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Tmi but left sanitary towel in bathroom

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Embarrassed3 · 12/10/2024 08:45

This morning I accidentally left a sanitary towel on the bathroom side. I did roll it up as usual but it must have come undone. This has never happened before and it was a genuine accident. I normally always put it in the bin straight away. Next thing I know DP comes storming in the room shouting “are you having a laugh you fucking scruffy cunt”

I get that nobody would want to see that but it was a genuine accident that has never happened before and I feel so ashamed and embarrassed. I wouldn’t have a problem at all if he’d have come in the room and reminded me not to leave it on the side but what he did actually scared me a bit

Sorry I know tmi

OP posts:
MoonWoman69 · 13/10/2024 18:04

I know I moan about my DH, but even he wouldn't have batted an eyelid about this! When I had my hip replaced and had just come home from hospital, I had the mother of all heavy periods, which a tampon wouldn't hold and then sudden explosive diarrhoea, just as I managed to get into the bathroom. He'd been helping me upstairs; he basically stripped me down, picked everything up, sorted it out, removed the pad from the shit, put the washer on and then set the shower going, as I sat and cringed/cried with embarrassment! Then while I was in the shower, he set to and washed the floor and the toilet down! Never once did he say anything but "don't get upset love, it's not a problem, I'll sort it out" and not once did a look of disgust cross his face.
And yours was a total mistake, what an over reaction from him!
I think I'd be booting him out of YOUR house! You're not married, there is no need to put up with this 💐

Incognito1975 · 13/10/2024 18:06

You made a. Error but I’d dump the guy for his language 🤣

Judecb · 13/10/2024 18:08

His behaviour is NOT OK. The fact that you felt scared tells you all you need to know.

CommonAsMucklowe · 13/10/2024 18:08

You are ok financially alone and it's your house. Get shot of the disrespectful git asap. If he calls you that, he doesn't even like you. Don't waste anymore of your life with him please. Today was the beginning of the end.

Mumoftwochildrenand6furkids · 13/10/2024 18:12

He sounds awful I know if Id done that my husband would of had an quiet word about it, I would say sorry and that would be it. Who the hell does he think he is talking to anyone like that let alone the women hes suppose to love, i would no way put up with that and what if you had an daighter and he did that to her period shamming is not on.

User37482 · 13/10/2024 18:14

That’s appalling, Dh would have probably just out it in the bin. He’s even changed the sheets while I’ve had a shower after I’ve flooded.

He’s horrible, get rid.

LouDeLou · 13/10/2024 18:15

This is jut so sad, half the population bleed every month, men need to get over it. He wouldn't have reacted that way for a nose bleed - remind him that without that blood YOU WOULD NOT HAVE BEEN ABLE TO GIVE HIS CHILDREN LIFE.

bellabasset · 13/10/2024 18:15

My husband wZ diagnosed with stomach a certain and we meotchim at home asong as we could until the medics insisted he went to a local.hospital where he died. I have become very ill after a ovid vaccination- look at the inquiry where its clear these are untested.I have carers jt still try to keep thongs as clean as I can
Yes of course I"m suing the NHS

MustWeDoThis · 13/10/2024 18:17

Embarrassed3 · 12/10/2024 08:45

This morning I accidentally left a sanitary towel on the bathroom side. I did roll it up as usual but it must have come undone. This has never happened before and it was a genuine accident. I normally always put it in the bin straight away. Next thing I know DP comes storming in the room shouting “are you having a laugh you fucking scruffy cunt”

I get that nobody would want to see that but it was a genuine accident that has never happened before and I feel so ashamed and embarrassed. I wouldn’t have a problem at all if he’d have come in the room and reminded me not to leave it on the side but what he did actually scared me a bit

Sorry I know tmi

My husband would have rolled it up and put it in the bin. He has done before now when I've forgotten. I've gone back and asked where it went and he told me he binned it. He doesn't even tell me - That's how mature he is. He's even help me place them in my underwear and removed them for me, even with tampons when I've fallen really sick before now.

He's just called your husband a spineless c*nt. I agree with him.

Get rid.

HazelPlayer · 13/10/2024 18:21

IamnotSethRogan · 12/10/2024 08:51

Nope he completely over reacted. I've done this a couple of times by accident and my DH just laughs.

Me too.

My h doesn't laugh but he would politely, slightly squeamishly mention it.

His reaction was very ott but the language is particularly nasty.

