Husband farting is giving me the ick

[Marriedtoafarter]

What can I do / say to stop my husband farting so much. He claims he can’t help it but I can hear he forces them out and they stink. I’ve said it isn’t fair for me to breathe in that air, said it gives me the ick, asked politely, asked sharply, asked so many times for it to stop and it does maybe for an hour or two but then he will fart again when we go to bed for example and it makes me shudder.

I love him so much but it makes me not want to cuddle or kiss him let alone anything else!!!

Any advice??? 😷

My parents used to have farting competitions when we were growing up. 🤣Eventually, we all joined in. It was good fun.

Has he always done it or just started?

If he's always done it you should have nipped it in the bud years ago. I've told
my husband not to ever do it (or burp) in front of me as it makes me feel sick!

It's BS to say he can't help it. My answer to that is you wouldn't just sit there and do that if you were in an interview!!!!

Such differing opinions on farting infront of a partner. I have some friends that will do it in a new boyfriend's company within a few weeks! and others that have never farted infront of their husband of 30 years. Personally I think if you are in an intimate relationship and you live together then you should be able to let it out in your own house.

IBS is really uncomfortable, like others have suggested, it's possibly lactose intolerance. It's also worth looking at the low fodmap diet, not easy to do, cutting out dairy but it depends how much he wants to improve things.

Personally I think if you are in an intimate relationship and you live together then you should be able to let it out in your own house.

I'd rather do it in front of a stranger than a lover, if a choice had to be made. Intimate doesn't mean "any gross-out behaviour is fine" to me and mine. In fact, we try to have higher standards in the home rather than lower standards.

People who are like "oh I had a boil on my arse and my OH lanced it," and "we are intimate, so we don't close the door when we shit" boggle my mind.

But who wants to be intimate with someone who keeps farting?

It's diffusing!

Honestly, next time he does it, tell him you've booked him a doctor's appointment to deal with his uncontrollable farting.

It might deliver a healthy dose of embarrassment. Especially if you say the doctor asked him to bring in a stool sample, and might book a colonoscopy.

I suspect the farting will be brought to a halt by that one.

I think some people are getting defensive for no reason. People fart, that's NOT the problem. Some people have to fart or can't contain it because they have a medical condition which is also NOT a problem. Some couples are comfortable farting in front of each other and is normal in their relationship. Also NOT a problem.

The OP's husband is deliberately forcing out stinky farts even though he knows his wife doesn't like it. He could help it if he chose but chooses not to. Which is disrespectful and is really the point of the OP. The OP has asked her husband not to do something, but he continues doing it, even though he knows it upsets her. If the OP had said, for example, her husband deliberately slammed the living room door every time he went in and out, some of the posters would have answered differently but have projected slightly due to the nature of the issue.

Exactly. Noone is saying farting is not allowed, everyone does it- it's natural. But purposely doing it right next to your partner so they can smell it is revolting.

Not here it isn't nor for most my family. But don't let ignorance impact your judgement.

He sounds quite repulsive. Ick.

Plus it really showcases male entitlement and misogyny this situation…the audacity of this man to behave in this gross way and still expect his wife to fancy him and want to have sex with him.

@Marblesbackagain

vast majority of people ARE able to control their farts

So the growing number of individuals with IBS, intolerances etc should ignore the ignorant comments?

Do you really think a comment comparing an adult to a 2 year old capacity isn't ableist ? Because I do.

So are you all constantly farting in work/school? Do you force them out because you feel a bit windy?

Your comment is disengenuous. Short of her inside his brain she doesn't know she assumes.