Things someone has done that suddenly made you weirdly attracted to them

[Carryonrunning]

I got to work this morning and I have a bit of equipment that I use that I always struggle setting up.

I turned up a bit early and put it on the table ready to set up. A guy I work with who honestly I have never really even liked as a person and am DEFINITELY not remotely
physically attracted to, picked it up off the table while we were all chatting before our shift, and wordlessly constructed it for me.

For a minute I thought he thought it was his and was very confused, but he handed it to me once done.

I cannot stress how much I am not attracted to this man but it was weirdly hot.

Please share your versions of this so I know I’m not a complete weirdo!

This!

Had a fiance that looked like Ethan Hawke we were out on a hike and he started throwing rocks at a chipmunk! My protestations were met with an "it's a dumb animal!" Put me right off him.

My DH - he loves animals and is kind to them. He also is pretty handy, love it when he wears long johns for working in cold weather - swoon! He thinks I'm nuts 😆

Loving this thread! Especially the post about men displaying photos of themselves on dating sites, washing up and hoovering ! Definitely gave me a laugh.k

Here are mine

Men who can sing. Walked past an average guy singing 'Last request' the other day in town. Not much to look at but that voice made me come over all funny.

Men who can dance. Gorka from strictly comes to mind. Never looked twice at him until the other night....

Also a time when a work colleague told me to 'come here' (It was raining and I was about to go out the door but he said he had an umbrella I could take).

Men who show concern and kindness. Again, it was raining and a male colleague actually came to the office door to come and accompany me as it was thrashing it down. He walked with me, sheltering me as he did so and when we got in the car he asked if I was OK, kept shooting me concerned looks and said we could go back via my home so I could get a change of clothes as he noticed that even in that short walk outside that all my clothing was wet. I think he was worried as he knew I had just been diagnosed with RA but it was incredibly sweet. Also the same guy hopping out of the car and running with his kids daughters umbrella wearing shorts. Something very endearing yet hot at the same time. Also loved how he would take on an active role with his kids as in he would organise play dates and after school activities etc. As well as doing all the food shopping and cooking regularly. His wife is very lucky!

Was invited to a kids party at a country house with a gravel drive. One of the mums arrived and got her car stuck in the gravel. The ‘man of the house’ came out and expertly moved it with just the right amount of revs. It did help that it was a posh car and he was wearing a linen shirt!

My DH, when a friend asked him to bring his chainsaw to cut some branches. Just seeing him striding off confidently with his chainsaw…

🥲❤

Was invited to a kids party at a country house with a gravel drive. One of the mums arrived and got her car stuck in the gravel. The ‘man of the house’ came out and expertly moved it with just the right amount of revs.

it’s so annoying that I’m not a man as I’m great at this (and parking)! I once slow-revved our van out of a gravelly hole when exP couldn’t, but he just felt emasculated and pissed off (after begrudgingly letting me have a go after he’d made it loads worse).

I used to speak on the phone to someone who was located in Ireland.
I never knew what he looked like, but that voice !!!!

A man who stands up for people who are less powerful than him. Always. I'm not talking about the "head of the house" defending his family regressive stuff, I'm talking about men who will stand up at a potential cost to themselves to confront other men about sexism, racism, homophobia. Not in a performative ally kind of way either, you can always tell, but because they have a social conscience and principles they believe in. Years ago a friend became a very decent FWB for quite a while after I was in the pub with him and a very sexist guy we both sort of knew - my friend tore him to shreds with pretty cutting humour and my knees went very weak.

I've been in and around a lot of protest movements (here and abroad) over the years and while I don't mean to be flippant about the causes (which I was also protesting for/against!) it's very attractive to see a man who believes so much in something that he'll take those risks for it.

Less seriously a surprising one is always seeing someone dressed in a different context. Seeing a man usually dressed in casual or sports gear in a suit for the first time - or vice versa! - can really make you look at them in a different way.

I'm absolutely not here for the competence porn nonsense though. Housework is not erotic in any way. I'm appreciative when a man is competent but that is not the same thing as sexual attraction at all. To be honest I'm a little disturbed that some people's lives are so chore-focused that it would be on their sexual radar. Possibly this is all because I am a slattern and if they applied the same standard to us I'd be a uge turn-off!

