Screaming kids on trains what the F is wrong with parents these days

[denverz]

I mean why can’t parents tell they’re not so dc to shut the hell up? I mean they don’t have to say it quite like that of course but come on parent your kids. I’m currently on a long haul train to London there are only five stops and the first three were blissful then gets on a dad with two kids one school aged one toddler and neither will stop shouting. I know kids get excited and that’s all well and good but it’s 7am and people are sleeping on the train. The dad isn’t even attempting to quiet them foen. AIbu to think he’s a knob?

YANBU, I find that these days manners and consideration for others has completely gone out of the window unfortunately.

If he’s making no attempt then that’s shit. I do feel sorry for parents that are clearly trying and obviously have very difficult children.

YABU to imply this is all ‘parents these days’ based on one experience with one parent. There are shit parents and good parents, just like there have always been. And I can’t judge this parent as we don’t know the full circumstances here.

Not trying to shut them up is shit
Parent your child ffs

And yes I'm the mother of three occasionally noisy children I make an effort to calm them down!

Yes he's an entitled nob, he should be active in trying to calm them down, he should be pointing out to them the impact their behaviour has on other people.

Can you move seats
I was on a short (1 hour) train journey recently, on the outward journey a woman had her music blaring (despite wearing ear buds). I moved seats. On the return journey a group of teenage boys were huddled round a table seat watching an action movie with the volume blaring. Unfortunately no room to move. On a long coach trip the man behind us has his music playing and my DH asked him to turn it off and he did thankfully.
People just dont care about anyone else 👿

Aw yeah of course I too feel bad for parents who try their best to call their dc but the dc are having none of it but in this case the parent doesn’t seem to give a damn.

^ This, 100%

Basic manners and consideration for other people seems at an all time low. You see it every day on the bus, in the supermarket etc. So many self centred self entitled people around.

Children do get noisy and excited. I've got kids myself. But you can also teach them to respect others and remind them that it's still early and some people are trying to relax/sleep and we're in a public place so try and get them to keep the volume down.

It's not just parents, people have really forgotten how to behave in public the last few years and it's got way worse since the pandemic. I often dream of being invisible on the commute and slapping headphones on the ears of people sharing their dubious musical taste with everyone else. And I've often wished children came with a volume controller or at least a pitch controller.

I know what you mean. It's gotten to the point where I dread bumping into the general public 😆

Of course individual people can be amazing and kind but so many behave poorly.

Generally speaking, I'd rather commute with wild animals than humans.

Can you run up and down the aisle screaming and then when the dad asks YOU what the hell YOU'RE doing say its not very nice or considerate is it?! Maybe he'll catch the hint

Honestly I would just end up saying 'quite loudly' 'for goodness sake shut up'

they probably will too as it's coming from another adult and not their parent 🤣

100%

Kids tend to behave worse with their parents and teachers.

They seem to get more embarrassed when others pull them up.

The non parenting style that lets everyone else suffer the consequences drives me insane. It's selfish, entitled and they are raising children that won't fit into society well because they have no idea how to behave.

Mine get "the look" if they pull a stunt like that. We are travelling on holiday by train soon and have games for them to do at the tables like gin rummy and battleship etc. Hoping that will help. I feel sorry for you OP. Some parents just don't give a toss. Fortunately some of us do!

Ugh why are people like this? I was on a train the other day and some very grubby man was blaring some racket from his phone and I got up and walked to another carriage. He started mumbling something along the lines of “that’s right off you go”. He did it on purpose the old prick.

I don't know if it's worse or not. But now we have DC & often are out & about where people have DC, then, yes, a lot of people are inconsiderate.

We were on holidays a couple of weeks ago & on a 1 hr bus tour. A toddler screamed the whole way. Mum was taking sexy selfies & dad was filming out the window. At one point the kid was hanging over the seat, screaming, about 10cm from my face & I eventually said, surprisingly calmly, 'for God's sake, put your phones down & parent your child'. They were VERY quick to yank him off the seat but not much else. The poor guide was trying to get them to get the child to sit, even pointing out the danger of they had to brake suddenly, but parents ignored it.

But, I'm also annoyed by people who go to our parks & have music blaring, often so loud we've had to move on so we can talk.

I’d calmly and politely say to the dad ‘would you mind keeping your children a bit quieter I’ve got a migraine’ or something similar. He can’t get pissy if you’re polite and will get the message that they’re being v v loud. Agree some parents are dreadful

A woman shouted this recently at my 16 month old son who was crying because the train had been delayed leaving for over an hour and he didn’t understand. I was making every effort to settle him. The train conductor asked her to leave.

I'm not that fussed by loud kids tbh. Kids are kids. I like hearing kids play.

I'm more bothered by adults playing music without headphones and people in theatres constantly yakking and getting up and milling around during the performance which seems to be the norm now.

I find that the be kind generation, can be the very selfish generation

I find more and more people treat public shared spaces like its their own personal living room.

That's gentle parenting for you
Let the be feral

Inconsiderate people everywhere… I would have wanted to say something to the father. but probably wouldn’t have dared to. My death stare isn’t always enough!

I also hate it when people play very loud music videos on the train. The 20 something man on my train yesterday. The middle aged woman who sat near me having conversation on speaker phone. Ffs!!!! So irritating! There should be a rule about having to use headphones.