Things someone has done that suddenly made you weirdly attracted to them

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I got to work this morning and I have a bit of equipment that I use that I always struggle setting up.

I turned up a bit early and put it on the table ready to set up. A guy I work with who honestly I have never really even liked as a person and am DEFINITELY not remotely
physically attracted to, picked it up off the table while we were all chatting before our shift, and wordlessly constructed it for me.

For a minute I thought he thought it was his and was very confused, but he handed it to me once done.

I cannot stress how much I am not attracted to this man but it was weirdly hot.

Please share your versions of this so I know I’m not a complete weirdo!

DH (then BF) and I were on holiday somewhere hot and humid. I got a bit overcome by it and he steered me to a snack stand, bought some drinks and snacks, and asked me with a very serious face if I wanted my lemonade first or my cookie first. I decided at that point I'd marry him.

Two male colleagues at a work event involving punting. They each offered to punt while the rest of us relaxed in the boats. I was transfixed, staring at both men, who I'd never fancied before, calmly steering the punts along, in slight competition with each other, laughing but also concentrating hard on the task - shirt sleeves rolled up, of course. If women could get erections I'd have had a massive one.

Maybe we could change this thread title to ‘if women could get erections’ 😂

Once, very heavily pregnant and slightly hormonal me, couldn't reverse into a parking space (between a wall and a column) AND get out of the car - it was physically impossible for me
Someone I worked with literally rolled up his sleeves (sleeve tattoo), reversed it in, handed me the keys and told me to IM him when I was leaving and he'd get it out for me

Mop needed in aisle 4!

Not sure this one counts but I once saw a young priest in his vestments (?) - just the plain black ankle length garment- crossing the road. Was very 'Matrix'. He was obviously a good looking man but the priest thing makes it a bit particularly as I am not in the smallest but religious.

Definitely agreeing with all the competence posts! My DH is one of those men that could be super annoying because he's good at literally everything. However he's confident in his abilities but incredibly modest so it isn't annoying, and he'll use those abilities to help anyone and everyone. I fancied him something rotten when I first saw him across the crowded pub but boy when I see him doing something...could be up a ladder, parallel parking, sawing something etc I go weak at the knees all over again 😂

DH casually asking if I’d like to know what my SIPP was now worth. Vaguely aware he set one up for me when we married 23 years ago. I gave permission to the firm for him to manage the investments (DH an accountant). It’s a huge sum. He just did it. Hasn’t gone on about it over the years. Sexiest man alive.

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This'd do it.

You can keep your forearms and lifting heavy shit

A guy I worked with told me he lay on his sons floor and held his hand every night to help him sleep. I felt weirdly attracted to him them.

My ex hired a catamaran for us (while on holiday) without fuss or performance and sailed us around a bay in France for the day. He hadn't mentioned he could sail and it felt like the video for Rio.

This is sweet, did you carry on seeing him??

Mind you, I don't think all women melt at competence porn. There are plenty on this site who seem to find pathetic incompetence attractive.🤔

DH and I met at university. The first time I went to visit him at his parent's house his little sister was only 6. One night, she fell asleep on the sofa so he just casually (but very gently) picked her up and carried her upstairs to bed. It was clear he'd done it so many times before.

I knew then he'd be the most amazing, loving Dad (and he was).

https://www.bbc.com/news/live/clyvxxzzjqxt

This. Obama telling it like it is

Ffs

Change it to "what everyday stuff men do gives you a wide-on?"

@Compash

I’ve been married to my farmer for over 40 years.He’s an old guy now, obviously. So competent, brilliant at reversing giant farm machinery, can fix stuff , sort things, kind to children and stock, all done without fanfare. Competence is very attractive and lasts well!

Swoon.....tell us more!

I had someone in doing some tiling in my kitchen, I heard him talking, and realised he was negotiating with the cat, he said something like “ OK, but this is the last one, you’ll get sick if you eat too many.” And realised the cat had cute tricked him into doling out dreamies. He wasn’t at all fanciable, but I bought him better biscuits for the next day.

This reminds me of my own parents. My Dad was an economist and he always told my Mum that if he died before her, he would make sure she was taken care of for the rest of her life and that she would always be comfortable. They had a very traditional marriage, he brought in the money, she ran the house, and she asked nothing more about it. When he died, it turned out he had investments and bonds that matured and she inherited a huge sum of money. She would never tell me exactly how much, but I reckon not far off a million.

The men you find hot come across as calculating psychos to me. And your ordinary partners come across more authentic.

The vet. I had never really thought of him before, but the way he handled my very upset and angry cat (!) after an accident.

I tried to hold her while he gave her an injection.

Moved me away, saying, 'No, it's my job to deal with the sharp end'. So competent and effective whilst still being kind.

Still think of him years later.

Men singing, properly and well in a deep voice. Like that bit in Love Actually when Hugh Grant starts singing Good King Wenceslas and his bodyguard joins in in a proper Welsh tabernacle choir voice and suddenly you fancy the bodyguard. Just me?

Now DH started whistling in tune in a piano bar when we were first going out and the pianist came up afterwards and complimented him on it - that was hot.

I once accompanied my husband on a quick job of his in North Wales, just a quick safety test on the ladders and safety railings of a mobile phone mast. Sitting there in the truck seeing him kitted in harness and helmet did things to me.

And without any fuss or melodrama.

Quiet solidity is so...sexy 🥰

So many with Dh. He is a calm super clever competent one. I know if our family were trapped in a rainforest whilst pursued by attackers (or similar) his brains and competence would save us.

We were on a safari years ago when we first got together. Us and another young couple were walking to the dinner hall when we were attacked by a monkey. The other couple and me just automatically stood back while Dh saw it off. He proposed the following week and it was an easy yes.

My dentist was suddenly attractive. Usually gruff bordering on scornful, but when I appeared in horrible pain and in need of root canal treatment, he very quickly took charge, got me sorted out with antibiotics and a pain killer regime for a few days until I could have the actual procedure. He understood how I was feeling and was so much more humane than normal.

(I may have been suffering from Stockholm Syndrome!)

So funny, @TheaBrandt. What would you have done if he'd crouched down and cried?