Oh and all the men reversing with their arms over the seat can get in the bin. Polluters! Too many men already think their car is an extension of their dick, let's not encourage them any further.

Less seriously a surprising one is always seeing someone dressed in a different context. Seeing a man usually dressed in casual or sports gear in a suit for the first time - or vice versa! - can really make you look at them in a different way.

Oh god this has just made me shudder in remembered embarrassment. Back when I was on Tinder I came across a photo of an attractive man in a suit. I thought “I know him from somewhere.” Looked at his (unusual) name and thought “but I don’t know anyone called Percy…”

Next photo, also suit, also handsome, also familiar.

Next photo he’s in sports kit and I suddenly recognise him as my son’s PE teacher, throw my phone across the sofa in shock and accidentally SUPERLIKE him in the process… Awful!

I never spoke to or looked at him again and after a few months thankfully he emigrated so I didn’t have to…

A male colleague who used to whisper when he first came in of a morning and it was dark and quiet and just a few of us in work. Strangely hot.

Good dancers (fans self ) a la Tom
hiddlestone.
My gran used to say
Dancing is a vertical expression. Of a horizontal intention. Never understood until this. Never fancied him until this

https://youtube.com/shorts/C2Ba1HbIHHg?si=TCvLabJJr4CZ4pb0

MrCat and I were walking down a one way street when a car veered down - the wrong way - and clipped me. MrCat chased after him and kicked doors before driver fled. I know violence not the answer but the heart was a flutter . . . Previous husband woke me up with 'I think there's someone downstairs, can you go and check?' So a bit of masculine protection was very attractive.

gannett Men obviously 'know' about the housework one too. Several Bumble profiles with men 'doing the hoovering'.

I'm going to add a new one that's just happened.
'When a man goes out of his way to come & stroke my cat'

I work as a cleaner and one of my clients is a bloke who is always nice to me and pleasant when he is working from home from time to time.

I pretty much live week to week and have no spare money and just before Christmas a few years ago, I was at his house and was telling him how difficult it was going to be at Christmas as my boiler had just broken down and I had spent £200 getting it repaired.

The next week he had left a Christmas card for me and inside it was a gift voucher for £200 for M and S with a message “Make sure you enjoy Christmas with your kids! “

Oh my god. It was the nicest thing a man had ever done for me. I hadn’t looked at him that way at all before but that day I would have jumped him! 🤣

I haven't been in that position - but I freely admit that I find capable men very much more attractive than those who arent. I am more likely to be attracted to somebody who is willing and able to do something, and to do it well, than someone who isnt.

I'm going to add a new one that's just happened.
'When a man goes out of his way to come & stroke my cat'

Is this a euphemism? <narrows eyes>

Absolutely not, Arraminta, You have a filthy mind
He crossed over with the sole purpose of saying hello to my cat, 'Ooh aren't you beautiful. Yes you are. You are lovely, yes you are!' & then he crossed back over. I was watching (swooning) from the window, hidden from view.

My late DH.. in a boiler suit, stripping an engine or doing work in the garden, not having shaved for a few days.. then wearing a suit & smelling delicious.. ooh, it got suddenly HOT! Thanks, @Carryonrunning for the gorgeous memories!

What does that mean??

Dpony. 😂😂😂😂

When I was early 30s some new graduates started at my work. One guy was assigned to my dept and seemed nice, pleasant and average and sporty looking. I didn't really know him but a few months in he had 2 weeks annual leave. I asked him where he had been, expecting news of a lads holiday but he was in Africa doing a construction project, 2 weeks of intense manual labour with a charity. Swoon. I can't remember even what country but he had spent his time off as a student volunteering and he knew a lot about the community and culture and political situation. He spoke so passionately about the lack of hygiene and health care system and corruption etc. I suddenly thought he was sexy as hell.

Terms that differentiate powerful men from men generally? They exist.

Alpha male

Top dog

Silverback etc.

If "chivalry" means taking charge of a woman while treating her with kind consideration then I guess the opposite is "mothering".