Tmi but left sanitary towel in bathroom

[Embarrassed3]

This morning I accidentally left a sanitary towel on the bathroom side. I did roll it up as usual but it must have come undone. This has never happened before and it was a genuine accident. I normally always put it in the bin straight away. Next thing I know DP comes storming in the room shouting “are you having a laugh you fucking scruffy cunt”

I get that nobody would want to see that but it was a genuine accident that has never happened before and I feel so ashamed and embarrassed. I wouldn’t have a problem at all if he’d have come in the room and reminded me not to leave it on the side but what he did actually scared me a bit

Sorry I know tmi

Why? He's the one who called you a scruffy cunt for a perfectly normal and natural bodily function! Oh he had to see a sanitary towel with uterine blood on, oh the horror!! You've given birth to 2 of his children ffs, he needs to grow the fuck up!

If you ever do the deed with him again tell him his sperm is disgusting and you can't believe he let it all just come out like that

The house is mine and I guess I’m feeling bad because I’m a genuinely nice person but I know I need to toughen up

How horrible. The normal and kind thing to do would be to quietly dispose of it and say nothing. The name he called you is contemptuous and his reaction immature at best but feels misogynist to me. You deserve better.

I swear but never the c word which i hate so much , to me it is such a derogatory word towards a woman, you made a simple mistake ,most of us have done similar and it's just period blood, blood from the uterus of the woman that bore his children ,shame on him.
He is disgusting not the sanitary towel and you and your precious children deserve much better .
I think this would be the straw that breaks the camels back for me.

I can’t believe you put up with this. Your sons will learn from this man. Get rid.

Your dp is a disgrace how dare he treat you like that what a complete arse.

Please immediately remove your children from this vile and toxic person.
If you have a girl, think of how he will act towards her when her periods start. If you have a boy, think about how his behaviour and attitude will model him

Oh dear! He's a bit disrespectful. He 100% knew you didn't leave it as a present.
I'm so sorry- I'd feel embarrassed to if someone reacted like that.

How do you think he will feel when your giving birth and poo aswell as flush your womb out??

Mmmmm, next time tell him his shit stinks & to go find someone else!

You say you are a genuinely nice person (I believe you). Then please start being nice to yourself and get rid of anything and anyone that drags you down or makes you doubt yourself or feel uncomfortable.

Your husband sounds vile. It's a sanitary towel not nuclear waste. If he thinks your vagina and it's inner workings are so repulsive maybe he doesn't deserve to touch or see them anymore!
I'd tell him to get a fucking life quite frankly.

He had many many options;

1. Say nothing
2. Discreetly say 'your sanitary towel is in the loo'
3. Cover it up
4. Cover it up and put it in the bin

Not once should he have considered calling you a scruffy c**t. I'd be disgusted with someone calling me that.

I wonder how many times he pisses on the toilet or doesn't clean skid marks... does he get called a scruffy c**t by you? I bet not.

I really wouldn't be happy OP and I can see why you are upset.
Are you going to address it with him?

Edited to say I just read the rest of your posts.
He sounds awful and I think you know this. This remark from him might be the straw that breaks the camels back & makes you realise you deserve better.

Leave him, today preferably

Try to harden your heart against your partner if you can - think of it as NOT hardening your heart against your sons - you know you don't want them brought up in an atmosphere like this (angry misogynistic father and unhappy, tearful mother - what will they be learning about relationships?)

Please don't feel sorry or bad about what you said to him - believe me, he will be having no such regrets about the disgusting way he spoke you you and the disgusting language he used about you for something you did accidentally and innocently which involved a natural bodily function which HE doesn not have to put up with.

I wouldn't, but I'd be tempted to stick one on his pillow and say "if you're going to call ne scruffy, I'll show you scruffy"

I wouldn't of course, but I'd really want to 😂

I left one on a friends bed. She told me later and said it's a good job we're friends. Meant with kindness.

There is no need whatsoever to be arsehole about it.

No you just need to chuck him out and think God you’re not married.

Yes you do need to toughen up, not only for the sake of yourself but for your dc. Your boys shouldn’t be growing up thinking it’s ok to treat your partner like he does. He sound a lazy misogynist. Get rid of him.x

Can you cover the costs of the mortgage and bills on your own? If so I would tell him to move out.

@Embarrassed3 I hope you don’t wash his dirty kit and stuff and he treats your house with respect. But it sounds like this is a convenience for him. Maybe his Mum and sister didn’t educate him about periods and stuff but even so his reaction is disgusting. So is leaving skid marks. Sounds like his Mum did too much.

Seriously, tell him to leave and that you’re done.

Your partner’s behaviour was disgusting. I couldn’t have anything to with a man who spoke to me like that. Do you really want him in your life?

You definitely need to toughen up. My DH would never treat me like that and if he did he wouldn’t have any doubt about what I thought about his childish and pathetic behaviour.

You had his kids thanks to your periods. There is NO shame in periods. Nothing to be embarrassed about. Yes it is definitely best to clean up after yourself but it’s no more disgusting than leaving hair all over the sink! Why should women’s bodily functions be subject to such shame and vilification.

Don’t you dare feel bad about what you said!

Thank God the house is yours and you aren’t financially reliant on him. Please tell him to leave. Honestly it’s no way to live. It’s not a good environment for your boys either.

It’s your husbands reaction that’s the problem here. Completely unacceptable. I’ve done this myself before and my DP has just chucked it in the bin and didn’t say a word to me because he didn’t want to embarrass me.

Were they not home ?

Because unless you live in a mansion ofcourse they heard.