Husband farting is giving me the ick

[Marriedtoafarter]

What can I do / say to stop my husband farting so much. He claims he can’t help it but I can hear he forces them out and they stink. I’ve said it isn’t fair for me to breathe in that air, said it gives me the ick, asked politely, asked sharply, asked so many times for it to stop and it does maybe for an hour or two but then he will fart again when we go to bed for example and it makes me shudder.

I love him so much but it makes me not want to cuddle or kiss him let alone anything else!!!

Any advice??? 😷

Very occasionally is one thing. This is frequent and repeated. If the world was really full of people who can't possibly help it to the extent and frequency the OP describes, then every office, gym, bus, train, theatre would smell like Satan's privy. Yet somehow, other than the occasional whiff, they dont. Which suggests the vast majority of people are able to control it most of the time when they choose. It's entirely possible the OPs H is part of a tiny minority who passes through life sounding like the brass section of a particularly poor and maladorous orchestra, but unless he is ill or needs to rethink his diet, unlikely. And he clearly doesn't see it as a deeply embarrassing thing, at least not in front of his wife.

Not being unreasonable. It’s vile. Honestly of course we all fart but in 30 years my husband has never farted in front of me! I’d like to say the same but sadly can’t 😂

If he doesnt force them out at work, or in front of friends, or in the pub, then he is showing how little he thinks of you. It's contempt. And it won't change.

Is this true or one of those odd threads?

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Honestly, why are you even still in a relationship with this guy?

Even if he does need to do it a lot, he needs to do them internally or go to the bathroom. It's gross and would totally kill my attraction.
God the way some men expect us to want sex with them when they act like this

Yes, as pp have said, he would never do this in a work meeting, or in front of a super hot woman he wanted to sleep with. (If he would, then he actually has a medical problem that needs to be sorted).
So the issue really is his disrespect for you. I think you need to sit him down and explain this to him.

If it's true then ask him to stop drinking beer and eating shit and to drink pints of water.

Good grief - farting is a natural function. Do you seriously expect people to believe that you never fart?

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If he’s doing it to annoy you that’s one thing, but he might have a genuine issue with his stomach/diet that needs to be addressed. Excessive wind can be a symptom of loads of digestive complaints.
i also fart a lot, my stomach is awful, I have tried so much and if I keep it in it comes out anyway and is really uncomfortable.

No he wouldn’t, but keeping it in is really uncomfortable.

Exactly! everyone sometimes gets wind- completely normal, but most people have the decency to leave the room to release it (go to the loo) or hold it in. If they didnt, every work place would permanently stink of cabbage and rotten eggs constantly- especially in small offices with lots of people.

It sounds to me like he enjoys doing it to get a reaction or thinks it's funny. Its just gross - noone wants to smell farts all the time and if its really that bad that he cant hold it in then he needs to see his doctor because its not normal to be gassy all the damn time and is a major warning sign of IBS or other things.

I feel for him (and you). I'm the party pants in our house and hubby hates it.

I can’t stop laughing at the post about how no one farts in Europe. Sorry OP, no advice. Farting isn’t just a male thing though. I (a woman) have been the first to fart in front of a partner in pretty much all relationships. I grew up in a family where farts were funny. In my current relationship they’re a source of amusement particularly because, in addition to human farts, we have a very flatulent pug. Every time anyone farts we shout TAX (because Denmark has started taxing cow farts/agricultural emissions). Maybe you could impose such a tax on your DH?

Maybe there's something abnormal with my body, but if I need to fart, I don't have enough warning to get up and leave the room before letting rip. I could usually manage to let one out quietly if I was in a meeting or a waiting room, but quite honestly, I expect to be able to fart when and where I need to in my own home. I'm afraid that I also find a good loud fart - whoever produces it - quite funny.

Try getting lactose free milk and cheese for a while. See if that helps.
I also find it gross.
We all get wind sometimes and cant be helped, but if someone has it all the time, its likely a food intolerance and lots of people don't realise it.

Sorry. I’m laughing 🤣

Same. I told my husband that I just really couldn't be sexually attracted to someone who farted around me, and it put me off sex with him. Weirdly that seemed to help.

Either - he's doing it on purpose because he's one of those stupid men who thinks its hilarious

Or, he has a medical issue that needs to be sorted/ an appalling diet. If its this he would be well advised to seek medical help as being constantly gassy and emitting foul smelling gas is a sign of poor bowel health which could lead to more serious issues down the line.

I will never understand why people think farting is hilarious. Do those people also invite others in to the toilet after they've had a shit to have a good sniff of it?- after all, it's so "funny" right?

Gross.

Mm OP sounds familiar ???

If you've got enough sphincter control to restrict the volume of a fart in a meeting, then surely you can keep it contained until you step outside the room.

Although, I have to say, you are very bold to let one go in a meeting...not many people could be confident that it wouldn't trumpet out at top volume.

Exactly. He can’t be bothered to make an effort.

There need to be some consequences that make him change his attitude.

@DecafGreen Not really. I find I fart much more immediately after a meal, and would find it hard to get out of my chair and out of the room before my wind erupts. I don't often need to fart in a meeting, but the fact that I can control my sphincter to the extent of not releasing a real eye watering rip snorter in public doesn't mean that I can hold it in for long enough to enable me to leave the room. I've always tried not to fart loudly in public but I must admit that on more than one occasion I've dropped a real belter when I've been in Sainsburys with my husband and turned to him and told him off loudly for farting in public 😆😆