He called a wasp a moron at dinner

[PrueHal]

Ok, this isn't a serious thread exactly just a weird moment

So I was having dinner with my partner, a very nice outdoor meal. Very romantic and looking into each other's eyes etc.

Then a wasp came along and dropped into his wine. He responded by saying 'get out of there you moron' which caused the couple next to us of stop talking and stare at him then me. He then gave the wasp a small pep talk after rescuing it.

I felt embarrassed as I felt it was a really OTT response! I wanted to say was it really necessary to verbally abuse that wasp but seemed an odd thing to say...it just felt like a very angry response

You're not going out with this guy are you OP?

HRTFT but has anyone mentioned Ben Stiller as Rachel’s angry date in Friends? Sprung to mind immediately 😂

@Youcantcallacatspider

you beat me to it! Hahaha

I really hope not!

Great episode btw, love Ben Stiller.

Perhaps I've misunderstood, but the fact he rescued it and gave it a pep talk would indicate he's a good person who cares about the world around him.
From the sounds of it, you need to worry less about what people around you think. Perhaps they thought he was talking to you which is why they looked.

I'd more far more embarrassed by posting this then him calling a wasp a name.

Moron is not a good word. Anywhere.

I think I like your bf, he sounds lovely!

I had a wasp chasing me round the kitchen the other day while I was on the phone to DD. I didn't call it a moron but I did repeatedly say "oh just fuck off will you!" while trying to shoo it out of the window. I have little chats with most animals to be honest and i really don't care who hears me

Moron is very tame. I absolutely hate wasps. He was very tame

I actually love the idea of your DP calling the wasp a moron then giving it a pep talk 😂this would have made me laugh (in a good way) if I saw this happen at another table while eating

No, you can’t build a boyfriend. But there is a happy medium between someone boring the face off you and someone else showing you up on a regular basis. I think the example you’ve given does make you sound a bit bonkers because it’s not particularly extreme, but in the same way that being bored by your partner isn’t a good thing, being embarrassed by him isn’t a good thing either.

He’s not likely to change, so the question you should ask yourself is whether you can either adjust your attitude to not care what anyone else thinks, or you can cope with him embarrassing you every now and again without you starting to resent him for it.

Great post. Thank you.

They probably thought he was saying it to you.

If the wasp was so upset at such unkind language, I’m surprised it didn’t sting him after he fished it out.

I would find this hilarious!

OP question - if the other people hadn’t looked and the restaurant was empty how would you have felt? Is this more about how other people perceive you both rather than the actual situation?

If you're worried about about the word "moron", it would only be perceived as awful if he said it to a person, so as long as he's not doing that I think you're fine. He did rescue it after all.

I agree that the reason other diners reacted was because they thought he was talking to a person rather than a wasp.

I do kinda get where you're coming from I think because DH has a habit of saying angrily "BASTARD!" and more recently "ASSHOLE" whenever something goes even slightly wrong. Most of the time I find it a complete overreaction and I dislike the aggressive tone. He's an otherwise good guy though and he's not going to stop doing it so I try and ignore it.

I wouldn't think anything of it. It's the kind of thing I would do.

I'd have called the wasp and absolute cunt!
He sounds exceptionally restrained.
Surely it could've been made light-hearted with the other couple. Unless they're that sour and miserable. In which case who cares what they thought.

I tell them to fuck off if they come in the door next to my desk..

And so far, 100% of the time, they do. I assume it because the first thing they meet is me making a big noise at them, not that they understand the concept of 'fuck off'.

I did it in a cafe the other day (fortunately empty except staff, me and DP). Much astonishment that a/I talk to wasps and b/ it did fuck off, about turned and flew straight back out the way it came in.

I didn't mean to... obviously, I just forgot where I was for a moment. The waitress said 'er are you some sort of wasp whisperer' and I said 'no no, whispering is no good you HAVE to be firm with them!'...

Can confirm, does not work on hornets :( They just tell me to shut up and get back under my safety duvet or else.

"get the fuck out of here you fucking cunt you"

Is what I said to the fly that refused to fly out the door I was holding open for the fucking idiot...
Buzzy twatting twat.

I should find him an apologise for verbally assaulting him I my efforts to release him from my kitchen.

#StopVerballyAssaultingInsects.
#InsectsHaveFeelingsToo
#EmotionalSupportSpanielsForBees

Wtf did I just read 🤣

I verbally abused a wasp only yesterday. I spent 10 minutes trying to herd it out of the open back door, after which I told it it was the stupidest wasp I’d ever seen and to stop being a twat… suddenly it flew to the door an buzzed off.

I think basically I had an aggressive relative in my life growing up and it reminded me of this.

People are saying I'm sensitive but now I've thought about i think this is why it bothered me. My partner isn't my relative.

Wonder if bf is posting somewhere about @PrueHal asking if he should dump her for over reacting to him calling a wasp a moron before rescuing it and giving it a pep talk.

Odd that you are focusing on his initial response to the insect in his wine more than the fact he saved the insect and talked to it.

Have called brambles many sweary words and actually did call a spider a twat for crawling directly back into the bath from which I just rescued it (put it on the floor the 2nd time)