Tmi but left sanitary towel in bathroom

[Embarrassed3]

This morning I accidentally left a sanitary towel on the bathroom side. I did roll it up as usual but it must have come undone. This has never happened before and it was a genuine accident. I normally always put it in the bin straight away. Next thing I know DP comes storming in the room shouting “are you having a laugh you fucking scruffy cunt”

I get that nobody would want to see that but it was a genuine accident that has never happened before and I feel so ashamed and embarrassed. I wouldn’t have a problem at all if he’d have come in the room and reminded me not to leave it on the side but what he did actually scared me a bit

Sorry I know tmi

He is awful. He treats you badly. There is no upside for you in this relationship. Why you are with him? You deserve better.

I am so pleased to hear that the house is yours and you're not married 👏👏👏

Send him a text and say he needs to find somewhere else to an after the football match and that he can pick up the rest of his stuff tomorrow.

He sounds disgusting, he treats you badly, is a terrible role model to your children and worst of all thinks he can treat you like that in YOUR home.

He can move out and the bulk of your problems will be solved, life will be so much easier without him and no more piss and shit stains to clean up either 🎉🎉

He sounds absolutely awful, a total overreaction. Is he that offended by the sight of period blood?? I think most men wouldn't have a problem with that at all and definitely wouldn't have said that.

Don't be embarrassed. Everyone has periods and everyone has accidents. He's the awful one

@Cheesecakecookie Well I mean they could have heard I guess but they were still asleep in bed although now I’m wondering if with his shouting he woke them up

He said this to you? He embarrassed you? Over a bodily function that's perfectly natural? What a dickhead

Don't worry about that. Worry about him taking his bad mood out 'over the kids'. One of you needs to leave. You can go to your Mums & start Divorce process from there. Or, if it's better for the kids, can you stay put & he goes? If he is as nasty as he sounds your Mums house might be a safer option as he won't like it if you start to stand up for yourself. Tell your Mum. Go there tonight for a meal / overnight perhaps?

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He sounds nasty.

I don’t think I have ever jumped on the “leave him” bandwagon before, but no one should put up with this. He is not a nice man and does not love you. Throw him out. You deserve respect as a minimum.

Goodness knows what your dh would have said when we realised - a couple of days after she’d left - that a very elderly visiting aunt had left one of her incontinence pads in the guest bathroom bin.

Meanwhile, the almost equally elderly black Labrador who we were looking after for a neighbour while she was away, had found this highly ‘interesting’ item, and shredded it all over the landing carpet…😱

I'm also glad to hear you're not reliant on him. This man doesn't love you, and this isn't a small thing. If I'd done this, my DH would have wrapped it up and put it in the bin and probably wouldn't even have mentioned it to me. On top of that 1) he's trying to shame you and 2) calling you awful names and 3) being in a prolonged mood about this non-event. Unless this is completely out of character and he apologises asap, independently of being asked, and the apology is a very, very good one, I would not be keeping him on.

You feel bad for what you said to him? After what he said to you?!

He’s done a right number on you hasn’t he.

The man is a twat. Get rid!!!!

THe house is yours?

I'd be asking him to leave; tell him you need some time to think about your relationship as you're not sure you want it to continue.

There's no need for you to leave your own house and go to mums, he is the one who should leave, you're not married, neither of you are happy, he's abusive, lazy, selfish and hasn't got the balls to admit that he wants out. You've nothing to feel bad about, wee on the seat and leaving skiddies is revolting and he should clean up after himself, he's not a baby. If you can be bothered I'd say to him he's obviously unhappy, this isn't good for anyone, best he moved out ASAP. If he kicks off in a strop then you know you've done the right thing,

Erm if the house is yours, if you intend to split or take some time to yourself - ask him to leave! You don’t leave and go to your mom’s?

I can’t imagine being spoken to like he did to you no matter what you did. I could never get over being spoken to that way. So you are certainly not over reacting.

Only you can show someone how to and not speak to you by the way you respond to it. It’s not about shaming each other, it’s more about how you speak to each other about it surely.

He's selfish and abusive but on the plus side, you aren't married and the house is yours so you're in a really strong position.

I think you should tell him that he needs to leave. Maybe have someone with you if you think he'll be aggressive. Or ask a locksmith to change the locks when he's out and then chuck his stuff outside.

He sounds like an absolute tw@t my other half would've said you left something on the side in the bathroom so I put it in the bin and then made some joke about it and that would've been it. Newsflash women have periods which involves blood wow who would've known! Sorry he made you feel like crap x

Send him back to his mums and tell her why.
He is a child not a man

Sorry, hadn't seen it was your house. Straight forward then. Tell him to leave. Perhaps have back up in case he gets nasty. Tell others what is happening - 'he's become aggressive & it's affecting me & I'm concerned about the kids too' . No shame for you, it all belongs to him. Onwards & upwards with your life. Later you can explain to your sons that he didn't respect you & that wasn't OK.

Well of course, your long term partner with whom you have children has made one angry remark so by the laws of Mumsnet you must “get ducks in a row” and leave him.

Man alive.

There are many posts here on Mumsnet where the poster shares one incident and then in her subsequent replies reveals that the OP is just the tip of the iceberg. This is one of those posts.

A decent man in this situation might have asked you to be more careful in future, maybe with a tone of mild annoyance. To call you a "fucking scruffy cunt" is uncalled for in any situation, especially if he expects to do things such as urinate on the toilet seat without being challenged in any way.

He scares you (willing to bet this is not the first time you've felt scared by him), has terrible hygiene and doesn't pull his weight as a parent. You deserve better than that.

He sounds awful. At worst he could have ignored it. Any normal man would have either chucked it away himself or the shy ones might have said, “I think you might need to tidy up after yourself in the bathroom”

If the house is yours and you will be ok financially, do not move out! Tell him to move out !!

Have you read the OP's replies? If you read everything else she is saying about this man it becomes easier to understand why people would be giving her this advice.

Well if you’re not married and it’s your house, you can just send him packing.

Don’t leave your own home.

Can you pack him a bag and drop it at his mums/friends house? Change the locks?