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Husband farting is giving me the ick

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Marriedtoafarter · 10/10/2024 08:04

What can I do / say to stop my husband farting so much. He claims he can’t help it but I can hear he forces them out and they stink. I’ve said it isn’t fair for me to breathe in that air, said it gives me the ick, asked politely, asked sharply, asked so many times for it to stop and it does maybe for an hour or two but then he will fart again when we go to bed for example and it makes me shudder.

I love him so much but it makes me not want to cuddle or kiss him let alone anything else!!!

Any advice??? 😷

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watertable · 10/10/2024 12:34

As per usual some ridiculous replies.

Apparently, if you dont want to deeply inhale your partner's smelly farts daily it means you dont love them, I presume that also applies to them burping in your face - you should relish that and consider it something beautiful or else you are "controlling". 😂

Fairslice · 10/10/2024 12:36

I would hate this. It's absolutely base. I've been with dh for 30 years and he's farted in front of me really rarely. He has a healthy diet and drinks a lot of water.

MrsSlocombesCat · 10/10/2024 12:37

I have always farted a lot and found the first few months of a relationship difficult because if I hold it in I get really uncomfortable. To those saying go the toilet it's not that simple, because when you get to the toilet it's gone back up and you can't do it. I'm lucky in that despite my excessive wind and IBS they rarely smell, possibly because I am vegetarian. One of the reasons I have stayed single for a long time is because I can't face going through all that again!

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 10/10/2024 12:42

Sepoctnov · 10/10/2024 11:56

Personally I'd hate to live in a home where I couldn't fart. I'd find this conversation incredibly controlling.

Would you tolerate a man saying this to a woman (farter)?

Yes of course! It's disrespectful for anyone to treat anyone else like this. Nobody is saying you must live in a home where you can't fart, they are saying go into another room and shut the door first.

SabreIsMyFave · 10/10/2024 12:48

Oh FGS. Another thread where the OP posts the first post and then doesn't come back. 🙄

Sepoctnov · 10/10/2024 12:54

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 10/10/2024 12:42

Yes of course! It's disrespectful for anyone to treat anyone else like this. Nobody is saying you must live in a home where you can't fart, they are saying go into another room and shut the door first.

Edited

Yes I agree and sympathise with OP being grossed out and she should absolutely ask him to fart elsewhere, ideally out of smelling range.

My comment about being controlling was on the suggested convo tips by another PP. But also I don't agree that farting in the home and office are comparable really.

Attelina · 10/10/2024 12:59

He wouldn't so that anywhere near a pretty young girl at work.

I've been married many years and maybe heard my husband fart once and he's never heard me fart as both of us would leave the room.

Our diets and digestive systems are very good and speaking for myself farting is not a regular occurrence.

letmego24 · 10/10/2024 13:12

SabreIsMyFave · 10/10/2024 12:48

Oh FGS. Another thread where the OP posts the first post and then doesn't come back. 🙄

The tone reminds me of the recent nappy thread ....

OceanSafari · 10/10/2024 13:58

Catza · 10/10/2024 08:54

It is not embarrassing for a lot of people, which is my point. Farting in public is seen as normal in Britain (and, I am guessing, in the US seeing how many slapsticks comedies include burping and farting jokes). Somehow, I went through 25 years of living in continental Europe never smelling any of my family members' farts or experiencing it on public transport. Yet, in the UK, I am routinely subjected to smelling someone's arse fumes.
Also my postgraduate knowledge of anatomy and physiology informs my opinion that a person with normal sphincter control can very much hold their farts for a few minutes until they are able to go to the toilet and release them there. Circumstances under which it is not possible may include severe digestive issues where the person is at high risk of pooping their pants as well as farting unexpectedly. Even then, there is usually a time delay between them feeling like they need to go and actually going.
If you can give me a scientifically-sound reason for why my comment is untrue, I will happily reconsider.

Edited

You have me in fits of giggles

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 10/10/2024 14:02

I agree you can definitely tell when someone is forcing them out.

