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Not to help catch a stray/escaped dog! Now it’s my fault it’s been injured apparently!

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notmyproblems · 10/10/2024 12:32

Someone’s dog keeps escaping and for some reason it kept making its way into my garden. It had been dodging cars apparently and being a nuisance. Regularly have people knocking asking is it mine.

Two weeks ago someone saw it run into my garden and they were banging on the door . I answered (I was WFH and busy) and they were demanding to be allowed into the garden to keep hold of the dog till the warden could get there. I said no. Wait till it goes back out again (I didn’t want someone I don’t know in my house / garden) then catch it and secure it .

Ive since got the gap fixed and the dog can’t get in anymore. Haven’t seen it

Had a knock on the door today (same person) saying the dog had been hit by a car and they’d had to take it to a vet and how it all could have been avoided had I allowed them access and they hoped I was happy with having it on my conscience. So i just closed the door as they were still talking which made them shout and bang on the door???

Im not the irresponsible dog owner so it’s not my fault !

OP posts:
Petitchat · 12/10/2024 21:56

Jzp · 12/10/2024 20:15

YABVU. Does it make you happy being deliberately obstructive? At the end of the day that’s a living creature that your actions put at risk. If you were that busy with work you wouldn’t have answered the door in the first place

Does it make YOU happy being judgemental on a thread where you so obviously haven't read the OP posts?

Petitchat · 12/10/2024 22:04

Backtoblack87 · 12/10/2024 09:31

Ok! We can agree to disagree! Not all men are going are awful. There was a backstory. If wasn’t as if a random man knocked on the door without a reason. What a sad world we live in! Anyway. We all have our opinions.

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And we all decide whether to safeguard ourselves or not.....

There WAS a random man knocking on the door without a reason.
He spoke about a dog but OP never saw it.
He said he'd sent for a warden but no warden ever came.

Two weeks later he came again acting and shouting aggressively.

Bored86 · 13/10/2024 18:22

Not unreasonable but a bit of a dick move. Despite the owners being shitty an animal has been severely hurt. Could have been avoided. It’s not the dogs fault is it yet now it’s in pain.

Procrastinates · 13/10/2024 18:34

Bored86 · 13/10/2024 18:22

Not unreasonable but a bit of a dick move. Despite the owners being shitty an animal has been severely hurt. Could have been avoided. It’s not the dogs fault is it yet now it’s in pain.

I'm still days later yet to see how the OP is in any way responsible for the animal getting injured... Can you please clarify why this is the OPs fault. 🤨

CosyLemur · 13/10/2024 19:34

Honestly I think it was both your fault and the owners fault.
If you didn't want someone to walk through your house why didn't you go and get it for them. They were offering to secure the dog so it a) didn't cause damage to your garden
And b) to ensure it was safe.

CosyLemur · 13/10/2024 19:37

Petitchat · 12/10/2024 22:04

And we all decide whether to safeguard ourselves or not.....

There WAS a random man knocking on the door without a reason.
He spoke about a dog but OP never saw it.
He said he'd sent for a warden but no warden ever came.

Two weeks later he came again acting and shouting aggressively.

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She saw it she said she knew it was in her garden!

OrdsallChord · 13/10/2024 20:21

CosyLemur · 13/10/2024 19:37

She saw it she said she knew it was in her garden!

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Where did she say that?

phoenixrosehere · 13/10/2024 21:00

CosyLemur · 13/10/2024 19:34

Honestly I think it was both your fault and the owners fault.
If you didn't want someone to walk through your house why didn't you go and get it for them. They were offering to secure the dog so it a) didn't cause damage to your garden
And b) to ensure it was safe.

Why is it so difficult for some posters to understand that not everyone is so comfortable with dogs that they are willing to approach a dog that is not theirs and try to secure it with their hands. Most of us don’t have leashes or something of the sort just lying around just in case. Many also don’t want to risk getting bit by one either.

She also suggested the guy secure it after it left her garden which he didn’t want to do and instead wanted to go inside her house to wait for the dog warden that never showed.

The dog left her garden either way without his help and could have done so before even if she did allow him in.