MustWeDoThis · 13/10/2024 18:23

Embarrassed3 · 12/10/2024 10:09

Now I’m feeling bad for what I said to him🫣

Of course you're feeling bad - You mentioned in another post he makes you out to be the bad guy/feel guilty.

This is gaslighting - This is where a narcissist manipulates their partners emotions to make them feel guilty and victim blame. He is abusive and your kids are growing up in this atmosphere. They will pick up on it and mask how they feel because they won't be able to comprehend what they are feeling, or discuss it.

LightSpeeds · 13/10/2024 18:24

BooBooDoodle · 13/10/2024 17:59

He’s a twat. Next time leave a used one on his side of bed as you leave!

Or write your 'You're dumped' note on it!

leli · 13/10/2024 18:43

Hi OP, I have a habit of leaving my tooth picks around which my DH finds revolting. He picks them up and waves them in my face and says "Do I have to put up with these disgusting things all over the place." To which I say "What about the blood you leave on towels which you drop on the floor and never wash? This is living with another human being." His answer: "Okay, I get it. Let's both try."

I find your partner's language absolutely unacceptable. And if this is characteristic of him and he doesn't say sorry I'm afraid I would be making plans to separate. I separated from my first husband with 2 DC. I was SO worried and upset but the relief of leaving that man has never left me.

Dinosaurhearmeroar · 13/10/2024 18:50

Jesus. What a revolting man. Misogynist. I’m so sorry but that is not okay and you need to find someone who respects you and women.

Freshflower · 13/10/2024 18:52

It's not tmi one bit. There is nothing wrong with accidentally leaving a pad on the floor. The way he reacted is abuse. Is he prone to put you down and call you names?

MostlyCloudy1 · 13/10/2024 18:54

How on earth did you manage giving him two children, was he in the room?!?!?

what a horrible, disgusting pig of a man. That’s a deeply unsettling reaction. My DH would have put it in the bin

Moll2020 · 13/10/2024 18:55

I’m sorry you’re married and have 2 children with a dickhead who has no respect for you whatsoever. Surely you know you’re worth more than this.

TheAquaMentor · 13/10/2024 19:02

How awful for you , my 23 yo autistic DD leaves them in the bathroom and her underwear as she has a problem with bodily function , my DSx2 when they lived at home didnt have a problem in telling her in a nice way that she needs to remove it and put underwear to soak ! you DP needs to wash his mouth out and stop being horrible about something so natural , tell him he is a TNUC ! for trying to embariss you

GlitteryRainbow · 13/10/2024 19:06

If it helps I left my clothes in the bathroom whilst I got dry and into PJs last night. DS comes storming into my room, which one of you has left your period pad in the bathroom, it’s covered in poo (it wasn’t it was brown blood) it’s disgusting.

My DD very sweetly ran and grabbed my knickers and pantyliner for me so they were out of his way.

ThistleTits · 13/10/2024 19:23

@Embarrassed3 terrible overreaction. Horrible sod, maybe if you had wiped your bum on the wall or something, even then...
Reevaluate the full relationship. Oh and don't be embarrassed over a mistake.

toxic44 · 13/10/2024 19:40

How can you live intimately with a man who is disgusted by the normal functioning of the female body? Personally I couldn't be with anyone who spoke to me like that, either. Be careful about how long you permit his misogyny. He won't improve with age.

IcyLilacZebra · 13/10/2024 19:42

His attitude towards you is atrocious on several occasions my dh has dealt with things and never complained

One was when I was food poisoned throwing up everywhere and had a bad stomach he cleaned it all for me no problem and didn't complain and the other was we was on holiday and I had come on my period unexpectedly and bleeding heavily he went out in the middle of the night and helped get me pads and things he always buys my pads in the shopping to because he drives and I don't

Your dh tone about this is absolutely disgusting

Ladymeade · 13/10/2024 19:54

Even said in a normal tone, that statement is unacceptable. If he said it in the manner that I suspect he did, he is utterly horrible and has no respect for you whatsoever....

xyz111 · 13/10/2024 19:54

He sounds awful. If it's your house then I'd be telling him to leave. Doesn't sound like any good qualities about him. Your kids will grow up thinking this is how you treat women. You're worth more than this OP

Grammarnut · 13/10/2024 20:02

Get rid of DP. How dare he say such a thing. Why didn't he just put it in the bin, ffs and say nothing at all? Rubbish man.

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