aged I are on our periods, he bits our sanitary supplies and chocolate and has herpes to clean up multiple massive menstrual fibroid explosions without so much as a flinch.

This "man" of yours is a very very poor example of the sex. A good man supports, builds and celebrates his partner. He doesn't ridicule and call them scruffy cutns for their bodily functions and minor over sights.

What a complete arsehole. And don’t feel ashamed, these things happen.

"what he did actually scared me a bit"

That's the biggest red flag of all.

Seriously? LTB

I’d not be happy with seeing used period products laying about, I’d pull my daughter up about it too. It’s a fairly basic thing to remember to discard your used products before leaving the bathroom.

However no one has a right to talk to you like that at all. There is a massive difference between telling you that you’ve left it out, it’s unacceptably unhygienic and if it happens again it will be a problem, and shouting at someone that they’re a cunt. I second PP’s that the relationship sounds like it’s come to an end and it’s time for him to be out on his arse. Do NOT leave your own home. Pack him a bag of clothes while he’s at the football, change the locks and tell him he’s not welcome back.

No one intends to leave sanitary products out. But that's really not the issue here.

Your partner scared you. He is a bad person. You will be better off without him and so will your Sons.

[not read the thread] I suppose like most men he thinks his cum is a divine fluid that women should be grateful to be blessed with and swallow and smear all over, though? Fucking men.

Sorry, @Embarrassed3 , but 'if'??!!
This should be when
I am amazed at the things women tolerate because they do not want to upset the (toxic, cruel) applecart

Yes, this says it all for me too. I’m not jumping Willy-nilly to LTB but it’s an option if the relationship is past its sell-by date, and only you know that. It’s sounds like you need some headspace to have a good think about what you want going forward - as others have said, it’s your house, so he should leave for a time to give you time to think. Dont you leave! It’s your and your kids home.

It's your house and you're not married?

Kick him out.

@Embarrassed3 this is not normal behaviour. His behaviour is abusive. Unacceptable.

is there a backstory? Is this a one off (doubtful) or does he regularly treat you disrespectfully?

you need to tell him how this has made you feel. Give him the chance to stop this behaviour immediately. If it has been a pattern of behaviour and this is a long line of abusiveness towards you, then it's now time to take action and leave, because he will never change.

If you’re financially stable and it’s your house, being unmarried is perfect. He can go to the football and stay out!! No messy paperwork and you won’t owe him anything.

Speaking to you like that is appalling. Immature knob. The vitriol he used there is reflective of his lack of respect for you. Awful!!

"what he did actually scared me a bit"
In case you missed it.

Go away.

It’s not one angry remark, as the OP made clear.

So the house is yours but then you say

Someone asked if I was able to move out, I’d be able to go to my mums

why would you need to go to your mum's? You aren't even married to this vile specimen, give him his marching orders, he has no legal right to stay there if the property is yours and you aren't married.

now isn't the time to #bekind, it's the time to take the action needed to protect your children from this abusive monster.

Next time I’d put it in his fucking dinner.

Oh! You don't have to go to your mum's

Kick him out. Less disruption for the children

Can you read?

Use this time to gather your important documents (passports/birth certs/bank documents) keep them safe.
Time to get his stuff together in black sacks this afternoon while he's out at football. As you own the house, kick him out.

When he gets back, and sees the black sacks outside the door maybe then it might sink in that you're not just a housemaid and cleaner etc.

Get rid of him.

Oh, and make sure you submit applications for whatever child related allowances you're entitled and eligible for.

(edited to change my suggestion once I read that the OP actually owns the house this bloke is staying in).