It’s not her fault that the dog got hit. He seemed to know a lot about the dog and its whereabouts. Perhaps, he is really only blaming OP because he himself couldn’t catch the dog. A dog that is happy to run around freely, probably doesn’t want to be caught by some random person or thinks it is a game.

Petitchat · 13/10/2024 21:40

CosyLemur · 13/10/2024 19:34

Honestly I think it was both your fault and the owners fault.
If you didn't want someone to walk through your house why didn't you go and get it for them. They were offering to secure the dog so it a) didn't cause damage to your garden
And b) to ensure it was safe.

SHE WAS WORKING ??

SHE DIDN'T SEE THE DOG ??

THE MAN WAS A COMPLETE STRANGER??

GET WHAT FOR THEM??

Bellatrixpure · 13/10/2024 21:44

Bored86 · 13/10/2024 18:22

Not unreasonable but a bit of a dick move. Despite the owners being shitty an animal has been severely hurt. Could have been avoided. It’s not the dogs fault is it yet now it’s in pain.

And the fact that it was hurt has nothing to do with what the OP did or didn’t do.

Why do you think OP could have stopped an accident 2 weeks after the dog was in her garden?

Petitchat · 13/10/2024 21:46

CosyLemur · 13/10/2024 19:37

She saw it she said she knew it was in her garden!

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She didn't see the dog herself at the time in question.
Someone said it was in her garden.

Petitchat · 13/10/2024 21:55

Bored86 · 13/10/2024 18:22

Not unreasonable but a bit of a dick move. Despite the owners being shitty an animal has been severely hurt. Could have been avoided. It’s not the dogs fault is it yet now it’s in pain.

What was the "dick move"?

Bibbiddiebopbiddiedooyeah · 13/10/2024 22:23

We get it, you work…

Petitchat · 13/10/2024 22:53

Bibbiddiebopbiddiedooyeah · 13/10/2024 22:23

We get it, you work…

Wonder why posters keep ignoring it then?

thoonerismspread · 14/10/2024 15:23

Probably because a lot of us that would have helped, also work.

sharpclawedkitten · 14/10/2024 15:45

thoonerismspread · 14/10/2024 15:23

Probably because a lot of us that would have helped, also work.

I know it's difficult for some MNers to grasp, but everyone's job is different.

And I'm wondering how, even if I helped someone with an off-lead dog today that would stop the dog getting hit by a car in two week's time...

OrdsallChord · 14/10/2024 15:47

I know it's difficult for some MNers to grasp, but everyone's job is different

If MN as a collective understood this better, the threads about remote working would be much shorter!

Yalta · 14/10/2024 15:54

You yourself could have got a belt or piece of rope or scarf and got the dog from your back garden and then led it through the house and given it to the person at the door to wait for the dog warden. Unless you live in a house with several acres of back garden it would have taken you 5 minutes and the owner would have been incredibly grateful and you could then tell them to look for holes in their fence.

We were so grateful to a person who lived at the top of our road who took ddog in and the motorists who had stopped to rescue dog who was running up the middle of our road trying to escape the fireworks someone had been setting off.

When we came back we found the back door on the ground and the side gate on the ground and dog nowhere to be seen. The phone was ringing and it was a guy who lived at the top of our road who had ddog. He had called the number on her collar over and over till I answered

It’s good Karma to help. Leaving a dog to be injured is not the actions of someone who when people see something that might help you in the future they will just turn away.

Yes the owner should sort out how the dog is getting out but in the instant it is already escaped then you do your best to help it.

Looked out of my kitchen window and found some small horses chomping on my lawn. Someone had damaged the fence of a field and driven off and the horses had wandered up the road and into my back garden when they saw the big grass area. Helped take them back to the local equestrian centre and got a cup of coffee and a toasted Sandwich and found a few friends as my reward

phoenixrosehere · 14/10/2024 15:56

sharpclawedkitten · 14/10/2024 15:45

I know it's difficult for some MNers to grasp, but everyone's job is different.

And I'm wondering how, even if I helped someone with an off-lead dog today that would stop the dog getting hit by a car in two week's time...

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Especially one that is constantly escaping.

Boomer55 · 14/10/2024 15:57

If it’s their dog, it’s their responsibility to keep it safe. Not your problem. 🙂

thoonerismspread · 14/10/2024 16:07

sharpclawedkitten · 14/10/2024 15:45

I know it's difficult for some MNers to grasp, but everyone's job is different.