It’s disgusting. Maybe he should check his diet as the smell is so bad, but I bet he doesn’t fart constantly around his boss.

lifebyfaith · 10/10/2024 14:19

An ex boyfriend was like this. I hadn't been with him long and found it horrible especially as my previous partners didn't do it in front of me and I never do in front of others. This ex just found it funny. He even laughed when I explained that I wanted some mystery and spark in a relationship and that I didn't like the deliberate farting and burping. He wasn't laughing when I ended the relationship as I had the ick so badly I couldn't come back from it.

dotdotdot22 · 10/10/2024 14:20

BabyR · 10/10/2024 08:09

Check his diet.

This. My husband was similar but has cut out dairy and has made so much difference. Secondly, does he wolf his food down? I feel like the more work done in the mouth, the less is needed in the gut. My sympathy as I know how revolting this is!!

GroovyChick87 · 10/10/2024 14:24

Tangerinenets · 10/10/2024 10:16

Not being unreasonable. It’s vile. Honestly of course we all fart but in 30 years my husband has never farted in front of me! I’d like to say the same but sadly can’t 😂

Never? That's so weird. I can't imagine being with someone so uptight.

BettyBardMacDonald · 10/10/2024 14:27

GroovyChick87 · 10/10/2024 14:24

Never? That's so weird. I can't imagine being with someone so uptight.

Having standards, self-respect and couth is not being "uptight."

I've never in my life heard a lover or any other male in my life do this. Nor they, me.

Tangerinenets · 10/10/2024 15:40

GroovyChick87 · 10/10/2024 14:24

Never? That's so weird. I can't imagine being with someone so uptight.

Eh? How is it weird? If you don’t fart you’re uptight? 😂😂😂😂. Heard it all now !

Abbyant · 11/10/2024 14:27

I found that if my dp had milk he stank and couldn’t stop farting and when I told him he couldn’t have milk for a week because I think that’s why he farts so much he agreed to try it and sure enough after a couple days he wasn’t as gaseous or smelly so he limits his intact of milk now.

Emmz1510 · 11/10/2024 14:27

Someone who produces that much smelly wind either has an illness or a dreadful diet. Everyone farts of course but it shouldn’t be that often or that foul if the diet is healthy.
He needs to rethink his lifestyle and/or see a doctor.

Sozzler · 11/10/2024 14:28

I have crohn's disease and fart a lot. They are loud but don't often smell. I can't help it. If I hold them in (which I obviously have to do in public but spend a lot of time going to the loo), I get awful stomache cramps. I hate seeing posts like this because it makes me wonder what my partner secretly thinks and I become very self-conscious about my health condition.
Some people are more gassy than others, some have food intolerances they are unaware of, some have IBS and some have IBD. Holding in gas can be very uncomfortable and painful for some people and if we can't let it out in our own homes, where can we?

Skyflymom · 11/10/2024 14:35

BabyR · 10/10/2024 08:09

Check his diet.

This!
It’s not normal to fart so much. Look into his dietary habits! Has he ever been checked for lactose intolerance? My son is lactose intolerant but sometimes just decides to eat what he likes annyway and deal with the consequences (which is extreme smelly farts amongst other things!)

PattiSmithsPattis · 11/10/2024 14:43

@Marriedtoafarter are you my sister in law 🤔

Russiandollsaresofullofthemselves · 11/10/2024 14:44

ffs! it’s a natural bodily function. I’m guessing you don’t fart and if you do they smell like roses?

Ozanj · 11/10/2024 14:48

Catza · 10/10/2024 08:37

Do you imply he has no sphincter control? He can't control gas production but every adult (and child from about the age of 2) can hold a fart until they get to the toilet. Farting in public is a choice.

Not everyone. I don’t have control of my farts which is fine when they don’t usually stink. When they do I really struggle.

teapotsarebetter · 11/10/2024 14:48

Pooping and urinating are also natural bodily functions, I dont wish to be standing right next to someone when they are doing it though.......

OhMyGodAChicken · 11/10/2024 14:54

BabyR · 10/10/2024 08:09

Check his diet.

OP shouldn't have to check his diet - she's not his mother or his doctor. If he has any respect for OP (which, frankly, it sounds like he doesn't) he should sort the problem himself.

MellowMallow · 11/10/2024 14:55

@OhMyGodAChicken

Surely they are eating the same things ? I think it's the beer fermenting in his gut causing this .

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