Husband farting is giving me the ick

[Marriedtoafarter]

What can I do / say to stop my husband farting so much. He claims he can’t help it but I can hear he forces them out and they stink. I’ve said it isn’t fair for me to breathe in that air, said it gives me the ick, asked politely, asked sharply, asked so many times for it to stop and it does maybe for an hour or two but then he will fart again when we go to bed for example and it makes me shudder.

I love him so much but it makes me not want to cuddle or kiss him let alone anything else!!!

Any advice??? 😷

Always a source of amusement in our house, especially the volume of some the dog produces, can sometimes hear him from another floor. Deliberately forcing them out is unreasonable though.

Actually crying at Europe and the husband who woke himself up

Then he needs to go to the bathroom/a different room and not constantly do it in OP’s face.

Can he change his diet? If you need to fart there is not much you can do to stop it but if he is farting so much there may be an issue with what he is putting into his body

Right.
And you don't create gas as a by product of digestion then?

Farting in public is a choice.

He's not in public he's at home though. Personally for me I get terrible wind and occasionally have to fart in public otherwise it feels my guts will explode. I always check that I'm not too close to anyone though!

I can see how you are grossed out OP and I would be asking him to try to move away from you to fart. In the grand scheme of things though I would let this one blow over😉

The pp was joking

’Gosh it must be so horrible for your colleagues, having you fart all the time in the office. Has anyone said anything?’

’No because I don’t fart in the off… Oh’

’So you can hold it in in a situation where you feel you need to respect the other people in the room and their right to not be faced with that kind of antisocial behaviour. Right.’

Think you’ve missed a joke there.

Personally I'd hate to live in a home where I couldn't fart. I'd find this conversation incredibly controlling.

Would you tolerate a man saying this to a woman (farter)?

Eat 15 dried apricots or better, drink 1ltr of apple juice then have a bowel explosion right in his face then walk away laughing

We’re married to the same man. It’s not just the smell, it’s the noise and the performance of it all. And the stupid facial expressions that go with.

The issue is not "you arent allowed to fart, ever" - it's "could you respect me enough to go in another room so I dont have to smell it". IF you are farting uncontrollably, and constantly then that should warrant seeking medical advice.

The same way we dont tend to take a crap in front of someone else because it's generally not nice for the other person.

There’s a time and a place for farting. At the table, in bed (whilst awake) or whilst you’re directly next to someone is nasty and unnecessary. But I wouldn’t want to live in a house where I couldn’t fart wherever I wanted (above places excepted) and wouldn’t expect anyone I live with to either.
I’m amused by those who think that farting in earshot of your partner shows a lack of respect. I have a deep respect for my husband which is precisely why I don’t expect him to hold a fart in just because I’m in the vicinity. Same in return. And if hearing your spouse fart could turn you off of having sex with them, perhaps you weren’t that attracted to them in the first place?

or whilst you’re directly next to someone is nasty and unnecessary

But this is what the OP is talking about! Not him farting in an entirely different room or whilst they're asleep. She's close enough to smell them and they stink- after a while, I would find that a massive turn off too. If every time I got close to my partner he was letting out gross smells it is a turn off

@Catza finding farts funny is not a uniquely British trait - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Le_P%C3%A9tomane

If you are investigating dietary causes I just want to say please don't ever cut out gluten without first being tested for celiac. It's a simple blood test in the first instance.

Some people get awful symptoms and some none at all but if you're celiac you should never be consuming a single crumb of gluten ever again. If he removes it without testing he won't have a diagnosis and if he ever wants to pursue one will need to put gluten back into his diet for six weeks. This can be very difficult after removing it.

I had terrible gas when I was eating gluten. I didn't really think much of it until I went gluten free and the gas stopped.

How do you stay with him? Or call him "dear/darling Partner"

Just the thought of it makes me so happy I am single

Yes. I’m aware, thanks. I was agreeing with that part.

Oh come on. It’s clear what she’s said - he’s not farting normally like we all do and having a normal amount of respect about it. He’s acting like a repulsive dickhead. I fart. My DH farts. It’s fine. We also don’t make the house constantly stink to the point it upsets the other one.

everybody farts. The deadly smell is diet. Too much meat and animal products, not enough vegetables.

He should be able to have a window of opportunity to get to the toilet or at least stick his arse out an open door or window? It sounds like he must have a bad diet and gut health as I don't think very frequent smelly farting is normal.
I don't know if they work but you can get OTC wind tablets. Maybe a probiotic drink or yoghurt might help.
It is not nice and he does have some control over it. I don't fart in public, and if I feel windy at home I go immediately to the toilet, arse first away from anyone's nose. If possible!

Yes I would. Anyone who thinks it is appropriate to fart in a space shared by others deserves to be told it's not appropriate. I can come up with plenty of examples where it is perfectly acceptable to tell someone they are being inappropriate and not being considered controlling. Like a recent thread where husband was watching porn and masturbating while his young daughter was asleep next to him. Would you call his partner controlling for asking him not to do it? I hope not.
Every house has a toilet, go and fart there. Nobody is asking you to never fart but be a dear and not do it when I am standing next to you.

Those of you who think farting is a perfectly acceptable public activity-do you teach your children the same?

Obviously an accidental fart is often extremely funny. And there are obviously couples who don't mind. But if one of the couple doesn't like it, surely holding it in for 30 seconds isn't too much to ask?