And I'm wondering how, even if I helped someone with an off-lead dog today that would stop the dog getting hit by a car in two week's time...

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Damn, silly me-I thought all jobs were exactly the same!

OrdsallChord · 14/10/2024 16:25

Yalta · 14/10/2024 15:54

You yourself could have got a belt or piece of rope or scarf and got the dog from your back garden and then led it through the house and given it to the person at the door to wait for the dog warden. Unless you live in a house with several acres of back garden it would have taken you 5 minutes and the owner would have been incredibly grateful and you could then tell them to look for holes in their fence.

We were so grateful to a person who lived at the top of our road who took ddog in and the motorists who had stopped to rescue dog who was running up the middle of our road trying to escape the fireworks someone had been setting off.

When we came back we found the back door on the ground and the side gate on the ground and dog nowhere to be seen. The phone was ringing and it was a guy who lived at the top of our road who had ddog. He had called the number on her collar over and over till I answered

It’s good Karma to help. Leaving a dog to be injured is not the actions of someone who when people see something that might help you in the future they will just turn away.

Yes the owner should sort out how the dog is getting out but in the instant it is already escaped then you do your best to help it.

Looked out of my kitchen window and found some small horses chomping on my lawn. Someone had damaged the fence of a field and driven off and the horses had wandered up the road and into my back garden when they saw the big grass area. Helped take them back to the local equestrian centre and got a cup of coffee and a toasted Sandwich and found a few friends as my reward

It's like Groundhog Day.

phoenixrosehere · 14/10/2024 16:46

OrdsallChord · 14/10/2024 16:25

It's like Groundhog Day.

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I didn’t know so many people have rope just lying around and nothing else to do to catch a random dog and are expected to drag it through their home because that’s just what everyone wants in their home to give it to some stranger who supposedly called the dog warden who never showed and isn’t the owner.

Wonder what would have happened if the actual owner came to OP and she told them she gave the dog to this random guy and the dog was never seen again?

OrdsallChord · 14/10/2024 16:52

phoenixrosehere · 14/10/2024 16:46

I didn’t know so many people have rope just lying around and nothing else to do to catch a random dog and are expected to drag it through their home because that’s just what everyone wants in their home to give it to some stranger who supposedly called the dog warden who never showed and isn’t the owner.

Wonder what would have happened if the actual owner came to OP and she told them she gave the dog to this random guy and the dog was never seen again?

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Good point!

Bellatrixpure · 14/10/2024 19:13

Yalta · 14/10/2024 15:54

You yourself could have got a belt or piece of rope or scarf and got the dog from your back garden and then led it through the house and given it to the person at the door to wait for the dog warden. Unless you live in a house with several acres of back garden it would have taken you 5 minutes and the owner would have been incredibly grateful and you could then tell them to look for holes in their fence.

We were so grateful to a person who lived at the top of our road who took ddog in and the motorists who had stopped to rescue dog who was running up the middle of our road trying to escape the fireworks someone had been setting off.

When we came back we found the back door on the ground and the side gate on the ground and dog nowhere to be seen. The phone was ringing and it was a guy who lived at the top of our road who had ddog. He had called the number on her collar over and over till I answered

It’s good Karma to help. Leaving a dog to be injured is not the actions of someone who when people see something that might help you in the future they will just turn away.

Yes the owner should sort out how the dog is getting out but in the instant it is already escaped then you do your best to help it.

Looked out of my kitchen window and found some small horses chomping on my lawn. Someone had damaged the fence of a field and driven off and the horses had wandered up the road and into my back garden when they saw the big grass area. Helped take them back to the local equestrian centre and got a cup of coffee and a toasted Sandwich and found a few friends as my reward

the dog wasn’t injured in her back garden, it was injured another one of the million other times the owners neglected to keep it safe.

and no, why should anyone have to stop what they are getting paid to do, take time to find a piece of scarf or a belt that they no longer want ( because I’m sure as hell not using any of my good accessories) or even just a piece of rope ( again, don’t
have any spare rope just lying around)

nicr story about the horses, and nice that you had loads of time to take them back