Tmi but left sanitary towel in bathroom

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This morning I accidentally left a sanitary towel on the bathroom side. I did roll it up as usual but it must have come undone. This has never happened before and it was a genuine accident. I normally always put it in the bin straight away. Next thing I know DP comes storming in the room shouting “are you having a laugh you fucking scruffy cunt”

I get that nobody would want to see that but it was a genuine accident that has never happened before and I feel so ashamed and embarrassed. I wouldn’t have a problem at all if he’d have come in the room and reminded me not to leave it on the side but what he did actually scared me a bit

Sorry I know tmi

What a vile over-reaction to a normal bodily function. I’m very glad to see it’s boys you have and not girls, I can’t imagine the effect that would have on a young girl. I would not want to stay with someone like that. It’s so easily done, if the bin is needing to be emptied or if you literally just roll it up and put it down for a minute while you get yourself sorted. I’m positive I’ve done that now and again over my 23 years with DH - there have been times I’ve gone back to the bathroom because I thought I’d left one, and I hadn’t, so I’m guessing DH will at some point have just put one in the bin and said nothing.

What a disgusting excuse of a man. I've done this by accident, and DH just puts them in the bin. Doesn't even mention it, I just realise too late and note by the way it's wrapped when I see it. He also changed my maternity pads and wiped blood from my legs when I was bleeding and recovering from an episiotomy, and stuck under a sleeping newborn.

This creature sounds like scum. Get rid, OP. Everything you say about him makes him sound vile.

I think my husband would find it gross too and probably tell me about it but I wouldn't be scared of him and he wouldn't be angry. If you're scared of your husband that's an issue in general.

He said something very rude but you didn’t put up with it and told him why. that’s absolutely great I think. it’s far too early to talk about packing a bag ridiculous not you some of the advice you been given

Wow. I can’t believe this man is your husband. You gotta leave. I’ve been with my boyfriend for around 9 months now. A couple months in, when we’re we’re just dating and now boyfriend/girlfriend, I was on my period and had a really bad flood. I got blood on his bath mat when I was cleaning up, and got a bit flustered so left a sanitary towel on the side (rolled up but kinda bloody from my hands). I left the bathroom to get a change of leggings, he went in… and just cleaned up for me. He knew I’d flooded, he knew I was cramping badly, he had made me a cup of tea while I was in the bathroom and then just went in and cleaned up while I was putting on new leggings and then brought me the tea. A guy I’d known 2 months. Not a bit of “ick” from him, he didn’t find it disgusting… it’s literally just something that happens sometimes.

What a dickhead.

I’ve done these at least 3 times. Not a big deal, sure it’s grim, but it’s an accident - not an on-purpose. If he doesn’t apologise, I would absolutely split. Unacceptable.

It's op house, they are not married, she should not leave. Keeping documents somewhere else safe is a good idea, he could turn even more abusive, difficult and obstructive when he realises he's homeless, has to fend for himself and has to apply fir child access.

What do you suggest op does

Kids hear what you think they don't and your boys are learning now how to treat a woman. This man is belittling you on purpose. It's abusive. You're in a good position by the sounds of things, put him out don't you be going anywhere. I left my ex who was similar, I'm so much happier and more content

Why? Why should women accept men who behave like this? Especially when they have two sons he is influencing.

It’s literally scraping the bottom of the barrel so accept that this is the man she’ll spend her life with. We deserve better. And being alone is better than men who, fundamentally, are not worth our time or effort or care. That is who he is; a man who called his wife disgusting for her period.

I’d be horrified if my sons ever treated somebody like this when they’re older.

Please think about this OP. You are putting up with behaviour that you think is unacceptable even for future hypothetical women.

That's good. Given everything you've said so far, it's time to bring this to a close.

Don't feel bad about what you've said, if he's a dirty oik it's only the truth.

Men reveal who they are in many ways. This is not a good one. I would bet money on the fact he shows the same side of himself in other ways too.

A normal reaction would have been for him to simply put it in the bin. End of.

Unfortunately some people have a very very low bar, they think this sort of behaviour is something to tolerate and make allowances for, and they lack comprehension skills.

One of the clearest cases of LTB I've ever read. Vile man.

His reaction was overly violent and out of line, he could have moaned and been reasonable but shouting and swearing shows how immature he is.

All that being said, the “it’s a natural bodily function” brigade get on my wick. Yes it is but so is weeing and pooing but if my fella left poo covered toilet paper unflushed in the toilet or weed all round the rim and hadn’t wiped it I’d tell him he was being a lazy scruffy git and I’d expect the same if I left sanpro about as well.

You shouldn’t feel bad! What’s the difference between your pad and skid marks, other than I bet he’s left skid marks more than once!

Anyone who used that word with me would be out of my life immediately.

My father wasn't that pleasant at times but when I did this as a teen, all he said was "can you clean up the bathroom" and then I realised I had left a sanitary towel in there, although I agree that the nicer reaction would have been to just bag and bin it. This was in the 80s, so I'll give him a bit of a pass, but you'd have thought men were a bit more enlightened these days.

He's not a good man.
It is your house?
Gather his shit together and tell him leave.
Why are you suggesting you leave YOUR house?
Involve the police if necessary, and get him out.
Harden up and protect your children from this vile toxic prick.

Did you marry a 12 year old boy

Poo and wee are smelly. You might want to think about why you feel that way about menstrual blood but not about blood coming from anywhere else in your body. We were all brought up to consider periods somehow shameful, dirty, needing to be kept hidden - but it makes no sense,

I respect myself too much to be with anyone who thinks it's ok to call me that

What a terrible man. When I accidentally leave one in our bathroom my husband will come and joke with me about it. When I have my period my husband slags me off and will not come into the bathroom when I am in there. I think he overreacted, no one likes a sanitary towel.

Your sons deserve better than this sorry excuse for a man. Pack his bags.

When I have my period my husband slags me off and will not come into the bathroom when I am in there.

What?😳