Things someone has done that suddenly made you weirdly attracted to them

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I got to work this morning and I have a bit of equipment that I use that I always struggle setting up.

I turned up a bit early and put it on the table ready to set up. A guy I work with who honestly I have never really even liked as a person and am DEFINITELY not remotely
physically attracted to, picked it up off the table while we were all chatting before our shift, and wordlessly constructed it for me.

For a minute I thought he thought it was his and was very confused, but he handed it to me once done.

I cannot stress how much I am not attracted to this man but it was weirdly hot.

Please share your versions of this so I know I’m not a complete weirdo!

Picking up my DS from a party in one of those big community halls. One of the dads was in the kitchen with a pair of marigolds elbow deep in washing up water. I've never fancied a man more than in that moment 😂 if it wasn't for that incident, I wouldn't have given him a second glance.

If only men knew how attractive it is if they are capable - particularly if they do something without being asked to do it.

Very revealing 😂

Totally get this. Worked with a guy for ages, never gave him a second thought. Then we went to a series of events where we had to build a lot of equipment and he was just so...capable. Shirtsleeves rolled up and nice forearms kinda capable.

I've never quite got over it ☺️

Definitely this! Offering to carry my case up the stairs in the train station, or just noticing that I need something and doing it before I have to do it myself. Very attractive!

Seeing any man do something that he is good at, without a second thought, does it for me. Especially if it's something I can't do or can only do in a rubbish fashion.

Oh god yes - competence is a very, very attractive quality. Unflappability also.

I've got two examples:

A Christmas party 3 of us had to get to, long ago, in London on a filthy wet night with hardly any cabs to be seen. My friend's husband said "it's fine, follow me" and swept us through the Grosvenor Hotel to the back where there were loads of black cabs and we easily got one to take us to our venue. SWOON!

And the other is more recent; dh vacuuming the whole house and putting clean sheets on our bed on a Friday afternoon. Double swoon!

I know, and instead they spend all of their time feigning helplessness. Little realising your vag is clamping shut every time you have to clean the bathroom/put up a shelf/mow the lawn yourself because they are scared of the lawnmower.

When I saw my friend's DH clean a highchair meticulously with his sleeves rolled up I suddenly had a huge crush on him. Never found him attractive in my life before that! It dissipated after a few mins and I did joke to my friend about it, funnily enough she said it's not the first time someone had commented on his sexy cleaning skills 😂

I had a male colleague in a previous job who always seemed to know what I wanted or needed before I did. He was very sweet but much too young to be fanciable, but oh my it was such an attractive quality. My DH of about a hundred years is a lovely man but he's oblivious to that sort of stuff.

There's a man at my current work who has this aura of capability and calm about him that makes him hot, even though he really isn't all that. He's very clever and can fix things, a combination I find very attractive. Hmmm, reading that bit back I think I'd better keep out of his way

Dating my now husband we went to but my (first) car. The car dealer was so awful (manipulative/deceitful) that we got up to go. My then bf reached across the counter and plucked back some paperwork that I had filled out with tons of financial information and the dealer was stunned. He just took it. I had no idea you could do that. I fell madly in love.

I remember on a similar thread someone mentioned the concept of "competence porn" which also seems to be a theme here. Having nice forearms while displaying the competence seems to be a bonus 😂

Micheal McIntyre did a routine about his wife telling him how sexy she found it when he reversed the car. I’m totally with her on that one, when a man just casually reverses into a really tight space, one hand on the wheel, the other on the back of the seat while he looks behind him. Bonus points for rolled up sleeves and nice forearms.

I find it very attractive when somebody makes an effort to make conversation or just generally be friendly. So many people these days - I’m sure for various reasons - make no effort to create a nice atmosphere or to be welcoming or friendly to others that when people do it stands out.

Leadership qualities are what I am reading about here . Leadership without mansplaining or being superior.

I really fancy my non practical at all dh when he mows the lawn. Extra points for cap on backwards.

When Rory Stewart talked about how he felt when people he thought were his friends and who had promised their support didn't support him as Tory leader. And I am a life long Labour supporter....

"Competence porn", love it! 😄

My DH can't drive so I always have to do it. So when I am driven in a car by a man, I get all floppy in the knees, that sheer 'being taken care of' thing... 😍

Also, doing DIY without making a big flappy fuss about it and needing me to stand by with tools and bandages... DH is a pointy headed scientist and city boy, and has his qualities, but I sometimes hanker for my first real boyfriend, a farmer, who was so casually capable and physically strong, and tended to the animals with calm and assurance, and smelt of good, work sweat, oh my... sigh... 😅

Do you need a minute? 😂

This thread is brilliant.

This is about my dh - when we first started dating he’d come round for a meal and we were carrying our plates through to the dishwasher and I tripped and my plate etc went everywhere. I was so used to my ex just being an arse and not helping I picked up the dustpan and sponge etc and started cleaning it up, expecting dh to go and sit back down. He took the other sponge from the side and started to help me 😳 It was that moment I thought I’m going to marry this man 🤣🤣

A colleague who I'd asked for help, but had been fairly unhelpful, then called and admitted he'd made a mistake in the previous conversation, and said that he'd thought about it and now agreed with me, and offered to help however he could. It's years since we worked together, but I still think about that..
I often think though, that that's a bloody low bar for men isn't it! Admits that they were wrong and is not a dick about it..!

At the start of the pandemic, before we were all sent home (and clearly before we were paranoid about catching covid!) a colleague was testing out video conferencing between my computer and his.. never really looked at him twice beyond finding him a generally pleasant person to work with.. he spent ages working around me, leaning over me to change settings and adjust things on my computer, I developed a sudden massive crush that took years to get over 😂

Yep, and every time I see it I think "what you're talking about there is competence" which I think is borne out by the rest of the thread!

In a slightly different context, my husband said something to me a few weeks ago which was totally and utterly unromantic but indicated to me that he'd noticed something about me which I really didn't think he'd have picked up on and I was dealing with on my own (and this was fine, I wasn't resentful about it) and then gave me loads of support I didn't realise I needed until that moment. Amazing.

Aha, snap! Used that particular brand of hotness in a best woman speech at a wedding once!